Reconnecting
If you can’t or aren’t willing to see what’s really going on (or WRONG) with your marriage, then you’ll never get your relationship back on track. The following marriage tips are inspired by two women: a reader who recently commented on my article about marriages ending, and Sheryl Sandberg. Here on Quips and Tips during [...]
You’re married to a great guy, but you’re not happy and want out of the relationship. This reader is in the same boat: she doesn’t want to stay married to her husband, even though he’s a good man. Here’s her comment: “I want out [of my marriage] and can’t figure out why I can’t just [...]
Your partner forgave you for cheating, but you can’t forgive yourself for having the affair. These suggestions for self-forgiveness are inspired by this reader’s comment: “I cheated on my husband a year ago with his best friend, and I’m truly repentant. My husband has decided to forgive me and move on. But, he’s still hurting [...]
Marriage counseling doesn’t help all couples; in fact, it can lead to divorce faster than not going to counseling. Here are four signs couples therapy will help an unhappy relationship. “Does marriage counseling work, or does it cause divorce?” is a valid question. In fact, I wrote 4 Reasons Marriage Counseling Leads to Divorce to explore why [...]
Sometimes a partner is physically present, but emotionally distant. These signs of emotional distance include tips for bridging the gap between you and your partner. Emotional distance is characterized by a lack of an emotional, spiritual, or intellectual level connection with your partner. You know you’re disconnected when your partner just isn’t “there” somehow, when you no [...]
Should you get marriage counseling? First, consider these reasons counseling causes divorce. Then, think about these other options for couples in unhappy marriages. Couples Aren’t Always Honest in Therapy One reason marriage therapy seems to cause divorce is the fact that couples aren’t always honest with their partners or the counselor. Spouses may be ashamed, [...]
Q: I make all the effort to work on our marriage, and my husband doesn’t do anything. I am tired. I want to be cared for. I feel so lonely and unhappy. When we married four years ago, I went against my parents and my husband went against his parents. Recently he stopped caring about [...]
Q: I’ve been thinking of getting a divorce for the past six months. We got married July 10, 2011. We lived together for two years before. My husband didn’t tell me about a lot of debt he was in. I was very upset but I forgave him. Ever since then, there has been one financial [...]
Q: I recently confessed to my wife that I had been cheating for nearly a year. This affair took place while I was away from home on business. The affair was not just physical, we became emotionally involved. I am not attempting to justify my actions. They are beyond justification. Now, my wife and I [...]
Q: My husband never feels “in the mood.” Viagra wouldn’t work. It’s our situation that has caused my husband to have erectile dysfunction. He is an overachiever and for the first time in his life, he feels like he failed at something he set out to do…his manhood is broken and he feels responsible. We [...]
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