Comments on: 5 Healthy Ways to Connect With Your Dates

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Sat, 03 Apr 2010 21:24:00 +0000

Hi Mohammad,

I was in the “friends zone” for 15 years, until I finally met my husband! Now, I believe there’s not much you can do to get out of the friends zone when you’re dating. If you don’t connect with a woman, then you don’t connect…and you can’t force it to happen.

And, it’s a myth that the jerks get all the dates or all the women. Keep being a nice guy, keep being yourself, and keep meeting women. You’ll eventually meet someone to love, and who will love you back for who you are.

I guess my best advice is to BE YOURSELF, and don’t worry about the rest. Enjoy dating, and date as much as possible…and you’ll eventually be dealing with the problems a love relationship brings!

Laurie

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By: Mohammad Draxler

Mohammad Draxler — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 18:37:08 +0000

Greetings from Sweden. This is a nice blog. Does anyone have any advice about staying out of the friend zone with women? I’m really tired of women telling me they just want to be friends. Perhaps I’m being too nice?

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 03:47:20 +0000

Hi Houston,

Thanks for your comment — I’m glad Quips & Tips for Love Relationships is helpful!

I don’t know if you’re being too nice to the women in your life. Instead of thinking about how you’re appearing to them, I encourage you to be yourself. Let your true thoughts and personality come out, and you will meet the woman of your dreams. Do things you love to do, spend time with people who interest you, and you’ll eventually connect with someone you really like…and who really likes you.

And remember, it takes time to meet someone you want to be in a serious relationship with. Enjoy dating — and keep being nice to women!

Good luck — I hope you connect with someone soon, and that I run into you again here.

Laurie
.-= Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen´s last blog post…Small Talk Tips to Help You Stop Being Shy on First Dates =-.

By: Houston Cyfers

Houston Cyfers — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 10:42:18 +0000

Greetings from Singapore. This is a helpful site. Does anyone have any advice on staying out of the friend zone with women? I’m really tired of girls telling me they just want to be friends. Maybe I’m being too nice?

By: AussieExpat

AussieExpat — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 15:28:13 +0000

Hello Laurie,

Thanks for your time in providing useful feedback. I particularly like the part about your last point – knowing where your responsibility begins and ends. . . the other points are very valid and practical too!

I would add. Only do what you want (not necessarily what others suggest you might need), because it feels right for you. This may mean being open to new ideas or possibilities, if and when the time feels right.

Having said this, I don’t think we can control what others think. Even when I am very honest and direct with what I cannot offer right now, some people still don’t get it.

It’s great though when you can connect with people you respect. Hence, why I simply choose to place myself out there… Even if I am not sure if I am completely ready for a relationship.

That’s me!

Again, thanks for your article.