I’m sorry to hear about the love problems you’re having. I don’t know if you should fight to get your girlfriend back, or just let her go. That’s something you need to think carefully about, and decide if it’s worth the effort.

Does your girlfriend want to be in a relationship with you? If she doesn’t, then the decision may be made for you.

I hope you and she can find healthy ways to parent your children, whether or not you get back together. That’s the most important thing! It might be good to visit a family counselor so you and she can find ways to solve the problems that will come up as you parent your boys. Getting therapy can be one of the best ways to figure out what you want out of your relationship.

Blessings,
Laurie

when we first got together she was it i did not know her from anything but i know i wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.everything was great fo a while.i would tell her all the time that i loved her more then anything that she was my world.i would tell her constently that she was the most beautiful women ever.but i never ever got that from her she would say that she could not express herself that way.that lead to alot of fighting which i was blamed for all the time.i did sat things so i do except some of the blame.all i want to do is get our family back together:me my girlfriend which i intend to marry forever and our 4 beautiful boys with i have full custody and do not receive a dime from her.i will mstay with her for eternity and beyond!!!!we seperated she got our boys taken from CPS and i got custody because i have a beautiful house and career(software engineer).she works at a strip club and goes from friend to friend and has never had a residence of her own.in the last few mouths i have been trying my *** off to get the family back together but she still blames me for everything and all she cares about is hanging out with her frinds and going to bars.i really,really,really,really,really love her she is everything my world she is the one i want to be with and no one else EVER!!!!!!!!!!!! but sometimes i just want to leave and forget about her forever.im a single parent with 4 little boys who the hell would want a 36 year old man with 4 kids my world does not.please i need help and advise

james maldonado 36

Your English is great! Thanks for taking the time to comment.

Wow, 5 divorced friends at age 26 is shocking. I didn’t even get married until I was 35, much less divorced. Maybe that’s part of the reason for their divorces; getting married too young. Though, some people marry young and stay married for decades….and a big part of staying married is working on those relationship problems.

Take care — and I hope your parents can reconnect in love!

Laurie

Thanks for your comment — thinking of losing my husband makes me appreciate him so much more! It makes solving problems in love much less important than the fact that we have LOVE in our lives.

Maybe those little things that are so irritating should be overlooked alot more…..but the trick is discerning what’s just irritating, and what’s a serious problem that needs attention.

Thanks for your comment! I think communication is one of the biggest keys to solving problems in marriage. And, we need to figure out the ROOT of our problems, and deal with that so it doesn’t keep coming back to haunt us.

And, it’s important to remember that every marriage is different, and what works for one couple doesn’t necessarily work for the next one.

Great post by the way.

I’m glad you took the time to share, and hope to see you around these parts again soon

Laurie
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