How to Heal a Broken Heart – 5 Ways to Survive Heartbreak
Before the tips, a quip:
“Heavy hearts, like heavy clouds in the sky, are best relieved by the letting of a little water.” ~ Antoine Rivarol.
Have you mourned your break up? Crying is one way to overcome lost love, because tears can be a source of emotional and physical release. If you want to find love in the future, read Better Love Next Time: How the Relationship that Didn’t Last Can Lead You to the One that Will
And in the meantime, here are five tips for surviving a broken heart…
How to Heal a Broken Heart – 5 Ways to Survive Heartbreak
1. Accept that your ex wasn’t “the one.” It’s easier said than done, but if you can see your break up from a long-term perspective, it might be easier to accept that the relationship is over. Try to accept that you split up for a reason. You and your partner simply weren’t compatible, and the relationship wouldn’t have worked. It’s in your best interests to find someone new to love.
2. Learn how to let go of love. It’s possible to accept the loss of a relationship — or a person you love — without letting it make you bitter or emotionally closed up. In fact, letting go is something you’ll have to do more and more as you get older — and it gets easier if you accept and even embrace it! If you’re obsessing about your breakup, you might find How to Overcome Obsessive Thoughts About Your Ex helpful.
3. Make a clean break from your ex. If you want to heal a broken heart, don’t talk to your ex on the phone. Don’t meet for coffee, email, or text each other. Even if you’re thinking of getting back together, make sure you take at least a three month break from the relationship — a clean break! To let go of love, you need to find your self-identity and figure out who you are apart from your relationship.
4. Avoid the temptation to get revenge. Whether your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend cheated on you, borrowed money and didn’t pay it back, or stole your dog… resist the temptation to get revenge. Getting back at him or her only prolongs the painful feelings. To survive heartbreak, you need to stop thinking about your ex and start focusing on different ways to cope with the breakup.
5. Take control — find ways to empower yourself. You can’t change how you feel, but you can control what you focus on. You can control what you do, what you talk about, and what you think about. Instead of obsessing about your broken heart, focus on other aspects of your life. One of the best tips for letting go of love is to think about where you want your life to go. Where do you want to be in one year, or five years? Also, think about the great things in your life: the people who love you, your hobbies, your pets, your job. If you don’t enough good things to focus on, now’s the time to make changes in your life.
Letting go of someone you love isn’t something you do once – and poof! You’re free, healed, and happy! Rather, letting go is a journey peppered with steps forward and steps backward, good days and bad days, peaks and valleys.
If you’re ready to move on from a broken relationship, you may find Letting Go of Someone You Love helpful.
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Category: Breaking Up, Letting Go, Separation & Divorce
Thanks for your comment, Daniel.
It’s good to hear what helped you heal your broken heart….time really is one of the most important things. And, finding ways to let go and move on — because if we just let time heal, we run the risk of getting into a rut. Not growing, moving forward, or making room for new love.
I have found a lot of comfort in returning to the little things. Exercising, keeping my place clean, cooking, doing some redecorating. Simple, but they keep me focused elsewhere in way that is healthy. Still have the overwhelm feeling from being heart broken, but so far that has helped the most.