Comments on: What is Cheating Versus Flirting in Love Relationships?

By: jealousy

jealousy — Wed, 29 Jun 2011 07:04:41 +0000

When your partner cheats or flirts through someone else, it means that he has needs that were not met in your relationship. This needs maybe needs that involves only you or both of you in your relationship. That is why, to avoid the act of cheating, it is important to constantly communicate with each other as to what is happening in your relationship.

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Sun, 09 May 2010 20:06:42 +0000

Wow — and I think that’s the problem with getting emotional attached to people outside our primary love relationship! Those connections have the potential to get deeper and more important….especially if it’s not just innocent flirting.
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By: Lea

Lea — Sun, 02 May 2010 16:54:07 +0000

These signs on emotional cheating totally apply. A “best friend” of my ex-partner and he himself always talked about how they had a brother/sister relationship while I was together with him. The signs were obvious, but he always denied everytime I complained. I finally left him and about a year after we broke up, they got together.

By: Christina

Christina — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 11:41:43 +0000

I think the point is this- as said in 1- if your partner is uncomfortable with all of these actions, and especially if you feel guilty and are hiding things, those things should tip you off that something is ‘wrong’. If you have a good friend who happens to be the opposite sex, but your partner is okay with that and you have always acted a certain way with them and continue to do so, then there should be no guilt on your part or worry about it. What this article talks about is new behavior- when all of the sudden your spouse starts to pull away and turn to someone else. And not to be rude, but if you are reading this article you are either thinking that your spouse or you are cheating emotionally, which I believe is some of that guilt.

By: roughneck

roughneck — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 07:57:52 +0000

Sounds like you married the wrong person. Although it is good to have close friends, both male and female. You get different perspectives from them. But, you should put your spouse first and foremost. Above friends, family, and your kids. That, my friend, is the ONLY way to make a marriage work. And, do division of yours and mine.

By: olivia

olivia — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 00:54:17 +0000

i agree. i have a really good friend of the opposite sex and even though we used to date, we were good friends before that too. it ended pretty well with both of us feeling the same way, that we should go back to being friends. we’re still just like we were before, and yes we do meet most of the requirements of an emotional affair but that doesnt mean anything. we have no feelings like that anymore and we love eachother like brother and sister do. my boyfriend knows that even though we spend alot of time together and used to date, there is nothing going on. he is pretty good friends with my close freind too and trusts us. all im saying is some people may meet these requirements but it doesnt mean anything is going on.

By: Heather

Heather — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 21:47:55 +0000

I disagree with some of the signs of emotional cheating. This almost implies that the only person you can have any type of meaningful relationship with a friend of the opposite sex. I would argue that I do all but maybe number 3, and the tail end of number 5 (I talk to my partner *also*) with my best friend, who happens to be a straight male instead of a female. But I’m not having an emotional affair with him-my feelings and his are completely platonic, and most of the time would be described as brotherly/sisterly. He was in my life first, before each our respective new partners, and he has always been there for me as a good friend and always will. I take time to pick out the right present, and so does he, because we want to make each other happy and it feels good to have picked the right present. I like to do things with my friend, both with our significant others and assorted friends and family members in tow and without. We have long lunches to catch up when we haven’t been talking lately because life got busy. We worked for the same company, so we discussed issues there in depth. Just like we’ve discussed the most meaningful things in our lives with each other- we know about each other’s pasts, the hurts and the joys, we know each other’s presents, the insecurities and what’s going well, and we know each other’s dreams and goals and fears for the future. We’ve known each other so long we can be each other’s sounding board, and we can look each other in the eye and tell them the truth when they are wrong without fear of damaging the relationship. We can communicate with just a look across the room, and know what the other one is thinking. We matter to each other. I hope one day he will be the godfather to my children and give him a formal position in my life.

And nearly everything I just described could be said about both my mom and my sister (well, they never worked at my company, but still). He’s my best friend. It’s not my fault he wasn’t born a girl. But it’s not an emotional affair either- unless you’re about to claim I’m having an affair with my mother and sister as well.

My fiance loves my best friend and has no insecurities- he sees the way we look at each other and can tell there is nothing fishy there. My best friend’s girlfriend doesn’t like the idea of me- she’s afraid that we’re having an emotional affair (probably from reading too many articles like this one) since we meet all the “signs”. But the signs are often signs of a close relationship- and everyone deserves to have several of those in their lives. If I have room in my heart for a mother, grandma, aunt, and 5 siblings that I have close relationships with- I have room for a best friend as well. This only enhances my emotional and social stability, and gives me plenty of opportunity to love my fiance with everything that I am, no holds barred.