Comments on: How to Deal With Your Husband’s Ex-Wife http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/what-to-do-when-your-husbands-ex-wife-causes-marriage-problems/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=what-to-do-when-your-husbands-ex-wife-causes-marriage-problems Readers ask questions about love and marriage; I write articles peppered with quips and tips! Fri, 25 May 2012 11:46:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Sally http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/what-to-do-when-your-husbands-ex-wife-causes-marriage-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-37079 Sally Tue, 15 May 2012 09:16:00 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=194#comment-37079 My boyfriend's ex partner lives very near they have 2 children. She has a high flying job and goes away often and leaves the children stay with my boyfriend this is happening more after I met him.The children are aged 13 and 15. There is no notice and sometimes if we make plans to go away for a weekend and ex wants us to babysit then she sends texts saying she needs a break and asking for us to make arrangements for them, we have to cancel cos my boyfriend wants his kids to be ok and not left alone. We run them around and his ex texts to tell him to take of fetch them somewhere or school,doctor friends. The ex does not seem to want to look after them full time or take responsability and blames him if things go wrong or asks him to sort it out. She always asks for money and tells him how much pocket money to give them and rants if he doesn't by text. Though he has been very short of money and she is doing very very well , but she does not give money to him to feed the kids when she is gone for weeks at a time. When they were together he did a lot and I feel that they act as though they are still together but with no sex. We are making plans for us and my children to move in but his kids still have bedrooms in his house though they live very near, my boyfriend says he always wants them to have their home with him as well, but he also wants me to feel at home and for my kids to move in and this means but this has to mean taking the bedrooms, he cant see this and says everything will be fine. Am I being unreasonable to be worried and anxious as I feel not at home.What advice an anyone give me? Am I being unreasonable? My boyfriend says he does n ot like his ex but cares about his kids. My boyfriend’s ex partner lives very near they have 2 children. She has a high flying job and goes away often and leaves the children stay with my boyfriend this is happening more after I met him.The children are aged 13 and 15.
There is no notice and sometimes if we make plans to go away for a weekend and ex wants us to babysit then she sends texts saying she needs a break and asking for us to make arrangements for them, we have to cancel cos my boyfriend wants his kids to be ok and not left alone. We run them around and his ex texts to tell him to take of fetch them somewhere or school,doctor friends. The ex does not seem to want to look after them full time or take responsability and blames him if things go wrong or asks him to sort it out.
She always asks for money and tells him how much pocket money to give them and rants if he doesn’t by text. Though he has been very short of money and she is doing very very well , but she does not give money to him to feed the kids when she is gone for weeks at a time. When they were together he did a lot and I feel that they act as though they are still together but with no sex. We are making plans for us and my children to move in but his kids still have bedrooms in his house though they live very near, my boyfriend says he always wants them to have their home with him as well, but he also wants me to feel at home and for my kids to move in and this means but this has to mean taking the bedrooms, he cant see this and says everything will be fine. Am I being unreasonable to be worried and anxious as I feel not at home.What advice an anyone give me? Am I being unreasonable? My boyfriend says he does n ot like his ex but cares about his kids.

]]> By: over_here http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/what-to-do-when-your-husbands-ex-wife-causes-marriage-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-36828 over_here Wed, 09 May 2012 11:12:44 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=194#comment-36828 My fiance is in his late 50s and divorced his first wife 20 years ago. He was a peace corp volunteer in the Congo and this 17 yr old semi-literate village woman who already had an illegitimate kid by another foreigner latched onto him. Although 27, he fell for it when she got pregnant pretty fast, he felt obliged to marry her and take her to the US. She got the American passport she wanted, so after three years in the USA he divorced her because of her unreasonable behavior. This woman leeched off him and had a meal ticket for the rest of her life. She used the maintenance he had to pay for his biological kid plus her other one to buy herself a house, while he lived in rented accommodation and never managed to save any money. She still hangs around his extended family and tries to maintain contact with him. We don't live in the US but are overseas and he thinks that I am being unreasonable refusing to ever meet this leech. The woman has kept his name and I don't see why he needs any contact whatsoever with her. He still defends her if I criticize. Is he still carrying a torch for this woman and should I be concerned? My fiance is in his late 50s and divorced his first wife 20 years ago. He was a peace corp volunteer in the Congo and this 17 yr old semi-literate village woman who already had an illegitimate kid by another foreigner latched onto him. Although 27, he fell for it when she got pregnant pretty fast, he felt obliged to marry her and take her to the US. She got the American passport she wanted, so after three years in the USA he divorced her because of her unreasonable behavior. This woman leeched off him and had a meal ticket for the rest of her life. She used the maintenance he had to pay for his biological kid plus her other one to buy herself a house, while he lived in rented accommodation and never managed to save any money. She still hangs around his extended family and tries to maintain contact with him. We don’t live in the US but are overseas and he thinks that I am being unreasonable refusing to ever meet this leech. The woman has kept his name and I don’t see why he needs any contact whatsoever with her. He still defends her if I criticize. Is he still carrying a torch for this woman and should I be concerned?

]]> By: minge http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/what-to-do-when-your-husbands-ex-wife-causes-marriage-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-36508 minge Fri, 04 May 2012 04:57:40 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=194#comment-36508 My husband is having an affair with a just turned 22 year old girl...he is 40 1/2. I'm 46...My husband has asked for a divorce and told me that this was not going how he expected because I told him I would not accept full custody of our children that he would have joint custody. I am devastated that he has left us for this other girl and thinks he is "in love". I want the girl to know that he is not going to be footloose and fancy free but that he will be having his kids 3 days every week and he works in the evening the rest of the week so there just isn't going to be much time for her. I'm sure he is not telling her this...because he lied and did not tell her that we were still having sex during their six month affair while he lived at home...so here's the question??? I thought that I would send her a mother's day card congratulating her on her new found motherhood. What do you think? At least I'm not stalking her--- My husband is having an affair with a just turned 22 year old girl…he is 40 1/2. I’m 46…My husband has asked for a divorce and told me that this was not going how he expected because I told him I would not accept full custody of our children that he would have joint custody. I am devastated that he has left us for this other girl and thinks he is “in love”. I want the girl to know that he is not going to be footloose and fancy free but that he will be having his kids 3 days every week and he works in the evening the rest of the week so there just isn’t going to be much time for her. I’m sure he is not telling her this…because he lied and did not tell her that we were still having sex during their six month affair while he lived at home…so here’s the question??? I thought that I would send her a mother’s day card congratulating her on her new found motherhood. What do you think? At least I’m not stalking her—

]]> By: Amber http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/what-to-do-when-your-husbands-ex-wife-causes-marriage-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-36293 Amber Tue, 01 May 2012 22:01:29 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=194#comment-36293 I hate my husband's ex-wife! At first, she pretended to be nice...came to my side of the car...made small talk...about what? About her life with MY husband (boyfriend at the time). I eventually told her that I have nothing to say to her. She would call my husband non-stop (at least 2-3 times per week) just to talk "about *******" (my step-daughter). If he didn't want to talk, she would say things like "Are you okay? Why don't you want to talk to me?" She even would call him to ask him to pick up the paper for her before he went to pick up his daughter. If he said no...she would cry and do stupid stuff to try to get him to feel bad! Everytime we picked up ****** up, she would rush to the car and say whatever she could to make me angry....like "Sorry I forgot to call you on your birthday! I got you this small gift..." He told her that he didn't want her coming to the vehicle anymore because he didn't want anything to do with her. He had several conversations with her about not talking about anything except *******. She kept pushing and pushing and pushing.... I got in a verbal argument with her when I got out of the car to get ******* and she picked ******* up at age 7 and tried to walk past me. When I said "I'm going to take her from here. Please do not go near my vehicle." She FLIPPED and said "Are you saying that I cannot hug my daughter?????" I said "No, hug her here...I'm walking her to my vehicle." She stormed past me, put ******* in my car, buckled her in, then walked around to my husband who was sitting in the passenger seat. She started banging on his window because it was winter and said "You need to keep better control over this B*t**!" I told her to go screw herself. After that, my husband put it in writing to both her and the FOC that she was not to come to our vehicle anymore. Next time we saw her, she said "That's okay, I know where you live." Is that a threat?? She recently went to FOC and had an attorney for more parenting time. They granted her more parenting time and the referee is requiring that my husband have a verbal relationship with her....is that legal??? I hate my husband’s ex-wife!
At first, she pretended to be nice…came to my side of the car…made small talk…about what? About her life with MY husband (boyfriend at the time). I eventually told her that I have nothing to say to her.
She would call my husband non-stop (at least 2-3 times per week) just to talk “about *******” (my step-daughter). If he didn’t want to talk, she would say things like “Are you okay? Why don’t you want to talk to me?” She even would call him to ask him to pick up the paper for her before he went to pick up his daughter. If he said no…she would cry and do stupid stuff to try to get him to feel bad!
Everytime we picked up ****** up, she would rush to the car and say whatever she could to make me angry….like “Sorry I forgot to call you on your birthday! I got you this small gift…” He told her that he didn’t want her coming to the vehicle anymore because he didn’t want anything to do with her. He had several conversations with her about not talking about anything except *******. She kept pushing and pushing and pushing…. I got in a verbal argument with her when I got out of the car to get ******* and she picked ******* up at age 7 and tried to walk past me. When I said “I’m going to take her from here. Please do not go near my vehicle.” She FLIPPED and said “Are you saying that I cannot hug my daughter?????” I said “No, hug her here…I’m walking her to my vehicle.” She stormed past me, put ******* in my car, buckled her in, then walked around to my husband who was sitting in the passenger seat. She started banging on his window because it was winter and said “You need to keep better control over this B*t**!” I told her to go screw herself.
After that, my husband put it in writing to both her and the FOC that she was not to come to our vehicle anymore. Next time we saw her, she said “That’s okay, I know where you live.” Is that a threat??
She recently went to FOC and had an attorney for more parenting time. They granted her more parenting time and the referee is requiring that my husband have a verbal relationship with her….is that legal???

]]> By: Youmustbejoking http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/what-to-do-when-your-husbands-ex-wife-causes-marriage-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-35939 Youmustbejoking Thu, 26 Apr 2012 19:32:39 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=194#comment-35939 With all due respect, attempting to follow your advice only enabled my husband's ex to get close enough, to stab us both in the back, repeatedly. At first I thought it was great that she seemed ever so friendly, and seemed to hold a desire for us to "all get along." What I foolishly didn't realize that she had dumped my husband because she thought she could "do better", but what she was really doing was keeping him around as an "option", just in case things didn't work out! For the sake of my husband's children, I also saw nothing wrong with her continuing to show up at HIS family functions. We had no idea what a mistake that was until it was far too late. So, as soon as her 2nd marriage failed, she then proceeded to chase after my husband. Not only involved his children, but she involved HIS mom, dad, and sister, (ie., her evil minions) who she had convinced that my husband secretly wanted her back, and that I was the only thing standing in their way. Just fact that my husband had never objected to having his ex continue hanging around all the time, was all she needed to convince them that the reason was because he secretly wanted her back, and he was only staying with me out of "loyalty" and convinced them to play all kinds of nasty games to try to get me to leave him. When my husband attempted to call his family on their behavior? well, his own mother laughed and asked him how I was ever going to find out? My husband was so upset, he had to leave, and immediately called me, literally crying his eyes out that his own mother had betrayed him. When I called his mother on what she had done, she responded by telling me that I shouldn't worry, bercause they had it all worked out, and planned on taking care of me afterwards! Afterwards? You mean after they succeeded in their evil plot to break my husband and I up? That's when I started screaming, and informed her that before I would allow any of them to "take care of me", I would live in the sewers with the rats first, because I like rats a whole lot better than I like snakes! I was dumb enough to forgive them, and as soon as his psychotic ex broke up with with husband #3, they did it all over again! To say that I now hate my husband's family with an all consuming passion that knows no bounds would be an understatement, and even worse, I have no one to blame but myself. I didn't even meet my husband until after their divorce, and he warned me against having anything to do with her. He had told me all about how manipulative and underhanded she was, how she flirted outrageously with other guys practically from day one of their marriage, and never had a doubt she was looking to "better deal" him, and that he was miserable the entire time. Only thing that kept him from dumping her first, was that his religion only permits divorce for infidelity, which had to be proven, by no less than 2 witnesses, catching them in the act. There is no legitmate reason to have coffee with an ex, or have them in your marriage--at all. Not ex girlfriends, boyfriends, or ex spouses. Do so at your own risk. With all due respect, attempting to follow your advice only enabled my husband’s ex to get close enough, to stab us both in the back,
repeatedly.

At first I thought it was great that she seemed ever so friendly, and seemed to hold a desire for us to “all get along.” What I foolishly didn’t realize that she had dumped my husband because she thought she could “do better”, but what she was really doing was keeping him around as an “option”, just in case things didn’t work out!

For the sake of my husband’s children, I also saw nothing wrong with her continuing to show up at HIS family functions. We had no idea what a mistake that was until it was far too late.

So, as soon as her 2nd marriage failed, she then proceeded to chase after my husband. Not only involved his children, but she involved HIS mom, dad, and sister, (ie., her evil minions) who she had convinced that my husband secretly wanted her back, and that I was the only thing standing in their way. Just fact that my husband had never objected to having his ex continue hanging around all the time, was all she needed to convince them that the reason was because he secretly wanted her back, and he was only staying with me out of “loyalty” and convinced them to play all kinds of nasty games to try to get me to leave him.

When my husband attempted to call his family on their behavior? well, his own mother laughed and asked him how I was ever going to find out? My husband was so upset, he had to leave, and immediately called me, literally crying his eyes out that his own mother had betrayed him.

When I called his mother on what she had done, she responded by telling me that I shouldn’t worry, bercause they had it all worked out, and planned on taking care of me afterwards! Afterwards? You mean after they succeeded in their evil plot to break my husband and I up?

That’s when I started screaming, and informed her that before I would allow any of them to “take care of me”, I would live in the sewers with the rats first, because I like rats a whole lot better than I like snakes!

I was dumb enough to forgive them, and as soon as his psychotic ex broke up with with husband #3, they did it all over again!

To say that I now hate my husband’s family with an all consuming passion that knows no bounds would be an understatement, and even worse, I have no one to blame but myself. I didn’t even meet my husband until after their divorce, and he warned me against having anything to do with her. He had told me all about how manipulative and underhanded she was, how she flirted outrageously with other guys practically from day one of their marriage, and never had a doubt she was looking to “better deal” him, and that he was miserable the entire time. Only thing that kept him from dumping her first, was that his religion only permits divorce for infidelity, which had to be proven, by no less than 2 witnesses, catching them in the act.

There is no legitmate reason to have coffee with an ex, or have them in your marriage–at all. Not ex girlfriends, boyfriends, or ex spouses. Do so at your own risk.

]]> By: Marie http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/what-to-do-when-your-husbands-ex-wife-causes-marriage-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-35932 Marie Thu, 26 Apr 2012 14:35:34 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=194#comment-35932 Anna.... when she is expected to drop off the child at your home, lock the door!!! When she knocks, answer and block the door and do not let her in. OR, you pick up the child or meet at a public place -- like a grocery store parking lot... lots of ways to keep her out of your home. Laurie -- you are so correct. We cannot change anyone else, only ourself. This is so difficult. Lately I have been doing so much better at this but then there are those other days where I do not feel like I am doing well or have made progress in this respect. Overall, I know I have but I have to tough out the hard days. MY B/F recently told me he felt it was "petty" for me to request he speak with the x wife about her touching him.... I told him it was hurtful for him to think more of how she would feel about being spoken to than how I felt about her pawing at him... like he was taking sides. We finally did speak with ther and things are better with her keeping her hands to herself. He just didn't see it and I think it is because she had always been touchy with him as he never had set boundaries. She is used to having him to be with at family holidays, weddings, funerals, you name it. I live with him now and I am not interested in hanging out with her at any functions. I am courteous... this is necessary, but I do not want to be her BFF... she has been too nasty as have his sisters -- her BFFs. It is sad the sisters think they have to make a choice between us. Why can't they be nice to everyone and if the X has an issue with it then it is her issue and no one else's. I am steering clear and I will do everything to keep her out of our life and away from us. We both have 2 kids... and all the kids are adults with their own homes and lives. I have stopped trying to control situations so much -- read a great book on codependency -- to just let events happen is much better and a lot less stressful, and I can do this and my B/F and I can just steer clear if she is there. So much more comfortable for me and I hope for my B/F. Anyone have ideas on how to help myself become less resentful of her? I have it so much better than most of you... no visitation issues with kids or phone calls (that I know of, lol) She does follow us around at functions like our shadow and gets so angry when we just move away and do our own thing. She has no one in her life and not many friends or any for that matter (that I know of) except his two sisters. She just gets under my skin. I have been advised by others who have "been there done that" to pick my battles and just let some things go. Sometimes I just cannot keep my mouth shut.... I SO wish I could just keep my mouth shut sometimes! Any suggestins? Anna…. when she is expected to drop off the child at your home, lock the door!!! When she knocks, answer and block the door and do not let her in. OR, you pick up the child or meet at a public place — like a grocery store parking lot… lots of ways to keep her out of your home.

Laurie — you are so correct. We cannot change anyone else, only ourself. This is so difficult. Lately I have been doing so much better at this but then there are those other days where I do not feel like I am doing well or have made progress in this respect. Overall, I know I have but I have to tough out the hard days.

MY B/F recently told me he felt it was “petty” for me to request he speak with the x wife about her touching him…. I told him it was hurtful for him to think more of how she would feel about being spoken to than how I felt about her pawing at him… like he was taking sides. We finally did speak with ther and things are better with her keeping her hands to herself. He just didn’t see it and I think it is because she had always been touchy with him as he never had set boundaries. She is used to having him to be with at family holidays, weddings, funerals, you name it. I live with him now and I am not interested in hanging out with her at any functions. I am courteous… this is necessary, but I do not want to be her BFF… she has been too nasty as have his sisters — her BFFs.

It is sad the sisters think they have to make a choice between us. Why can’t they be nice to everyone and if the X has an issue with it then it is her issue and no one else’s. I am steering clear and I will do everything to keep her out of our life and away from us. We both have 2 kids… and all the kids are adults with their own homes and lives. I have stopped trying to control situations so much — read a great book on codependency — to just let events happen is much better and a lot less stressful, and I can do this and my B/F and I can just steer clear if she is there. So much more comfortable for me and I hope for my B/F.

Anyone have ideas on how to help myself become less resentful of her? I have it so much better than most of you… no visitation issues with kids or phone calls (that I know of, lol) She does follow us around at functions like our shadow and gets so angry when we just move away and do our own thing. She has no one in her life and not many friends or any for that matter (that I know of) except his two sisters. She just gets under my skin. I have been advised by others who have “been there done that” to pick my battles and just let some things go. Sometimes I just cannot keep my mouth shut…. I SO wish I could just keep my mouth shut sometimes! Any suggestins?

]]> By: shelly http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/what-to-do-when-your-husbands-ex-wife-causes-marriage-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-35780 shelly Tue, 24 Apr 2012 02:12:19 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=194#comment-35780 Hi everyone. I have been having issues with his ex. She has not had anything to do with him in 7 years. Now she does not have a man so she is finely letting him talk to his kids. OK so she texts him and the start talking about the past and sending pics of herself and of there wedding were they were kissing. Asking if He misses her. I told him this is not right. But he was scared to say anything to her because He thinks she will take the kids away again. He finally said that I did not like it so she stopped. But the other day she sent another pic of herself from back in the day. I do not get it. He does not ask for the pic she just sends them. And she is always saying she misses her friend meaning him. I do not trust her. Hi everyone. I have been having issues with his ex. She has not had anything to do with him in 7 years. Now she does not have a man so she is finely letting him talk to his kids. OK so she texts him and the start talking about the past and sending pics of herself and of there wedding were they were kissing. Asking if He misses her. I told him this is not right. But he was scared to say anything to her because He thinks she will take the kids away again. He finally said that I did not like it so she stopped. But the other day she sent another pic of herself from back in the day. I do not get it. He does not ask for the pic she just sends them. And she is always saying she misses her friend meaning him. I do not trust her.

]]> By: Kim http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/what-to-do-when-your-husbands-ex-wife-causes-marriage-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-35541 Kim Thu, 19 Apr 2012 22:27:06 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=194#comment-35541 They never go away. His ex and my hubby don't even have biological kids and she has been remarried for over 2 years to one of the men she cheated with ......... and still there she is. All over his facebook, e-mailing all the family, trying to get him to pay more for HER kids.... it's maddening They never go away. His ex and my hubby don’t even have biological kids and she has been remarried for over 2 years to one of the men she cheated with ……… and still there she is. All over his facebook, e-mailing all the family, trying to get him to pay more for HER kids….

it’s maddening

]]> By: Marie http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/what-to-do-when-your-husbands-ex-wife-causes-marriage-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-34614 Marie Fri, 06 Apr 2012 04:23:55 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=194#comment-34614 Fran... change your phone number!!! Chelly... Yeah! Good advice to keep this forum positive. (She probably is a toxic X ! lol) Michelle.... I feel your pain. My B/F's X is best friends with his sisters... she is at all of my B/F's family function. She and the sisters have been so hurtful... so I refused to have her in our home for any holidays or parties. I think even her grown son's spoke to her about her nasty mouth and behavior because she asked to speak to us (we were going to address the issue that night anyway!!!) and tried to smooth things over. She would not, however, own any of her nasty, absurd behavior. She denied pawing at him, poking his belly, flicking at him with her fingers and hugging him. She was asked, by him, to keep her hands to herself. He had never set boundaries with her. There are ways... asking politely, and then legal action if necessary. I will play nice up to a point. My objective is to keep her out of my life the the fullest extent possible. I am no longer willing to make her problems/issues mine. If she starts in with the touching again, she will hear from me in front of the people she makes the touchy behavior in front of.... I don't give a flip who it is... my B/F, his sisters, friends, their boys.... I don't care anymore! She is out. I am in!!!! Fran… change your phone number!!!

Chelly… Yeah! Good advice to keep this forum positive. (She probably is a toxic X ! lol)

Michelle…. I feel your pain. My B/F’s X is best friends with his sisters… she is at all of my B/F’s
family function. She and the sisters have been so hurtful… so I refused to have her in our home for any holidays or parties. I think even her grown son’s spoke to her about her nasty mouth and behavior because she asked to speak to us (we were going to address the issue that night anyway!!!) and tried to smooth things over. She would not, however, own any of her nasty, absurd behavior. She denied pawing at him, poking his belly, flicking at him with her fingers and hugging him. She was asked, by him, to keep her hands to herself. He had never set boundaries with her. There are ways… asking politely, and then legal action if necessary. I will play nice up to a point. My objective is to keep her out of my life the the fullest extent possible. I am no longer willing to make her problems/issues mine. If she starts in with the touching again, she will hear from me in front of the people she makes the touchy behavior in front of…. I don’t give a flip who it is… my B/F, his sisters, friends, their boys…. I don’t care anymore! She is out. I am in!!!!

]]> By: Fran http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/what-to-do-when-your-husbands-ex-wife-causes-marriage-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-34354 Fran Tue, 03 Apr 2012 13:19:37 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=194#comment-34354 My huspands ex(11 years) is insane. First of all she was never in their kids life girl 14 And boy 12. She left them for another guy when my steppson wasn't even a month old. Yes I said it not even one month. Nevered even toook him in for his one month check up..so I come into my huspand and his childrens life about a year and half later...After 8 years of the single party life and sleeping around she gets thrown in jail for aiding/abeiting second degree murder where she starts calling the kids and my huspand from prison..I refuse to let my huspand speak to her espeacially when she haves no respect. She tells the kids and me that I'm not their real mother and for me to stay out of their lives. She allso won't say my name she refers me to her or she.well anyways she builds a relationship with the kids calling them from prison for about two years and then was shipped to france for being an illegal alien..let me add around this time I've have been around and involve with the kids for about 7years now..so thank goodness I don't have to see her face..the only thing that troubles us noww is that she's teaching our teenager how to hate us and the life they have with us..she's says things like "sorry if your new family isn't what you hope for" or " how was you christmas and did you guys even have fun?" Yes she treats us like we have been the absent parents that just came back into our kids life after 8 years.phyco! So let's just say we let the teens keep in contact with their mother but I refuse to let my huspand talk to that women. I tell him she has nothing good to say about me and sometimmes my huspand and she lives so far away she doesn't even suppport the kids.( the only things they get from her is one gift for their birthday and christmas, and its been only like this for two years)what can she posibly want to talk to you about..I think she's just tring to gat me..am I wrong for this? Does this make me a bad person? Please give me feedback, need helpp!!! My huspands ex(11 years) is insane. First of all she was never in their kids life girl 14 And boy 12. She left them for another guy when my steppson wasn’t even a month old. Yes I said it not even one month. Nevered even toook him in for his one month check up..so I come into my huspand and his childrens life about a year and half later…After 8 years of the single party life and sleeping around she gets thrown in jail for aiding/abeiting second degree murder where she starts calling the kids and my huspand from prison..I refuse to let my huspand speak to her espeacially when she haves no respect. She tells the kids and me that I’m not their real mother and for me to stay out of their lives. She allso won’t say my name she refers me to her or she.well anyways she builds a relationship with the kids calling them from prison for about two years and then was shipped to france for being an illegal alien..let me add around this time I’ve have been around and involve with the kids for about 7years now..so thank goodness I don’t have to see her face..the only thing that troubles us noww is that she’s teaching our teenager how to hate us and the life they have with us..she’s says things like “sorry if your new family isn’t what you hope for” or ” how was you christmas and did you guys even have fun?” Yes she treats us like we have been the absent parents that just came back into our kids life after 8 years.phyco! So let’s just say we let the teens keep in contact with their mother but I refuse to let my huspand talk to that women. I tell him she has nothing good to say about me and sometimmes my huspand and she lives so far away she doesn’t even suppport the kids.( the only things they get from her is one gift for their birthday and christmas, and its been only like this for two years)what can she posibly want to talk to you about..I think she’s just tring to gat me..am I wrong for this? Does this make me a bad person? Please give me feedback, need helpp!!!

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