Comments on: Getting Over Getting Dumped – How to Mend a Broken Heart

By: noob

noob — Thu, 26 Apr 2012 19:32:15 +0000

My girl and i broke up and its about 13 minutes ago while i’m writing this, the reason why we broke up is the distance she’s in dubai i am here in the philippines, it feels like hell and suddenly i realize i am only the one who’s in love from the very beginning of our relationship it feels like she just give me the chance to have a girlfriend, it’s like one sided love WTF!

By: eko

eko — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 06:23:16 +0000

I am seriously heartbroken right now and need help.
I am 28 years old. The lady whom I love so so dearly and have been with for 3 years, whom also loved me beyond words (or so I thought) just travelled during the yuletide to see her parents. Only to call me and told me that some other guy was coming to ask her hands in marriage and her parents have accepted. I got scared and angry. Gradually, we both started reducing the number of calls we made to each other… before then, whenever we were apart, we talked to each other almost every 30 minutes. At first I thought it was one of our usual quarrels (because we always had quarrels and after a while either she or myself calls back to reconcile), but when I did not receive any call from her after almost 3 weeks I got really, so I checked her out on facebook. That was when I got the real shocker of my life, she had already pasted the other guy’s picture boldly on her facebook page and reffered to him as MINE. I was so devastated beyond belief. So I called her and she told me that her marriage was already 2 months ahead and she’s already in love with the guy. She used harsh words like “GO AND MARRY YOUR MOTHER” and “STUPID”.

I am really heartbroken and need help. Please help me

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 00:33:01 +0000

I agree, Rick: letting go is painful and slow. It takes time to let go completely — and move on with someone new.

Of course, if you see it as “getting dumped”, then mending your broken heart might be more difficult, because there may be some self-esteem issues involved.

By: rick

rick — Sun, 12 Sep 2010 18:49:35 +0000

letting go is awfully painful and slow. No closure is totally hell. Just learned its ok to not let go completely. thought something was wrong with me, but its normal….found someone new and she is terrific, understands my fears and doubts, she is really helping by taking things slow, and thats just what i need. there really is hope for a happier and brighter future. one day at a time…….their loss is your gain…..best wishes…

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Sat, 03 Apr 2010 21:30:24 +0000

Thanks for your comment, Carly!

Focusing on the reasons it’s better that the relationship is over will help you heal faster than if you focus on your lost love, or your feelings of sadness that you “got dumped.”

But, this is definitely easier said than done…
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By: Carly

Carly — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 19:24:33 +0000

I think you are right. If you get dumped the best thing to do is step back and look at why you were in the relationship. It totally sucks getting dumped, but it usually means that something better is on its way.