I think you should follow your gut! Trust what your brain, heart, and soul is telling you. You’ll regret it if you ignore your instincts. I don’t even think this is about your relationship with your boyfriend — it’s about your relationship with YOURSELF!

Put yourself first, and listen to your own wisdom and truth. Do what you’d tell your younger self to do, or your little sister. Be strong, smart, and savvy.

I’m on your team! Are you?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 8 years. Maybe its the 8 year mark, but I’ve been feeling like this relationship is going down the toilet. Last year, I had a gut feeling he was up to something when he went to work. Even though I shouldn’t have, I checked his history on his computer. I couldn’t believe it, my intuition was right. He made a fake email account emailing these women on Craigslist asking for a “Bed and Breakfast”. I calmly called and talked to him. He admitted to it and I left him. For years, he would criticize cheaters (he was cheated on from past relationships) and so when I read what I saw, it killed me. Even though, all he did was email them sexual things and nothing physical, the thought of what if i didn’t catch him made me breakdown. Next day, he comes to visit me at work with a promise ring. I know right? At that time, 7 years and you screwed up and now you want to give me a ring? I hate to admit it, but I took him back that same day.

Long story short, I guess I haven’t gotten over it. I fear that he’s just being careful with what he’s doing. He even lets me check his stuff – openly with him offering me his phone.. etc.

He also just recently spilled his heart to me that he wants to marry me. He wants to do better to make us work. The only thing that worries me is that I don’t think I’m ready for that. I love him with all my heart and I’ll be right by his side, but that same gut feeling I had in the past, is telling me to throw in the towel.

Even though we talked about our issues in our relationship time and time again.. it just feels harder to stay. And not to sound whiny, but there’s also other issues we have such as him smoking (promised to quit, never did.. kept it a secret).

What do I do? The positive, the negative, anything. I don’t want to suck both our love lives dry ):

But I do have a question for you: If you could wake up tomorrow with a totally different life, what would it look like? Who would you be with, what would you be doing, and where would you live?

Thank you for being here!

It sounds like you and your partner have gone through a lot of changes lately, which is affecting how you relate to each other. Like you said, this is part of the good and bad stress that comes with having a new baby in your life. She’s a blessing, but she has also changed your life, hasn’t she?

I wrote this for you:

How to Know if Your Relationship is Ending

I hope it helps, and welcome your thoughts.

Blessings,
Laurie

It’s hard to know if you should give up on your relationship or stick it out — and it’s hard for me to tell you what to do!

But, here’s what I think:

http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/signs-its-time-to-break-up-with-boyfriend/

What do you think you should do? Where do you see your relationship in one year?

Blessings,
Laurie

Thank you for sharing your struggles here – I am sorry for what you are going through.

Have you considered a trial separation? Maybe go stay with your parents for a couple of months, and give your partner a chance to see what life is like without you and your son. Sometimes people need a scare like that to help them come to their senses. Your partner is letting his gambling take over his life, and is not taking the loss of you seriously. That is just what I think, of course…you are the expert on your relationship and life!

What do you think of this?

Blessings,
Laurie