Comments on: Do You Think About Your Ex All the Time? 6 Ways to Stop Obsessing http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-stop-obsessing-about-your-ex-and-get-on-with-your-life/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-to-stop-obsessing-about-your-ex-and-get-on-with-your-life Readers ask questions about love and marriage; I write articles peppered with quips and tips! Wed, 23 May 2012 18:14:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: tina http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-stop-obsessing-about-your-ex-and-get-on-with-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-37385 tina Sat, 19 May 2012 22:38:51 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=76#comment-37385 i know that i dont feel nothing for him, but i cant stop thinking about him..its like my mind has nothing better to do or maybe its just that i have gotten so use to thinking about him that it has become an everyday thing ..someone please help me i know that i dont feel nothing for him, but i cant stop thinking about him..its like my mind has nothing better to do or maybe its just that i have gotten so use to thinking about him that it has become an everyday thing ..someone please help me

]]> By: Dango http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-stop-obsessing-about-your-ex-and-get-on-with-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-36338 Dango Wed, 02 May 2012 08:19:06 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=76#comment-36338 I broke up with my ex more than two years ago and I find myself obsessing over him almost every hour of every day...The saddest thing is I have a new relationship, which is like a fairytale in comparison with my ex. My ex and I onderstood eachother without saying anything, but he wasn't the best boyfriend, we had a lot of arguements and he belittled me.. Now I heard he moved on, literally. He is engaged and moved away, but every day there is a chance I bump into him. I'm jealous, desperate and realy trying to get him out of my head...If anyone wants to talk about it, please do... email me at artydango@hotmail.com. Anyone who has experienced it and successfully overcame their feelings or who are stuck in the same situation. I broke up with my ex more than two years ago and I find myself obsessing over him almost every hour of every day…The saddest thing is I have a new relationship, which is like a fairytale in comparison with my ex.

My ex and I onderstood eachother without saying anything, but he wasn’t the best boyfriend, we had a lot of arguements and he belittled me..

Now I heard he moved on, literally. He is engaged and moved away, but every day there is a chance I bump into him.

I’m jealous, desperate and realy trying to get him out of my head…If anyone wants to talk about it, please do… email me at artydango@hotmail.com. Anyone who has experienced it and successfully overcame their feelings or who are stuck in the same situation.

]]> By: Sandro http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-stop-obsessing-about-your-ex-and-get-on-with-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-34602 Sandro Fri, 06 Apr 2012 02:11:04 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=76#comment-34602 Broken up with my ex now nearly 2 years in august and I can't get her out of my head!! I think about her all the time and that if we were together again it would be the perfect relationship. She is dating a new girl now and it pains my heart to see them as guest listed at events. I can't take it anymore and have tried to meet someone else but I compare everyone to her and I have finally admitted to myself Im too obsessed and now uncomfortable with my sexuality that I have no desire to live anymore. I'm so tired and can't handle falling in love to probably loose it again. She comes into my head first thing before bed and first thing when I wake and a dozen times in between. I don't want to think about her anymore, or see or hear her name. I need help! I cry so randomly lately and my body tenses up and feel so heart broken in my chest. Is that real love? What is that?? I know dating will get my mind off her and help me move on but can't seem to meet anyone either and that is stressing me out more. I am attractive girl and never had a problem before but some force don't want me to move on and meet someone new and right now I need that to overcome my obsession and suicide tendencies Broken up with my ex now nearly 2 years in august and I can’t get her out of my head!! I think about her all the time and that if we were together again it would be the perfect relationship. She is dating a new girl now and it pains my heart to see them as guest listed at events. I can’t take it anymore and have tried to meet someone else but I compare everyone to her and I have finally admitted to myself Im too obsessed and now uncomfortable with my sexuality that I have no desire to live anymore. I’m so tired and can’t handle falling in love to probably loose it again. She comes into my head first thing before bed and first thing when I wake and a dozen times in between. I don’t want to think about her anymore, or see or hear her name. I need help! I cry so randomly lately and my body tenses up and feel so heart broken in my chest. Is that real love? What is that?? I know dating will get my mind off her and help me move on but can’t seem to meet anyone either and that is stressing me out more. I am attractive girl and never had a problem before but some force don’t want me to move on and meet someone new and right now I need that to overcome my obsession and suicide tendencies

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-stop-obsessing-about-your-ex-and-get-on-with-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-7843 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Fri, 30 Sep 2011 16:58:29 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=76#comment-7843 Dear Alica, I was in the same boat with my husband - though he didn't talk to his ex twice a day! I wrote an article for you. I don't think you're being jealous, but I put jealousy in the title because that's how I felt when my husband saw his ex-girlfriend. <a href="http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-cope-with-jealousy-boyfriend-sees-ex-girlfriend/" rel="nofollow">How to Cope With Jealousy When Your Boyfriend Sees His Ex</a> I hope the article helps, and welcome your thoughts there or here. Blessings, Laurie The bottom line is that I don't think your boyfriend has moved on with his life if he's talking to his ex-girlfriend twice a day! I don't know if he's obsessed with her, but he needs to focus on YOU. He needs to respect your feelings and thoughts, and put you above his ex-girlfriend. Dear Alica,

I was in the same boat with my husband – though he didn’t talk to his ex twice a day!

I wrote an article for you. I don’t think you’re being jealous, but I put jealousy in the title because that’s how I felt when my husband saw his ex-girlfriend.

How to Cope With Jealousy When Your Boyfriend Sees His Ex

I hope the article helps, and welcome your thoughts there or here.

Blessings,
Laurie

The bottom line is that I don’t think your boyfriend has moved on with his life if he’s talking to his ex-girlfriend twice a day! I don’t know if he’s obsessed with her, but he needs to focus on YOU. He needs to respect your feelings and thoughts, and put you above his ex-girlfriend.

]]> By: Alica http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-stop-obsessing-about-your-ex-and-get-on-with-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-7246 Alica Fri, 23 Sep 2011 17:27:46 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=76#comment-7246 Wow, thank you all for all of this information and for reminding me that I am NOT alone! My boyfriend and I have been dating/living together for over a year....earlier this year he had lunch with his ex-girlfriend and didn't tell me about it but I found out anyway. I wanted him to come clean on his own, but he did not and when I finally confronted him about it, we had a huge blowup about it. Things went 'round and 'round and at first I told him I wasn't comfortable with them seeing each other privately but that wasn't ok with him, so in the mindset of 'more flies with honey' I compromised and we came up with an agreement that as long as he discussed it with me first or told me when they spoke, I would work on getting over my issues with it since it was so important for him that they remain friends. However, it still really bothers me. And, he is STILL keeping contact with her, albeit not as frequent as it once was, BUT I saw on his phone that they spoke twice yesterday and he has yet to disclose this to me personally. I just don't know what to do...he assures me that he loves me and only wants to be with me and that their relationship romantically will never be again but....then why does he feel he needs to keep her in his life? Why does she not let him move on either? It is starting to really make me crazy and I just need some solid advice...PLEASE?!?! Wow, thank you all for all of this information and for reminding me that I am NOT alone! My boyfriend and I have been dating/living together for over a year….earlier this year he had lunch with his ex-girlfriend and didn’t tell me about it but I found out anyway. I wanted him to come clean on his own, but he did not and when I finally confronted him about it, we had a huge blowup about it. Things went ’round and ’round and at first I told him I wasn’t comfortable with them seeing each other privately but that wasn’t ok with him, so in the mindset of ‘more flies with honey’ I compromised and we came up with an agreement that as long as he discussed it with me first or told me when they spoke, I would work on getting over my issues with it since it was so important for him that they remain friends. However, it still really bothers me. And, he is STILL keeping contact with her, albeit not as frequent as it once was, BUT I saw on his phone that they spoke twice yesterday and he has yet to disclose this to me personally. I just don’t know what to do…he assures me that he loves me and only wants to be with me and that their relationship romantically will never be again but….then why does he feel he needs to keep her in his life? Why does she not let him move on either? It is starting to really make me crazy and I just need some solid advice…PLEASE?!?!

]]> By: Elizabeth http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-stop-obsessing-about-your-ex-and-get-on-with-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-7181 Elizabeth Thu, 22 Sep 2011 19:57:48 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=76#comment-7181 What if both parties are willing to work things out? Is it worth a try? How do you know when to believe they have changed? Sometimes obsessing about your ex works out for everyone. What if both parties are willing to work things out? Is it worth a try? How do you know when to believe they have changed? Sometimes obsessing about your ex works out for everyone.

]]> By: Darren http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-stop-obsessing-about-your-ex-and-get-on-with-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-7172 Darren Thu, 22 Sep 2011 19:20:26 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=76#comment-7172 Great tips for how to stop obsessing about your ex and get on with your life. But ! I have found though, so many people out there will do whatever it takes to get back with their ex instead of moving on. A huge number of them are successful too. I have personally been in both situations. Sometimes it seems completely impossible to let them go. Great tips for how to stop obsessing about your ex and get on with your life. But ! I have found though, so many people out there will do whatever it takes to get back with their ex instead of moving on. A huge number of them are successful too. I have personally been in both situations. Sometimes it seems completely impossible to let them go.

]]> By: Todd http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-stop-obsessing-about-your-ex-and-get-on-with-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-4330 Todd Mon, 18 Jul 2011 19:44:23 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=76#comment-4330 Wow. I can realy relate to these stories. I left my ex after 8 years because he is such a cheater and lier. It has been a year and I am still obsessing about him. I spend all day subtracting three hours from my day to figure out what he is doing. (Time Diff.) We finally starting talking about getting back together. He wanted me to show him how much I care so I bought the plane ticket to see him for his birthday. Two days before take off I get the call that we can be friends, he has another boyfriend and I can come and hang out with them. I totally lossed it. My obsession is now so back I can't function. I am totally flipping out. Every crazy moment minus three. I am starting to wonder if there is a pill to make himm go away. Wow. I can realy relate to these stories. I left my ex after 8 years because he is such a cheater and lier. It has been a year and I am still obsessing about him. I spend all day subtracting three hours from my day to figure out what he is doing. (Time Diff.) We finally starting talking about getting back together. He wanted me to show him how much I care so I bought the plane ticket to see him for his birthday. Two days before take off I get the call that we can be friends, he has another boyfriend and I can come and hang out with them. I totally lossed it. My obsession is now so back I can’t function. I am totally flipping out. Every crazy moment minus three. I am starting to wonder if there is a pill to make himm go away.

]]> By: john http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-stop-obsessing-about-your-ex-and-get-on-with-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-3807 john Mon, 13 Jun 2011 16:59:56 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=76#comment-3807 dear diosa, i feel exactly the same but with my ex girlfriend but im a teenager and she was my first love i dont now how to overcome it sometimes i feel good and forget her but when she comes to my head i have this terrible feeling and i make some thoughts that i dont want to make.this also affected my marks on tests.although now its summer and i hope to overcome her cause i cant stand this anymore...anyone wants to advice dear diosa,
i feel exactly the same but with my ex girlfriend but im a teenager and she was my first love i dont now how to overcome it sometimes i feel good and forget her but when she comes to my head i have this terrible feeling and i make some thoughts that i dont want to make.this also affected my marks on tests.although now its summer and i hope to overcome her cause i cant stand this anymore…anyone wants to advice

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-stop-obsessing-about-your-ex-and-get-on-with-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-3199 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Thu, 12 May 2011 18:57:48 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/?p=76#comment-3199 Dear Lynn, I wrote this article for you -- it goes beyond stopping obsessive thoughts! <a href="http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-stop-loving-a-man-who-lies-cheats-steals/" rel="nofollow">How to Stop Loving a Man Who Lies, Cheats, and Steals</a> I hope it helps. Blessings, Laurie Dear Lynn,

I wrote this article for you — it goes beyond stopping obsessive thoughts!

How to Stop Loving a Man Who Lies, Cheats, and Steals

I hope it helps.

Blessings,
Laurie

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