If you can’t trust the man you’re married to, who can you trust? If you don’t trust your husband because of suspected or real betrayal, don’t do these things…
These tips are inspired by a reader who doesn’t know if she should stay married…
“I recently found romantic emails and lewd pictures,” says F. on Is Your Husband Lying About Cheating? 4 Ways to Tell. “Since then I’m trying to grapple with the reality of a cheating husband, whether or not I want to stay in the relationship and if so, how to work towards a better marriage. If I decide to leave, get myself enough support and become financially stable for myself and my newborn.”
Deciding whether or not to leave because you don’t trust your husband isn’t as easy as it sounds. One of the worst things to do is make a snap decision…and one of the best things to do is read books like My Husband’s Affair Became the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me. If you want to stay married, learn from couples who survived and thrived after an affair.
And here are a few tips for wives who don’t trust their husbands…
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“My husband of 15 years has always included me in everything,” says A. “We were like best friends up until about a month ago. He says nothing is going on but I am so sick to my stomach. I found his cell phone with very graphic details about the girl and my husband. Does anyone please have any advice for me?”
Believe your husband’s lies over what you see, hear, and know
Betrayal is awful to live through. And when your husband lies to your face, you know you can’t trust him! But, you have to be strong. Trust your gut and reality. Don’t let yourself be deceived by his lies – that’s one of the worst things to do when you don’t trust your husband because it’ll keep you stuck in a bad marriage longer. That’ll negatively affect you and your kids. Plus, if he’s having an affair, he may pass a STD to you.
The best – and hardest – thing to do is accept reality as soon as possible. Of all the comments I get from readers, the most common ones are from women who refuse to accept that they simply can’t trust their husbands anymore. It’s easier in the short-term to keep limping along in the marriage.
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Let him get away with half-truths and deceptions
“On our cell phone bill, we were charged over usage charges due to too many text messages,” says P. “I noticed that he had texted a specific number over 200 times over the last two weeks. When I confronted him about it, he played it off like no big deal. I let a day go by before confronting again. He then told me he and a much younger friend met a couple of girls at a bar and my husband was just being the ‘wingman’ for his friend…. I need some advice on what to do or how to go about confronting him again.”
It’s tough to give tips when I don’t know anything about the husband’s or wife’s personality! But, I’d keep telling my husband that I feel scared, hurt, betrayed, confused, and frustrated. I’d keep asking him to be honest with me…and I’d keep checking those phone bills. I wouldn’t let him get away with brushing me off – I’d consider separation before accepting his lies.
Make a snap decision to leave or stay
On Should I Leave My Cheating Husband? The Best Reason to Stay Married, marriage coach Mort Fertel says marriage can get stronger after infidelity. Some marriages thrive after an affair; others wither away. Which will yours be? To find out, don’t make a snap or impulse decision about your future. One of the worst things to do when you don’t trust your husband is to make decisions that put you at a disadvantage (eg, moving out of the house and letting him stay). Instead of deciding right away, talk to people you trust.
Ask strangers on the internet what to do when you don’t trust your husband
My friends, you have to be really careful about asking for advice on the ‘net! The only people you should get marriage advice from are wise mentor-type people. Counselors, pastors, happily married folks, smart people you trust. When you ask strangers for advice, you could be mislead because people don’t know you, your husband, or your marriage. I don’t think anyone would deliberately mislead you (I hope they wouldn’t!), but they don’t know all the facts so they can’t give you as good advice as someone in person can.
If you don’t trust your husband but don’t have enough money to leave, read Money Tips for Women Who Want to Leave Their Husbands.
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