When we create and manifest desires it’s important to let go and trust the process. If we know deep in our heart that we will be guided to the appropriate people, circumstances and means for making our dreams come true, we relax and serendipity takes over.
“The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred…unforeseen incidents, meetings, and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.” ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
So how do people let go and trust that their vision will manifest without holding on to it tightly and controlling all the details? By trusting themselves, trusting the God of their heart, and trusting the whole creating and manifesting process. I’ve shared my insights below, but for information on how to fully let go and release anything from self-defeating thoughts and habits to anxiety, guilt and heartache, click on the image of Guy Finley’s book, The Secret of Letting Go.
Letting Go of Control
Once you know what it is you want and you’ve envisioned your creation, it’s time to let it go – to your spiritual self, higher power, the Universe or whatever you trust is there to support your highest good.
If we hold onto a specific plan of exactly how we want it to be we narrow our focus and we miss out on the many other possibilities available to us. When left to our own physical and mental devices we can only go so far. We can set goals, write down the steps required to get there, and take action, but we can’t orchestrate the perfect timing for events to unfold, or attract the ideal people and circumstances into our life. We may also be limited in terms of what exact outcome is in our best interest. Sure at some point in time we may think we know what is best for us – but do we really? How often have conditions out of our control changed and something better than we imagined took its place? That’s the key – letting go of control – handing the wheel over to a better, more experienced driver.
Guided Imagery for Letting Go
Letting go of the need to control feels wonderful. All the weight of responsibility is gently taken from your shoulders and you release a sigh of ease. Here is a guided imagery exercise for letting go of your creation:
- Envision your goal out in front of you – see it in all its glorious details.
- Imagine having achieved this goal – stay in present time, but experience what it would feel like to have this goal.
- Create an image of a pink helium balloon out in front of you and hold onto the string – feel the tug of the balloon.
- Put your goal in the balloon – place all aspects of your vision into the helium balloon.
- Let go of the string – watch your balloon soar high into the sky where the Universe is waiting to embrace it and support its manifestation.
Trust the Process
Letting go doesn’t mean we don’t do anything to move towards our goals; it means we give them room to unfold naturally. Wayne Dyer and others have used the analogy of planting a tree. Once you’ve planted an acorn in the ground, you don’t dig it up every day to see if it’s growing. You water it and feed it, but you trust that it is doing what it needs to and that one day it will sprout and grow into a large tree.
The same process needs to be used with goals and dreams. You have an idea, goal or vision. You plant the seeds by envisioning the goal and then let it go and trust your intuition on what action to take. If you hold on too tightly and try to control all the details, you might interfere with divine guidance.
Trusting the process involves being connected to the God of your heart. This can be done through prayer, meditation or visualization. When we are spiritually centered we naturally let go and trust that things will work out – that all the details will be taken care of and we will know what to do and when to do it.
Then it’s just a matter of being patient and waiting for it to unfold in a way that’s perfect for us. It may not happen exactly as we had planned and the timing may be different than we expected, but in the end, when we let go of the outcome and trust the process, miracles materialize.
Do you have any questions or examples of how to let go and trust as you create and manifest desires? Please share below.
Hello Zaeem,
While I believe in miracles and know that anything is possible, I’m not sure what it would take to grow in height (particularly if body is at it’s normal genetic height already). But if it is possible to increase your height through visualization and law of attraction methods, it would depend on your thoughts and feelings during the day.
When you think about your goal, are you seeing the possibility and trusting that if it’s in your best interest it will happen? Or are you fretting about your height and in a vibration of ‘wanting’ ‘hoping’ ‘seeking’?
Lettting go of the outcome means trusting that if this is what your soul wants it will happen. If it is your ego that wants to grow in height, it most likely won’t happen.
I would spend some time reflecting on why you want to grow taller. Is it because
you will feel more attractive, confident, self-assured etc.? If so, set your intention to feel that (law of attraction is all about energy vibration attracting similar vibrations). It doesn’t matter what a person looks like on the outside; if they feel attractive and confident, they radiate it outwards and others see them in that light.
All the best with it,
Gini
do yoy think this can work for height increase. I am a 17 year old boy desperate for a few additional inches of height. i have been doing self hypnosis sessions for 2 months for height gain but to no avail. it maybe because I never let go of it and kept on thinking about it during the entire course of the day. IS that what has been an obstruction to my accomplishment? AND if i let go, will I manifest my desire for certain also expediting the process of manifestation..
Hello Jennifer,
It sounds as though there is a lot stirring within you around Matt and your feelings. This is all good – the awareness of the attraction, the sadness, the guilt for focusing on lack etc. is all healthy. It’s when we’re not aware of what’s going on within us that we tend to sabotage.
It’s natural to feel sad about letting someone go or letting a dream/wish go. I suggest you honor that, but at the same time wrap it in self-love and with the higher knowing that this (Matt) or something better is on the way. See if you can feel both at the same time. This will help you to move through the sadness and into trust and enthusiasm for what is on it’s way (don’t you just love surprises:)
I don’t know the whole story of you and Matt, but if you have been intimate and are attracted to each other, I’m wondering why you two are not in a romantic relationship. Have you talked about it to Matt? Does he have reasons for not wanting to go there? It may be worth exploring between the two of you to see if there are fears in the way, that when addressed, can be overcome.
In the meantime, I highly recommend focusing on self-love. I believe that if we don’t love ourselves fully, we won’t allow someone else into our life who loves us (or we will attract someone who is not able to commit or express love fully). Also, as you fill with the feeling and vibration of self-love you will feel happy with or without a romantic partner (and you will glow with love and easily attract suitable partners).
Here are a couple of articles on self-love:
~ Self-Love
~ Open Your Heart with Self Love
Take care,
Gini
Thank you Gini for your thoughts. I don’t know why, even though, like you ask :
“If you could have the type of relationship you want with Matt, but with someone else who is just as wonderful (or even better!), would you go for it?” and my answer is yes, I feel as letting go of the possibility with Matt is such a jagged pill to swallow.
Do you think it has more to do with my self love?
Does it make a difference in the scenario if he and I have already been intimate? And we are both attracted to each other ?
On another note, its hard not to feel guilty when I feel sad because I know that when I am sad/ focusing on my lack, I attract that.
Thank you for listening!
Hello Jennifer,
This is a tricky one because you want a specific type of relationship with a specific person. We can’t create and manifest for other people so if it’s not what Matt wants or what is in his highest interest, no matter how you set this intention or let it go, it won’t manifest (or if it does, if Matt is not conscious about his creations, then it won’t work out in the long run).
If you could have the type of relationship you want with Matt, but with someone else who is just as wonderful, would you go for it? I ask this, because the best way to manifest an ideal relationship is to touch into the vision and essence of the relationship without focusing on a specific person (unless you are in a romantic relationship already with the person and you just want to make it better somehow).
Spend a few minutes imagining what qualities you value in a person (like the ones in Matt) and how you would like to relate to the other person and experience the romantic relationship. Put these images into a balloon like I suggested in the article (makes it easer for the mind and body to let go visioning the release of a balloon). Let go of your wish up to the Universe with the higher knowing that if you can allow it into your life, it will show up when the timing is ready.
If Matt is the ideal person for you and you for him, then something will trigger in him and the two of you will move into that type of relationship. If he is not ideal for you or you for him, someone better suited for you will show up in your life. It’s all about trusting your higher self to lead and guide you to what’s best for you. We ‘think’ we know what is best but if we are only using our mind and body, we may miss out on what the heart and, more importantly, the soul wants.
Each time you feel as though something is missing in your life in the romance department, re-tune to your vision of the ideal partner and feel the higher trust within yourself that this person is on their way into your life (if we focus on what’s missing or wanting from a place of lack, we will get more of that. Whereas if we feel enthusiastic about what we know in our heart of hearts is coming to us, it manifests quicker).
I hope this helps,
Gini
What I want to create is to be in a fulfilling serious romantic relationship with my friend Matt.
i am curious how to
1. set this intention and let it go
and at the same time
2. keep focused on that being what I want
That’s excellent Melinda – keep on trusting as you create and manifest and you’ll continue to experience abundance!
Gini
This is an amazing and right on article! I’m am literally experiencing every bit of this article as we I write. I started a social group in October of last year and it has manifested itself into something amazing. I learned the meaning of organic as I’m letting this naturally unfold hopefully into a future business. Keep sharing such great wisdom and inspiration!
Hello Babe,
That’s excellent that you know that the Universe knows best for you! When I ‘let go’ of a goal/vision, I will often add the tag line: “For the best of everyone involved,” or “This or something better.”
I agree, that focusing too specifically will hinder the process. In regards to manifesting an ideal partner, I would focus on the essence of the person and relationship, rather than what they look like, where you will meet etc. So for example, I would list all the qualities I am interested in a partner (honest, outgoing, clear communicator, kind, financially stable, open minded, spiritual, creative etc.) and then list the qualties of the relationship I would like. Then I would turn inward into meditation and touch into the essence of these qualties – first with the person – sense and see energetically these qualites. Then with the relationship as a whole.
This process is creating the energetic blueprint so to speak – setting the direction and intention of what you want to manifest. Then you hand it over to your higher self and the Universe to take care of the details (where, when, how you meet). If you don’t let it go and you ‘try’ to make it happen or plan all the details, you might not be in the flow and miss a bigger opportunity. Effort and trying squash many dreams and manifestations. Ease, enthusiam and joy support the creation of dreams.
A visual tool for letting go is to imagine putting your goal/vision/intention into a pink helium balloon. Then when you are ready to let it go, let go of the string attached to the baloon and watch it soar up into the air and see it disappear out of sight as it goes up to the cosmos for the Universe to take care of it. Ask that the Universe support you to manifest this or something better (and trust that this will happen). Then go about enjoying the rest of your life.
Have fun manifesting,
Gini
Helo,
You said
“It may not happen exactly as we had planned and the timing may be different than we expected, but in the end, when we let go of the outcome and trust the process, miracles materialize.”
So , lets say I want to visualize this ideal person. I visualize them in specific restaurant, places,environment, time (evening, night). I visualize specificly HOW & where I met them (day/night/) & HOW our meeting was going smoothly.Then I let it go.Sometimes I don’t know how I want them to look like, & I don’t how I’m going to visualise a faceless person. LOL
So, when after I visualize this specificly, will the universe STILL can bring that ideal person, but this time different place,time,ect.?
I’m worried that if I focus too specificly…I’m missing out the better things the universe can offer.I’m also worried if I’m I ignoring the details, I will manifest something I don’t like.
For example, I don’t mind meeting that ideal person in real life, but I’m not that satisfied if I met them in through internet.
So, how to write & visualise/meditate something specific? What shall I do, in order to receive the BEST from the universe? How to get something better than my list? Because I know the universe KNOWS THE BEST!