Can God Heal You After a Break Up? How Spirituality Helps

If you tried everything to heal after a break up, maybe it’s time to turn to God. Here’s how spirituality will heal your broken heart and revive your life after the end of a relationship.

god healing after breakupGod offers freedom, strength, hope, and healing – but you need to spend time with Him. A devotional such as Jesus Calling: Devotional Journal will give your spiritual life the boost it needs. But, you need to take time to actually spend time with Abba Father! Don’t expect instant healing. Rather, connect with God at different moments during your day.

Some people are good at recovering from pain, hardship, and disappointment, while others have a hard time healing from a paper cut. What makes people resilient? How do strong people heal from bad break ups?

“Without exception, spirituality – the belief in connection, a power greater than self, and interconnections grounded in love and compassion – emerged as a component of resilience,” writes Brene Brown in The Gifts of Imperfection.

How God Helps People Heal From Break Ups

Spirituality isn’t the only way to heal from a bad relationship break up, but it may be one of the best ways. If you’re spiritual, you believe that God or a Higher Power has your best interests at heart, loves you, and wouldn’t do anything to harm you.

Prayer increases forgiveness

Research shows that 9 out of 10 Americans say that they pray – at least on occasion. New research from Florida State University also shows that people who pray have fewer vengeful thoughts and emotions, and are more ready to forgive and move on. Prayer appears to shift attention from one’s self to others, which allows resentment and bad feelings to fade.

If you feel angry, bitter, and resentful because of a bad break up, spirituality can help you let go of the negative emotions and move on to a happier, healthier place. Prayer helps you feel selflessly concerned about others, which increases your ability to forgive and let go.

Speaking of letting go – if you’re holding on tightly to the person you broke up with, read How to Let Go of Someone You Love.

God wants the best for you

I’ve healed from all sorts of disappointing, heartbreaking things in life – including bad breakups – because I believe God loves me. “I love plans to prosper you, not to harm you,” He says in Jeremiah.

It doesn’t matter to me if Christianity is “true” or if God is a male or female. I don’t care if Heaven and Hell don’t exist. All that matters to me is the peace, joy, love, compassion, and hope I feel when I spend time with God.

Spirituality can help you heal from a bad break up by giving you the sense that Someone is looking out for you and wanting the best for you. You begin to believe that all things happen for a reason – and beyond this, that Someone is orchestrating your life for a higher purpose.

Prayer helps women cope with bad relationships

Research with women in abusive relationships shows that prayer helps with releasing negative emotions and changing how we see ourselves.

“During prayer, victims came to see themselves as they believed God saw them. Since these perceptions were mostly positive, it helped raise their senses of self-worth that counteracted their abusers’ hurtful words,” says Shane Sharp, a graduate student studying sociology at UW-Madison.

Can God Heal You After a Break Up

Can God Heal You After a Break Up? How Spirituality Helps

Prayer is also a handy distraction for some people. Simply your folding hands and concentrating on what to say is a reprieve from the anxiety of an abusive relationship or bad break up. The experience isn’t that much different from a conversation with a close friend or a parent, which can be extremely helpful in healing from a break up.

Spirituality holds answers you can’t see

My husband and I can’t have kids, and I firmly believe God is protecting us from something. Maybe it’s a child I can’t handle, or a child with a terminal illness. I don’t know what would’ve happened if Bruce and I had kids, but I choose to believe that for some reason we’re better off without them.

Spirituality has helped me heal from a broken heart by reassuring me that there are reasons for the things that happen in my life. I do not know why my life is unfolding the way it is, or why I’ve had to suffer painful things, but I believe there are reasons for everything.

I welcome your thoughts on whether or not God heals after a bad break up. I can’t offer advice or counseling, but it may help to share how you feel and what you’re experiencing.

If you need more tips for healing after a bad break up, read How to Get Over Your Ex Boyfriend and Heal Your Spirit.

If you’re suffering from the pain of a bad break up, do you think God can heal your heart? Spirituality works in different ways for different people – you don’t have to believe in God to feel connected to the Universe or a higher power.

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3 Responses

  1. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Thank for sharing your thoughts on God’s healing after a break up. It sounds like you’re struggling with feelings of low self-worth, and you can’t move on. It’s so difficult to bounce back after being rejected, even if we know God loves us. Spirituality is helpful, but we sometimes need to pair our belief with concrete action.

    My prayer is that you find healing and strength. May you see yourself the way God sees you: beautiful, loving, creative, and sensitive. May you become wise and seek God’s guidance as you make decisions about your future, and as you meet new men to day. I pray for wisdom as you start dating again, and strength as you seek God’s presence in your relationship.

    May you continue healing from depression, and find restoration in your life. Don’t give up! Keep moving forward and building your relationship with God.


  2. amal says:

    my boyfriend of one year broke up with me in jan. before i went back for my final semester at college a few days after i found out that he is in a relationship with the same young lady that was constantly separating us. it cut me so deep. seeing them happy hurts me and i cant seem to move on or find someone else and it hurts. am i unloveable or unworthy. i ask god what is wrong with me and why do i always attract men who never have respect for me. why did i invest so much only to be left aline and treated like dirt why cant i move on. why is it taking so long. i thank god that i was able to graduate but the scars still remain im still working on forgiveness; healing from depression and restoration of peace and a positive fulfilling life

  1. May 6, 2015

    […] After a breakup, you may feel like God had deserted you. You feel alone and abandoned, unwanted and rejected. It’s depressing and sad to lose someone you love, especially if the breakup was unexpected. You may even feel like all the prayer for healing in the world won’t help you after a breakup – and you might question whether God can heal you after a breakup. […]

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