5 Ways to be Blissfully Happy as a Single Woman – Whitney Houston
If you’re sad that you’re a single woman, check out these ways to be blissfully happy – they’re based on inspiration from Whitney Houston. She has a lot to teach us about being spiritually, emotionally, and professionally fulfilled – whether or not we’re in love!
“I’d rather be alone than unhappy,” says Houston.
Being in a relationship doesn’t guarantee happiness…or even love. Many women are lonely, frustrated, and sad in their relationships or marriages; it’s far better to be single than stuck in a bad relationship. If you’re struggling with your singleness, read Single: The Art of Being Satisfied, Fulfilled and Independent. And, here are several ways to be happily single…
5 Ways to be Blissfully Happy as a Single Woman – Whitney Houston
1. Figure out the source of your feelings. Do you feel depressed, sad, or lonely because you’re single? Figure out why you want to be in a relationship; is it because your sister is married with three children or you feel like an outsider at work or home? Maybe you feel worthless, and think a relationship will validate you as a woman. To be happily single, you need to figure out why you want to be married.
2. Refuse to dwell on the lack of love in your life. What you focus on expands, my friends. Instead of dwelling on what you don’t have (and causing your lack to grow), stay focused on what you bring to all your relationships. For instance, do you wish you were a more successful woman? Make a list of your wonderful qualities and personality traits. The more you love and appreciate yourself, the happier you’ll be – and the more attractive you’ll be to others. Don’t think about what you lack; instead, concentrate on what you want in your life.
3. Connect to your source of power and inspiration. “I had the money, I had the cars,” Houston told Oprah Winfrey in a recent interview. “I had the house. Had the husband. Had the kid. And none of it was really that fulfilling. For a time, I was happy…but I needed that joy. I needed my joy back. I needed that peace that passes all understanding.” No matter how wonderful a boyfriend or husband is, he can’t give you peace, self-acceptance, or happiness. You need to stay connected with your own source of inspiration and fulfillment; you need to protect your sense of self when you’re in love.
4. Stay emotionally, physically, and professionally healthy. What books, people, events, Web sites, or groups help you feel connected to yourself? For instance, I love Sarah Ban Breathnach’s Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort of Joy – just opening that book up to a random page makes me feel more focused and in touch with who I am as a woman. If you want to be blissfully happy and single – especially if you’re hoping for a new romantic relationship – make sure you’re taking care of all aspects of your health.
5. Don’t wait for a man before you pursue the life of your dreams. Do you want to take a month-long vacation in Bora Bora, start your own business, buy a condo, or move to New York City to be a Rockett at Radio City Music Hall? You don’t need to be in a relationship to pursue your dreams! In fact, being involved with a man can make it more difficult to achieve your goals; women in relationships have to consider their partners’ needs, lifestyle, plans, and family.
Whatever you want to do with your life, do it now.
“I know from whence my help cometh,” says Houston. “I do know that. And I know that it’s strong within me. If ever I get low, I get weak, I know where I can turn to. I love the spirit of God so much that I’m not willing to trade that for anything. Because I feel joy that I can’t even speak about. And peace that passes all understanding.”
If you have any thoughts or questions on being blissfully happy as a single woman, please comment below…
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And, I totally agree with you, Lynesha: the more connected we stay to our true selves, the happier we’ll be. I couldn’t have said it better: “its really important for us to have our own dreams and goals to look forward to achieving and having that supportive partner is just an added welcomed bonus.”
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I particularly love number 4 because it speaks to the truth of what happens in so many relationships. Women tend to get so caught up in their partner and often times forget their true self. Its almost as if we lose our identity when we are in a relationship. I think its really important for us to have our own dreams and goals to look forward to achieving and having that supportive partner is just an added welcomed bonus. Whitney, you are a strong,blessed woman, and I appreciate you sharing your words of wisdom with the rest of us.
Whitney Houston is out there, she’s making an attempt, and she’s doing live performances. After all that negative press, yeah, that takes guts. I really hope the rest of her tour goes well. But there were sparkles of the real Whitney and the Birmingham Mail goes on to say that parts of the show were good, specially the last 20 minutes. Seems like people were more irritated because of the lengthy show. The technical issues couldn’t have been her fault.