Comments on: Overcoming Fear and Connecting With Courage – Suze Orman and Cher http://theadventurouswriter.com/soar/overcoming-fear-suze-orman-cher/ Well-Behaved Women Rarely Make History Tue, 20 Mar 2012 22:24:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: 5 Stages of Leaving an Abusive Relationship – Tina Turner http://theadventurouswriter.com/soar/overcoming-fear-suze-orman-cher/comment-page-1/#comment-5714 5 Stages of Leaving an Abusive Relationship – Tina Turner Sun, 22 May 2011 14:45:00 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/soar/?p=282#comment-5714 [...] According to a new University of Illinois journal article, abused woman go through a five-step process of leaving abusive relationships. Below are the fives stages, based doctoral candidate Lyndal Khaw’s dissertation work at the U of I. If you want to leave your partner are scared, read Overcoming Fear – Suze Orman and Cher. [...] [...] According to a new University of Illinois journal article, abused woman go through a five-step process of leaving abusive relationships. Below are the fives stages, based doctoral candidate Lyndal Khaw’s dissertation work at the U of I. If you want to leave your partner are scared, read Overcoming Fear – Suze Orman and Cher. [...]

]]> By: Joyce McKillop http://theadventurouswriter.com/soar/overcoming-fear-suze-orman-cher/comment-page-1/#comment-5344 Joyce McKillop Wed, 09 Feb 2011 01:47:39 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/soar/?p=282#comment-5344 How do I overcome fear in my life? I've been married for 28 years, 2 kids, house, 2 cats and an arrogant, entitled, controlling husband. My way to overcome fear is to just get up and get out.......shaking, quaking and all. I will stutter, fall, quiver, but in a couple of years, what will it matter? I will be out of an abusive relationship and will have grown immensely. Honestly, the way out for me has been to truly delve internally and find the richness of my spirit and to take that and bring it out externally. God bless. How do I overcome fear in my life? I’ve been married for 28 years, 2 kids, house, 2 cats and an arrogant, entitled, controlling husband. My way to overcome fear is to just get up and get out…….shaking, quaking and all. I will stutter, fall, quiver, but in a couple of years, what will it matter? I will be out of an abusive relationship and will have grown immensely. Honestly, the way out for me has been to truly delve internally and find the richness of my spirit and to take that and bring it out externally. God bless.

]]> By: Laurie PK http://theadventurouswriter.com/soar/overcoming-fear-suze-orman-cher/comment-page-1/#comment-477 Laurie PK Tue, 18 Aug 2009 22:53:28 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/soar/?p=282#comment-477 Hi Florence, Hmmm.....that's a tough one. I can't think of anything to suggest for overcoming fear, since you've already tried what I'd suggest! Well, that's not quite true. In your comment above, you touched on so many different things! Aging, fears, trust, consistency, failures, encouraging others, no energy for yourself. It sounds like you're a whirlwind of all sorts of emotions. I suggest picking one or two things you'd like to achieve in your life. Maybe just ONE thing, such as making plans to travel somewhere in January or sometime. Then, break down that plan into all the baby steps it'll take to get there. Don't think about the emotional side of things -- feel your emotions, but don't let them overpower you. Focus on one thing at a time. Be practical about how to achieve that one thing. Write down the steps to get that one thing. When you've achieved that thing or when you feel you have it under control, then pick another thing to focus on. And remember: we all feel overwhelmed, scared, helpless, tired, unmotivated, and inconsistent at times! We all feel like failures sometimes. The goal isn't to avoid those feelings....it's to make things happen in your life. The goal is what Susan Jeffers said: "Feel the fear, and do it anyway!" Also, you need to take control of your life. Stop giving away your energy to the work that you're not happy with. If it drains you, stop encouraging others! Your people won't fail because you're not their cheerleaders...they'll find new cheerleaders (no offense, but we are replaceable!). Focus, my friend. Focus on one thing at a time. And -- have a happy birthday! Best wishes, and I welcome you back anytime :-) Laurie .-= Laurie PK´s last blog post..<a href="http://theadventurouswriter.com/soar/coping-with-negative-coworkers-who-drain-your-energy-anais-nin/" rel="nofollow">Coping With Negative Coworkers Who Drain Your Energy – Anais Nin</a> =-. Hi Florence,

Hmmm…..that’s a tough one. I can’t think of anything to suggest for overcoming fear, since you’ve already tried what I’d suggest!

Well, that’s not quite true. In your comment above, you touched on so many different things! Aging, fears, trust, consistency, failures, encouraging others, no energy for yourself. It sounds like you’re a whirlwind of all sorts of emotions.

I suggest picking one or two things you’d like to achieve in your life. Maybe just ONE thing, such as making plans to travel somewhere in January or sometime. Then, break down that plan into all the baby steps it’ll take to get there. Don’t think about the emotional side of things — feel your emotions, but don’t let them overpower you.

Focus on one thing at a time. Be practical about how to achieve that one thing. Write down the steps to get that one thing.

When you’ve achieved that thing or when you feel you have it under control, then pick another thing to focus on. And remember: we all feel overwhelmed, scared, helpless, tired, unmotivated, and inconsistent at times! We all feel like failures sometimes. The goal isn’t to avoid those feelings….it’s to make things happen in your life.

The goal is what Susan Jeffers said: “Feel the fear, and do it anyway!”

Also, you need to take control of your life. Stop giving away your energy to the work that you’re not happy with. If it drains you, stop encouraging others! Your people won’t fail because you’re not their cheerleaders…they’ll find new cheerleaders (no offense, but we are replaceable!).

Focus, my friend. Focus on one thing at a time. And — have a happy birthday!

Best wishes, and I welcome you back anytime :-)

Laurie
.-= Laurie PK´s last blog post..Coping With Negative Coworkers Who Drain Your Energy – Anais Nin =-.

]]> By: Florence S http://theadventurouswriter.com/soar/overcoming-fear-suze-orman-cher/comment-page-1/#comment-472 Florence S Tue, 18 Aug 2009 15:00:34 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/soar/?p=282#comment-472 I'm going to be 53 in two days and I struggle with many fears.I'm aware of most of them (family socializing, traveling, depression etc.). I find that TRUST is the core of my fears and it holds me back from succeeding in my personal/professional lifegoals. Finding the courage and consistancy within myself to overcome my fears is scarey. I've tried theraphy, self-help books, they only work for a short while. Where do I begin?, How do I get on track(and stay)? I escape through work I'm not happy with. H E L P! I encourage others, but don't have the energy to keep it for myself I’m going to be 53 in two days and I struggle with many fears.I’m aware of most of them (family socializing, traveling, depression etc.). I find that TRUST is the core of my fears and it holds me back from succeeding in my personal/professional lifegoals. Finding the courage and consistancy within myself to overcome my fears is scarey. I’ve tried theraphy, self-help books, they only work for a short while. Where do I begin?, How do I get on track(and stay)? I escape through work I’m not happy with. H E L P! I encourage others, but don’t have the energy to keep it for myself

]]> By: Laurie PK http://theadventurouswriter.com/soar/overcoming-fear-suze-orman-cher/comment-page-1/#comment-471 Laurie PK Tue, 18 Aug 2009 14:37:15 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/soar/?p=282#comment-471 It's great to hear from you, AC! I'm glad you feel empowered -- that's what See Jane Soar is all about. I just have to say: Regarding feeling neglectful to your kids and hubby if you're not there...that's a tough one! And, I suspect your feelings of guilt are coming from YOU, not them. They love you and need you, but they probably don't need you to be at their beck and call! That's not good for them -- or you. Taking time to pursue your goals and dreams is NOT selfish. It's a healthy, fulfilling, exciting thing to do. Becoming a well-balanced woman teaches your kids about well-balanced women, and shows them that life is never about just one thing. A health life balances your intellect, friends, spirituality, family, volunteer work -- whatever the most important things are to you. Thanks for being here, AC; I hope to see you around See Jane Soar again! Laurie It’s great to hear from you, AC! I’m glad you feel empowered — that’s what See Jane Soar is all about.

I just have to say: Regarding feeling neglectful to your kids and hubby if you’re not there…that’s a tough one! And, I suspect your feelings of guilt are coming from YOU, not them. They love you and need you, but they probably don’t need you to be at their beck and call! That’s not good for them — or you.

Taking time to pursue your goals and dreams is NOT selfish. It’s a healthy, fulfilling, exciting thing to do. Becoming a well-balanced woman teaches your kids about well-balanced women, and shows them that life is never about just one thing. A health life balances your intellect, friends, spirituality, family, volunteer work — whatever the most important things are to you.

Thanks for being here, AC; I hope to see you around See Jane Soar again!

Laurie

]]> By: AC Cornwall http://theadventurouswriter.com/soar/overcoming-fear-suze-orman-cher/comment-page-1/#comment-466 AC Cornwall Tue, 18 Aug 2009 02:00:04 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/soar/?p=282#comment-466 Hello, Thanks for the positive articles.I am 42 years old.I am married to a wonderful man of 17 years. We have 3 smart, funny, silly ,and active kids. Oh, we also recieve a wonderful gift (7 month old grand son)..I put my career on hold due to being a full time stay home mom plus part time work (retail).I feel that i put my life on hold because of (home life)..That was a fear..I was not confidence enough out of the home.I only felt positive being a mom ,wife and caretaker..You're article empowered me to want to experience being me.But i feel neglectful towards my husband and kids if i am not there.. Thanks for listening AC Cornwall Hello,
Thanks for the positive articles.I am 42 years old.I am married to a wonderful man of 17 years. We have 3 smart, funny, silly ,and active kids. Oh, we also recieve a wonderful gift (7 month old grand son)..I put my career on hold due to being a full time stay home mom plus part time work (retail).I feel that i put my life on hold because of (home life)..That was a fear..I was not confidence enough out of the home.I only felt positive being a mom ,wife and caretaker..You’re article empowered me to want to experience being me.But i feel neglectful towards my husband and kids if i am not there..
Thanks for listening
AC Cornwall

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