Improve Your Dating Life in Meaningful Ways – 8 Tips for Singles
“At this moment your chances of meeting the love of your life could be better than ever,” says relationship expert Dr Diana Kirschner. “The average marriage now lasts under seven years and this means new singles are coming on the scene all the time. Online dating is exploding, with new subscribers signing up in droves. You have a lot of partners to choose from!”
If you’re not interested in online dating because you’re surrounded by men who aren’t interested in you, Why Men Love B*tches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl – A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship enlightening and entertaining. It’s one of the most popular dating books on Amazon.
8 Tips for Improving Your Dating Life
1. Prioritize meeting new people, dating, and being romantic. Some singles are better at planning their weekends or vacations than their a dating life. The first step to improve your dating life is to actively strive to meet as many people as possible, go on as many blind dates as possible, and join as many singles groups as possible.
2. Have a ‘New You’ party. Do you need a makeover? “Order a bunch of pizzas or something simple like Chinese food,” says Dr Kirschner. “Invite all your closest friends to come over for a ‘New You’ party and give you a makeover. Have them go through your clothes and accessories, getting rid of unflattering stuff and putting together some hot new looks for you.”
Another tip for singles who want to improve their dating lives is to get a referral from your friends to great hair salons or clothing stores.
3. Work on your online dating profile. If you already have an online profile, throw out your old photo and description. Ask a friend who is also a great photographer take 100 headshots of you. Pick the one that looks the most warm, attractive and inviting. Get friends to help you pick out the best photo and work on your profile. Spend time on the dating site, sending and responding to messages and connecting by phone and in person with potential dates.
4. Go where the odds of meeting other single people are better. Sign up for two regular classes or activities that interest you. Take finance or investing classes; rock-climbing or golfing; snowboarding or skiing; hiking or biking; cooking and wine tasting clases — those are ways for single women to meet men. For single men: women are plentiful at cooking, growth, spirituality or yoga courses. Coed city sports teams are great and usually have an even mix of genders. Another way to improve your dating life is to go to the “Meet Up” website and peruse the groups. Or, look into volunteering for a local or national political group.
5. Get comfortable meeting new people – both single and attached. Find and say hello to three new men or women every day. Assuming you are in a safe or public place, make eye contact, smile, say ‘Hi,’ or ask for some help. This tip for singles is what Dr Kirschner calls the “Marcia Cross Technique.” Actress Marcia Cross was in her forties when she met her husband by chatting with him in a flower shop. She now is the ecstatic mother of twin baby girls! If you don’t meet many single men or women in your daily routine, try a new grocery store, dry cleaners, pharmacy or coffee/sandwich shop at lunch.
If you struggle to make conversation with new people, read 10 First Date Conversation Starters. It’s one of my most popular articles.
6. Don’t keep dating the same types of people. Most people do not find love of their lives in the person they imagined! For instance, the woman who only dates starving artists may end up marrying a rich, portly lawyer. To meet more single people, look at the photos and profiles of single people that you would ordinarily pass on. If you always go for the sleek urbanite, give the Midwesterner who just moved to your town a try. And, be aware of the impressions you make on first or second dates.
7. Go on second dates. Even if you don’t have alot of chemistry with a single man or woman on the first date, stay open to a possible second date. You cannot know what secret goodies are hidden in someone just by meeting them once! This will improve your dating life by letting a potential partner unfold and show you his/her different sides.
If you never seem to get a second date, I have a few tips on piquing your boyfriend’s interest.
8. Extend your hand in friendship. If you have a great time on a date, send a quick text or email the next morning to let your date know that you’re open to another meeting. This dating tip is especially important for women. Write something specific about the date that points to the connection or chemistry between the two of you. For example, if you went to a comedy show, write a message that refers to a particular joke you both enjoyed and add, “Let’s do it again sometime.”
What do you think about these tips for improving your dating life? Comments welcome below…
For more info about psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Diana Kirschner, visit Love in 90 Days.
Category: Dating, Meeting People, New Relationships
I loved dating! I thought it was fun and interesting to go out with new guys, get to know them a bit, try different restaurants and activities, and meet new people. Most people I know hate dating, but I always enjoyed it. It’s not the same, dating a man you’ve been married to for seven or eight years
If you want to improve your dating life, I think you need to find ways to enjoy your dates. Make it fun, not a chore!
Nice list of tips dating here. Some old, mixed with the new. If you haven’t been in the game for a while, well worth a read.
Thanks for these tips for improving your dating life. I’m dating again after a 10 year relationship, and appreciate the support! After my first date, I’m sure I’ll be back with “thoughts and comments about dating”….
S.B.