If you’re alone on New Year’s Eve, you may feel lonely or sad – or maybe you’re happy to be single in New Year! Either way, don’t miss these tips for ringing in the New Year, because they’ll help you feel happy all year long.
Before the tips, a quip:
“Today is a new day. You will get out of it just what you put into it. If you have made mistakes, even serious mistakes, there is always another chance for you…for this thing that we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.” ~ Mary Pickford.
Do you feel like you failed at love or marriage? You can start over – and you don’t have to be in a relationship to give and receive love! Gary Chapman has written two books on “love languages”, and his book for singles is one of the bestselling books on being alone. Take The Five Love Languages for Singles for a spin – it might change your life.
And here are a few things to tips for singles in the New Year…
Single on New Year’s Eve? How to Be Happy Alone
Figure out how you want to spend New Year’s Eve. I’ve celebrated countless New Years with single friends and groups of single people – New Year’s singles cruises, parties, and bashes. Sometimes the evenings were great, and other times they made me sadder and lonelier than I would’ve been if I stayed home alone. How do you want to spend New Year’s Eve? Whether you want to make popcorn and watch Eat Pray Love or find the hottest singles New Year’s Eve party, don’t let your friends or family pressure you into celebrating in ways that aren’t “you.”
Remember that this, too, will pass. Everything comes and goes: love, heartbreak, happiness, bitterness, togetherness, separation. When I was single, it really helped me to remember that it’s just a stage. And now that I’m married, I remind myself all the time I may be single again one day. I’m not aiming to be single, but it could happen – and there are a lot of benefits to the single life. Every stage of life has benefits and downfalls, and everything stage of life eventually passes.
Set your relationship goals. Do you want to be in a relationship – are you ready to meet new people and maybe find your true love? If so, make it a priority to start dating and meet someone new this year. Take continuing education classes, accept all invitations, go on blind dates, and spread the word to your family and friends that you’re open to a love relationship. If you want this to be the last time you’re single on New Year’s Eve, then set your goals and forge ahead!
Figure out if you’re scared of love or intimacy. I didn’t get married until I was 35, and it took a few months of counseling to realize that I was afraid of love. Just being aware of my fear of intimacy helped me overcome it. Many of my friends are unhappily alone, and I often wonder if they’re scared of something. What’s holding them back? It’s not always that there’s no “good men left.” Sometimes we hold ourselves back from love, and then we wonder why we’re single on New Year’s Eve.
Plan an adventure! Give yourself something to look forward to and celebrate in the New Year. How about an exotic vacation in Belize, a singles cruise, a weekend in Vegas, or a local weekend retreat? I traveled a lot as a single woman – I even lived in Africa for three years before I was married – and found that the best way to enjoy life was to get outta town. Instead of focusing on being alone on New Year’s Eve, be kind and generous to yourself by planning an exciting vacation.
If you’re recently single, you might find Letting Go of Someone You Love helpful.
What do you think of these tips for being single on New Year’s Eve — and beyond? I welcome your thoughts below…
I'm glad you're here! My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; my husband Bruce and I live in Vancouver, BC with our critters. We can't have kids, and are learning to accept whatever life brings - both good and bad. I have an MSW (Master of Social Work) from UBC, and degrees in Education and Psychology. I hope you say hello below - I can't give relationship advice, but writing can bring you clarity and insight.