Quips and Tips for Spiritual Seekers

A spiritual marriage is more than making a wedding vow before God, attending church on Sundays, or praying and meditating together. While these practices enhance spirituality they are not the most important qualities of a spiritual relationship. How a couple treats each other on a daily basis, through the twists and turns of matrimony, determines whether they have an ego based relationship or a sacred union.

Spirituality involves going beyond worldly pursuits and above perceptions to see the infinite soul in another. As Mohandas Gandhi once said, “Spiritual relationship is far more precious than physical. Physical relationship divorced from spiritual is body without soul.”

A couple doesn’t have to be formally religious or involved in spiritual practices to embody the basic principles found in many religious and spiritual philosophies around the world. They just have to love unconditionally and communicate from their heart and soul. With life’s daily responsibilities and challenges it’s not always that simple, but by adopting the 7 qualities of a spiritual marriage below, it does become easier. And if you’re interested in techniques offered in Gay Hendrick’s book, Spirit-Centered Relationships, click the book image above.

7 Qualities of a Spiritual Marriage

1. Acceptance. Accepting your spouse as he or she is, flaws and all, is an act of spiritual love. Judgment is an ego device which divides people. Acceptance is welcoming and heartwarming. It involves looking beyond a person’s weaknesses to the heart of their strengths.

2. Appreciation. Couples who appreciate each other and their contributions to the world, their relationship and the household, bond on a deeper level than couples who focus on what’s missing, what wasn’t done or what could have been. Showing appreciation involves acknowledging through words or actions how much you love and value your spouse.

3. Generosity. Generously giving love, time, attention and affection is a way of sharing your soul with another. These acts of generosity encourage love to blossom in a marriage; without them, relationships whither.

4. Compassion. Compassion is at the heart of many spiritual traditions, particularly Christianity and Buddhism. Understanding with love and empathy, what your spouse is experiencing when facing difficult or challenging times, blankets your relationship with spiritual love.

5. Amusement. Laughing softens the heart and eases the mind. Spouses who laugh together and don’t take life too seriously experience ease and flow in their relationship.

6. Neutrality. Taking responsibility for your actions, reactions and feelings allows you to communicate from a more neutral place. Couples who own their “stuff” don’t get caught in blame games or emotional outbursts. There is less drama and more room for a spiritual connection.

7. Forgiveness. Forgiving others is one of the highest acts of spiritual love available as it removes all judgment, blame and pain. It creates a space where acceptance, appreciation and love can bloom. When spouses forgive each other for making mistakes, they see the innocence in each other’s hearts.

What other qualities of a spiritual marriage have you experienced? Please share below – we’d love to hear from you.

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