These warning signs of a bad relationship will help you see the truth. It’s important to be honest with yourself, because the sooner you face reality, the sooner you can start over.
Before the tips, an excerpt from Winnie the Pooh:
Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. “Pooh!” he whispered. “Yes, Piglet?” “Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s paw. “I just wanted to be sure of you.” ~ A.A. Milne.
A sign of a good relationship is feeling sure of your partner without having to ask for reassurance. Do you feel secure, happy, fulfilled, and protected? If not, then you may not be in a healthy relationship.
If you’re in a bad relationship with an unhealthy person, read Should I Stay or Should I Go? A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can–and Should–be Saved. You need to go beyond these signs – you need guidance from an expert.
If you’re not ready to invest in a book about relationships, here are ten signs of a love relationship gone bad, to help you decide what to do.
10 Signs of a Bad Relationship
I think the first sign is the worst one, but I’m not in your relationship so I don’t know for sure! The truth is that the biggest sign of a bad relationship is if you feel unhappy, insecure, and unloved.
You keep your partner’s actions and words a secret
If you can’t tell your family or friends about the things your boyfriend or husband says and does, then you may not be in a healthy loving relationship. If you lie to protect him, then it’s time to get out of that bad relationship. You’re not just with the wrong guy…you’re being the wrong type of woman.
Your partner wants you to change
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If your boyfriend or husband doesn’t love you as you are, run for the hills! This is one of the most important signs of bad relationships: a man who doesn’t love or accept you as you are. Your boyfriend or husband should love you unconditionally, whether you’re rich or poor, big or small, or here or there. You know it’s time to get out when you can’t be yourself.
Your partner doesn’t trust you
Constant phone calls, demands on your time, and jealous fits are NOT signs of love! If your husband or boyfriend doesn’t trust you or accuses you of lying, then you need to re-evaluate your love. If he opens your mail or shows up at work unexpectedly, he doesn’t trust you. This is a sign of deep insecurity, which could lead to more serious relationship problems.
Your partner puts you down, in private or in front of others
If he calls you names, ridicules your thoughts or opinions, or makes you feel like a fool, then he’s no good for you! You’re better off to break up with him and start getting over your broken heart.
You don’t feel like an equal partner in your relationship
Does your husband or boyfriend make all the decisions – or do you? An unequal balance of power is a sign of a bad relationship, and a sign it’s time to get out. If you aren’t being treated equally, read When to Leave a Relationship.
You and your partner don’t have the same long or short-term goals
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If you can’t agree on financial issues, family matters, or goals for your future, then you may want to think twice about your relationship. Nobody has the exact same plans for the future, but the happiest couples have the same focus.
Your boyfriend says he loves you, but doesn’t act like he loves you
Believe his nonverbal behavior (his actions) over his verbal behavior (talk is cheap!). Read 4 Ways to Tell If Your Husband is Lying About Cheating for help identifying verbal versus nonverbal behavior.
You feel bad, guilty, unhappy, depressed, or sad about your relationship
This love tip is based on the quip from Piglet and Winnie the Pooh above. If you don’t feel secure, comfortable, and loved in your relationship, then you may be with the wrong guy. If you’re not happy, you know it’s time to get out of a bad relationship.
Your family and friends aren’t supportive of your relationship
I don’t think we should choose our boyfriends or husbands based on our family and friends’ opinions, but I do think we should take their opinions into consideration! If your family or friends have strong reservations about your partner, I encourage you to ask for specific reasons. Find out the root of their feelings, and try to be objective.
Are you staying in a bad relationship because you’re scared to be alone? Read 10 Ways to Move on After a Break Up.
You’re wondering about the warning signs of a bad relationship
The most important warning sign of love gone bad is your gut feeling! Why are you worrying about your relationship? Would you want your sister, best friend, or daughter to be in this relationship? To find the strength and courage to either fix or leave a bad relationship, you may need to talk to a marriage counselor.
If these signs of a bad relationship are point you out the door, read How to End a Relationship. I wrote it for a reader who knows his relationship is bad, but fears being alone.
What do you think – is it time for you to pack your bags and get out of a bad relationship? Comments welcome below.
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