Comments on: Overcoming an Unexpected Relationship Breakup – Eleanor Roosevelt

By: andrea

andrea — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 03:49:52 +0000

i had a relationship that broke up “pretty much” overnight. I did not see it coming My ex and i were moving along fine and got along really well and never even had an argument. I loved his family and he loved mine and we were fine together and had plans for the future….Then overnight my life changed. Completely out of the blue i was single again and still dont know why. If he wanted to break up with me then fine…..but when the breakup is sudden and unexpectant it is soooooo hard. It is easy when a breakup happens and u know why or have some idea why…BUT when it happens and u never get an answer why then it is torture. I am quite sensitive and have found it really hard to move on even though i know i need to. I have drove past his house and just looked at his house and remembered when i used to be there with him but that makes it soooo much harder. Can someone give me some ideas to what they have done if they have been “dumped unexpectantly”. It sounds terrible but it would be easier if he had died because then i know why i am not seeing him anymore…but when he hasnt died and still lives only 15 minutes away it is hard to handle. Thankyou for reading my letter.

By: Laurie PK

Laurie PK — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 18:29:38 +0000

Thanks, Gini.

Pulling back and looking at the breakup from a spiritual, philosophical perspective is difficult — but so important! I’ve survived a few relaitonship breakups, and looking back I think I would’ve coped better if I would’ve known to look at the bigger picture.

I think our fears and anxieties hold us back from mourning a breakup — unexpected or not — and moving forward into a fulfilling, happy life.

Thanks for being here, Gini! I know your comments and feedback resonate with people, even though most readers don’t comment…

Laurie
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By: Gini Grey

Gini Grey — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 20:59:48 +0000

Good topic, Laurie. I agree that not knowing why a relationship has suddenly ended can make it so much more difficult. People can get lost in their heads trying to figure it out instead of mourning the loss and moving forward.

Your tips for not taking it personally and letting go of unworthiness and inferiority are so helpful as those are the things that get triggered when we don’t know what went wrong or what happened – it’s easy to blame ourselves.

I’ve found it’s also really helpful to trust that it is happening for a positive reason in the long run. If one person doesn’t want to be in a relationship any longer (even if they’re not sure why but it just doesn’t feel right anymore) then it must be best for both (think law of attraction – if the vibe doesn’t work for one it can’t work for the other).

People come into our lives for many reasons – to love, learn, play, grow and so on, but not necessarily for life. Sometimes we need to go our own way in order to grow in a new direction (which we see in hindsight) so it helps if we can turn inward and connect to our higher self in order to see the bigger picture.
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