Are you ready to start dating with soul? These Christian dating tips will bring spirituality into your single life, and help you enjoy your dates and potential mates!
“Dating often makes us feel miserable because we judge ourselves the whole time,” says Dr Paulette Sherman, author of Dating From the Inside Out. “You can hardly hear the other person because your mind chatter says, ‘If only I was thinner, I’d feel ready to date’ or ‘How can he like me if I don’t know a lot about politics?’ Remind yourself why you are a good catch! Everyone has things to improve on … but there are so many wonderful things about you. Concentrate on them to stay present and positive.”
My most important tip for Christian dating is to stop judging yourself and stop judging others! I don’t know what Jesus would do on a date, but I can almost guarantee he wouldn’t judge his appearance or his date’s words or actions. If you’re struggling with your dating life, you might find Dr Sherman’s Dating from the Inside Out: How to Use the Law of Attraction in Matters of the Heart helpful.
And, here are five ways to bring soul into your love life…
Christian Dating Tips – How to Bring Spirituality Into the Single Life
1. Trust God and suspend your expectations. If you’re a Christian, you know how important it is to have faith in God! And believe me, I know how difficult it can be to wait for the right person – I didn’t get married until I was 35. I longed for marriage for about ten years, but am so glad it took that long. My husband and I are perfect for each other, but we probably wouldn’t have been a happily married couple ten years earlier. So, to combine spirituality and love, let your relationship evolve. Don’t drive yourself mad if you haven’t met the right person yet, or if he doesn’t call the day after your first date. Don’t try to control every aspect your future. Instead, keep busy with your own life and let things happen naturally over time.
2. Stay focused on the positive aspects of being single and dating. Sure, dating can be stressful…but there’s a lot to enjoy about meeting potential partners! To bring spirituality into your single life, look for something good in all your dates. Find the balance between staying in tune with your gut instincts (don’t ignore those red flags — they exist even in Christian dating relationships!) and staying positive and hopeful.
3. Reveal who you are and what you love about your spiritual life. The more open and honest you are about who you are, the more your dates will open up about who they are. You’re at your best when discussing something you love, whether it’s your church, job, volunteer work, travel, or future plans. Let yourself be known spiritually, socially, emotionally, and professionally…and your perfect partner will stick around!
4. Build a strong friendship before falling helplessly in love. Here’s an interesting Christian dating tip from Christian Life Advisor: “Don’t forget that until you are married the person you are dating could be some one else’s future mate. When you begin dating someone there is a lot of pressure to move things along much too quickly. Choose to keep your relationship on a friendship level. The longer you can remain ‘just friends’, the better your relationship will be if you decide to get married at some point.”
5. Be positive about dating, love, and marriage. Challenge your negative beliefs about being single and dating! Take a piece of paper and write down every limiting thought that you have about dating and the opposite sex (for example, “I’ll never fall in love or find the right person.”). Then find an exception to it (“Singles meet and fall in love with the right people all the time!”). Negative beliefs about relationships hold you back from letting love in, which will stop you from building a strong relationship.
Don’t read these Christian dating tips once and forget about them: make them part of your life! Then, after you embark on a fabulous love relationship and get married, you can learn about praying with your partner 
I welcome your comments or questions below — especially if you’re curious about bringing spirituality into your single life…
It would be good to give some tips from scripture about relationships that lead to dating:
“The unequal yoke” phrases from 2 Cor 6 should lead us to find a christian spouse for example.