These five ways to survive heartbreak will help you move past a relationship breakup and start enjoying life again.
If you want to find love in the future, read Better Love Next Time: How the Relationship that Didn’t Last Can Lead You to the One that Will. It’ll help you learn from the past and move into a new, happier, healthier relationship!
“Heavy hearts, like heavy clouds in the sky, are best relieved by the letting of a little water.” ~ Antoine Rivarol. Have you mourned your break up? Crying is one way to overcome lost love, because tears can be a source of emotional and physical release.
Help Healing a Broken Heart
The most important tip for healing a broken heart is to give yourself time to grieve the end of your relationship. You need to find the balance between grieving and moving forward. Remember that letting go of someone you love isn’t something you do once – and poof! You’re free, healed, and happy! Rather, letting go is a journey peppered with steps forward and steps backward, good days and bad days, peaks and valleys.
1. Accept that your ex wasn’t “the one”
It’s easier said than done, but if you can see your break up from a long-term perspective, it might be easier to accept that the relationship is over. Try to accept that you split up for a reason – and good relationships go bad all the time. You and your partner simply weren’t compatible, and the relationship wouldn’t have worked. It’s in your best interests to find someone new to love.
2. Learn how to let go of love
It’s possible to accept the loss of a relationship — or a person you love — without letting it make you bitter or emotionally closed up. In fact, letting go is something you’ll have to do more and more as you get older — and it gets easier if you accept and even embrace it!
If you’re obsessing about your breakup, you might find How to Overcome Obsessive Thoughts About Your Ex helpful.
3. Make a clean break from your ex
If you want to heal a broken heart, don’t talk to your ex on the phone. Don’t meet for coffee, email, or text each other. Even if you’re thinking of getting back together, make sure you take at least a three month break from the relationship — a clean break! To let go of love, you need to find your self-identity and figure out who you are apart from your relationship.
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4. Avoid the temptation to get revenge
Whether your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend cheated on you, borrowed money and didn’t pay it back, or stole your dog… resist the temptation to get revenge. Getting back at him or her only prolongs the painful feelings.
One way to empower yourself is to get revenge – but not in a nasty way! Read 5 Ways to Get Revenge on Your Ex – Without Losing Your Soul for tips.
5. Take control — find ways to empower yourself
You can’t change how you feel, but you can control what you focus on. You can control what you do, what you talk about, and what you think about. Instead of obsessing about your broken heart, focus on other aspects of your life. One of the best tips for letting go of love is to think about where you want your life to go. Where do you want to be in one year, or five years? Also, think about the great things in your life: the people who love you, your hobbies, your pets, your job. If you don’t enough good things to focus on, now’s the time to make changes in your life.
To heal heartbreak, you need to stop thinking about your ex and start focusing on different ways to cope with the breakup.
Do you have any tips or thoughts on healing a broken heart? Your comments are welcome below. I can’t offer advice or counseling, but it may help to share what you’re experiencing. My prayer is that you find the strength and courage you need to heal your broken heart, and move forward in love and joy.
This article has been rewritten for my other love blog, and called Breakup Advice for Spiritual Women.