Comments on: 5 Secrets Husbands Keep From Their Wives

By: Laurie

Laurie — Wed, 24 Apr 2013 22:47:25 +0000

Teri,

Thanks for being here! It sounds like you’ve been through a lot with your husband – and it’s not a very fair marriage.

What’s the first thing you’d change about your husband or your marriage, if you could change something overnight?

By: Teri

Teri — Sun, 14 Apr 2013 05:39:37 +0000

By the way…..I didn’t mention we don’t even sleep in the same bed. His choice. Seems strange to live in the same house with my husband but live like roommates instead of married couple. I don’t get this. What has this world come to.

By: Teri

Teri — Sun, 14 Apr 2013 05:36:16 +0000

I want to state that I am married to a womanizer for 40 years now. I must say that after this length of time he is worse now than when he was younger. He won’t let me go out with him socially. He goes out playing music and dancing, I’m not allowed to. He visits his friends who are all much younger than him….humm. He is never where he tells me he is going to be (which he rarely even tells me anyway). His life is totally his own. I feel like we aren’t even married. He seldom has sex with me and it’s always a quickie which I hate. I even threaten to get a boyfriend if he didn’t give me more attention. It’s none of my business what he does but I have to account for every minute. I’m not allowed to have friends or have a social life either. I can’t even have a facebook….you don’t have to go out for that. This man is 63 going on 15.

By: Teri

Teri — Sun, 14 Apr 2013 05:31:05 +0000

I can’t believe Dr. Oz. I don’t buy this crap that men are designed to spread their seed. I am sick of hearing this bull crap. It’s men excuse to cheat. If they were created to “spread their seed” then God wouldn’t have said that he cleve only to his wife. Men need to get real but honest with themselves, they know this is a crock of bull. They should love their wife, not lust after other women, and take care of the children they have because they created these children they are responsible for the childrens well being and teaching them to grow up to be responsible adults. Men stop chasing women and looking for cheap thrills instead take care of your children, they are your responsibility and take care of the wife then you won’t need other women.

By: Laurie

Laurie — Mon, 18 Feb 2013 13:05:12 +0000

Dear Amy,

It makes me sad to hear you say that it is too late to create a happier life for yourself. I thought it was never too late to begin again!

When I was in counseling, my counselor told me that we can find ways to be happy even in the midst of our unhappy situations. So, if you cannot leave your husband, maybe you can find ways to be happy in your marriage?

I actually wrote an article about being happy in an unhappy marriage! If you like, I can post the link here.

As for secrets…I think all men keep secrets from their wives, and all women keep secrets from their husbands.

Blessings,
Laurie

By: Amy

Amy — Sun, 10 Feb 2013 18:39:22 +0000

I don’t care if my husband has secrets anymore, nor do I care about him. He has deprived me of sex,intimacy,love,kids,family for over 40 years. He wouldn’t even sleep with me or have dinner with me. He lives in the basement and we haven’t communicated in years. I have tryed to live independently. Were in our 60s now and set in our lives, ihave to much invested in marriage,financially,great medical benefits and at my age the medical benefits are worth staying. I’m very sad that I got mixed up with this creep, but its to late.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Sun, 19 Aug 2012 20:20:41 +0000

Hmm Dr Oz. why do men need foreplay with their WIVES if they can simply pull up some image they would rather see then enjoy what is before them? Why even need sex and intimacy in a relationship if your mind is elsewhere other than the one your with. Now I know my husband is a liar when he says he does not do this, and he does not fantasize about other women. He looks an awful lot tho so Im not sure what he is processing when he does if he says it doesn’t benefit him later. He is weak is what it is. He is a secretive weak guy. After 20 some years of marraige dontcha think I know this is getting old and ya need something more visually satisfying? I feel like if thats what you want and you dont act like you want sex from me that much anymore than how about we just coexist .. you take care of yourself to your ideal woman NOW and I will just watch some porn to get off. Its all much easier and faster anyway, besides I dont want to be his visual imagery warm hole anymore. I also thought that people were individuals but the more i read the more I hear men/guys are all the same. What a pity. Why dont I just pick a different one each week? It just doesn’t seem to matter anymore!

By: Zee

Zee — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 21:01:06 +0000

Wow this article is very funny. I have read so many responses and it’s so clear that so many women are hurt by this article and upset with Dr. Oz for supporting these opinions.
These doctors seem to think they know more than their creator. I believe in the word of God and the bible does not support that we should lust at people who are not our spouses while we have sex with our spouses, in fact the Bible calls this adultery: “Matthew 5:27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”
This act is called adultery, I have also read men that women often do this too, so maybe the next time you are doing this while you make love to your wife, you should wonder who she is thinking about, your brother, friend, next door neighbor etc. This is a sin Dr. Oz and if you ask your wife she may agree with me and tell you how awful she feels when she does it to you. The secret is men don’t know it’s a sin and that woman does it too, and what we should do is ask God to forgive us and help us deal with the real issues.
Why are we so prone to commit adultery in our heart? Is it because we are not communicating with each other? Is it because of financial problems? Is it because there are in-law issues that need to be resolved? Could it be because you are watching too much porn? Is it because your wife/husband is overworked and don’t have time to maintain their image, this may just mean that you need to help out more at home. Seriously, what you need to do is find out what is the root of the problem and deal with it. When you stand before God will you really tell him, “I am sorry, I thought it was normal because Dr. Oz said so!” open the bible and read it for yourself it’s a sin. I personally believe that masturbation is a sin; one pastor said it’s OK as long as you are thinking only of your wife while you do it. I am not sure what the word says about this, but if you lust at a woman who is not your wife remember you are committing adultery in your heart.
Doc. Oz, why did God only gave Adam ONE wife? I guess you know more than him, God forbid, maybe he should have given him Eve, Denise and Portia He gave him one wife not two or three. Men decided to have more than one wives on their own. This was not something God approved. My so called dad has sowed his seeds all over, he never fathered me could not afford to be omnipresence. I had the privilege of being fed by foster parents, thank God.
Are you aware that this is sad for many children, I taught teenagers for 7 years and grew up in a society that believe this lie, the sad thing is, so many children came to school hungry, so many girls had to prostitute themselves to help their mother to pay the bills, because you men who love to sow your seed cannot even afford to feed all your children, so you only end up feeding the ones with the woman who insist you have to, so many of the children never met their seed sower.
My recommendation: Dr.Oz
Do a study and find out why there is so much child trafficking, if these kids had active fathers, wouldn’t the father step in and protect them? Why are so many teenagers into prostitution, could it be that their daddy is busy making children all over the place, they forget they need to protect the ones they already have?
I challenge you to take a look at child porn and find out how many kids involved have fathers who are sowing their seeds all over, and please let me know what you find out. I am sure you will be very embarrassed and shocked to find out that your simple theory is one of the key reason so many children are being hurt all over the world.

By: John

John — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 21:50:22 +0000

This is in reply to Susan’s comment from April 6, 2012 at 11:32 AM: Let me get this straight: in spite of the fact that your husband sent a picture to his friend, he is never going to touch another woman, and you are withholding sex and not telling him why? Women like you should be alone and broke forever. I’ve heard of people’s helping an ex-spouse when he/she gets cancer or some other major health issue, and I approve of that. But if you were my ex-wife, I would never help you in any way, no matter what adverse circumstances, health or otherwise. (By the way, I am a gay man who never has been, nor ever will be, married to a woman.) This is not a straight/gay or man/woman issue, but only a human-being issue. Humans (using the word lightly, of course) like you are scum equal only to child-abusers, mass-murders, and torturers.

By: Sue

Sue — Sun, 03 Jun 2012 21:15:08 +0000

Gosh, I cannot believe Dr Oz would even say it’s natural for men to be wh*res in mind or body. It’s a lie to say men can’t help but lust for other women. Men do those things because they get away with it because ‘experts’ say it is normal for men to go from one woman to another and of course the male population jump on that! Just like marriage is a verb, so is respect and love. If you think about others when you have someone, then you are not loving or being faithful to the one you profess to care about or love. There is no reason men cannot be faithful and not lead by their little head. It is a decision.