Oct 192014
 
6 Steps to Building an Emotionally Healthy Relationship

Toxic relationships can grow without your awareness, which is why it’s crucial to learn what emotionally healthy relationships are. These six steps to emotional health in all types of relationships will help you be intentional and thoughtful about what you’re creating in your life. In Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, Daniel Goleman describes the five crucial skills of emotional intelligence. He shows how emotional intelligence determines our

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Oct 142014
 
8 Ways to Build Trust in a Relationship

Knowing how to build trust in a relationship is important, especially when trust has been broken or your partner has a difficult time trusting anyone. These eight tips on how to build trust in a relationship are geared towards love and romance, but they apply to all types of relationships. In What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal, John Gottman shares the mysteries of love and describes the

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Oct 112014
 
How to Cope With a Lonely Marriage

When you got married, you didn’t think loneliness would be your constant companion. These six tips on coping with a lonely marriage will help you see why you feel so alone and how to thrive despite your loneliness. In The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope, Leslie Vernick describes how to identify damaging behaviors in marriage and how to gain the skills to respond

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Oct 092014
 
How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

These 10 ways to make sure your long distance relationship works are based on research, and my experience with my husband before we married. Bruce lived on Bowen Island, BC, and I lived in Calgary, AB. We did the long distance thing for about a year, and have now been married for nine years. Dr Gregory Guldner, author of Long Distance Relationships: The Complete Guide, says an important tip on

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Sep 232014
 
How to Stop Blaming Yourself for the Break Up

Are you playing the “blame game” after a break up – and you hate yourself for what happened? These tips on how to stop blaming yourself will help you accept the end of your relationship. I wrote this for a reader whose relationship ended in an unexpected break up. She can’t stop blaming herself, she can’t accept that her relationship is over. In Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the

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Sep 232014
 
Breakup Advice for Women Over 40

Here are 10 smart strategies for healing after a separation or divorce, based on research about overcoming depression after a traumatic event. This is breakup advice for women over 40 who don’t have time to wallow in misery or pain. In Finding Your Way in a Wild New World: Reclaim Your True Nature to Create the Life You Want, Martha Beck guides you to find out how you got to where

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Sep 222014
 
5 Tips for Coping With a Surprise Pregnancy

The inspiration for these tips on how to cope with an unplanned or surprise pregnancy is a 43 year old reader. She commented on my article about having a baby in your 40s – and her experience will help you see you’re not alone. You may feel shocked, confused, and scared – like the wind has been knocked out of you. Here, I offer a few ideas on where and

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Sep 192014
 
How to Recover From Love Addiction

Love addiction recovery may take a few sessions with a relationship counselor, but here’s a starting point: six tips for overcoming the feeling of being addicted to someone you love. In Is It Love or Is It Addiction?, Brenda Schaeffer defines what love addiction is and what it is not. She also describes how to identify what it means to be addicted to a person, and most importantly offers help with

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Sep 182014
 
The Number One Predictor of Divorce

Can you predict whether or not you’ll get divorced? Some know divorce is looming. Knowing the top predictor of divorce is the first step to building a happier, healthier relationship with your partner. If you said “money” when you saw “number one predictor of divorce”, you are correct. Money causes more relationship problems than anything else. In The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage, Michele Weiner

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Sep 182014
 
How to Cope When Your Relationship Falls Apart

When your relationship is falling apart, you may feel helpless, confused, and scared. These tips for coping when your relationship falls apart will give you something to hang on to – and show you that you’re not alone. These four ways to cope with a relationship meltdown are from Daphne Rose Kingma’s book, The Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart: An Emotional and Spiritual Handbook. For an in-depth look

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