4 Tips for Overcoming Perfectionism for Writers

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Writers who try to be perfect are less likely to get published because they never finish. Here’s how to overcome perfectionism for writers, from a full-time freelance writer who more often than not hits “send” before an article pitch is ready. I polish articles until they gleam, but am trigger happy with my pitches!

writing perfectionismPerfectionism for writers can lead to paralysis, procrastination, and pressure – but not publication. For more info about perfectionism, read The Pursuit of Perfect: How to Stop Chasing Perfection and Start Living a Richer, Happier Life by Tal Ben-Shahar, PhD. You’ll learn how to write freely and happily, without worrying about being a perfect writer.

How to Overcome Perfectionism for Writers

“I went for years not finishing anything,” said Jong, author of Fear of Flying. “Because, of course, when you finish something you can be judged…I had poems that were re-written so many times I suspect it was just a way of avoiding sending them out.”



1. Try to fail more often

“One of my wishes for my students is that they should fail more often,” writes Ben-Shahar. “If they fail frequently, it means that they try frequently, that they put themselves on the line and challenge themselves.” To overcome perfectionism, keep reminding yourself that the most successful writers in history are the ones who failed the most. Your book, query, or proposal may not be perfect – but it exists. It may not get published – but you sent it out there.

2. Snuggle up to failure and criticism

A woman recently told me that she doesn’t like strangers criticizing her writing, so she only shows her unpublished book to certain people. Fellow scribes, if you want to be a successful writer you have to get comfortable with criticism and rejection! It can be heartbreaking (or just annoying) to get feedback about your writing, but it will make you a better writer.

Show your imperfect article pitches, book proposals, and novels to whoever will read them – and learn to embrace their honest reactions. This doesn’t mean you have to apply suggestions, it just means accept them with an open mind and heart.

3. Reframe how you see rejection

Tips for Overcoming Perfectionism for Writers

How to Overcome Perfectionism for Writers

To overcome procrastination as a writer, stop seeing rejections or criticism as shameful, or as evidence of weakness or lack of talent. Instead, see failure as something associated with healthy risk, uncertainty, and improvement.

“If you want to increase your success rate, double your failure rate,” said Thomas J. Watson. Learn to view the rejections or criticisms you get from editors, publishers, agents, or fellow writers as stepping stones to publishing success. This will keep you writing confidently and boldly.

If rejection is your weak point, read 10 Tips for Dealing With Rejection for Writers.

4. Balance harsh reality with high hopes

No matter how perfect your book proposal, novel, or article pitch is – it may never get published. That’s the harsh reality: it’s hard to get published and earn money from writing.

To overcome perfectionism, you need to accept that some brilliant works never see the light of day. Instead of agonizing over every detail in your writing, make sure your work is the best you can do. Not perfect….just your very best.

What are your tips for overcoming perfectionism, fellow scribes? Are you a perfectionist – and does it lead to procrastination or paralysis?




May you write imperfectly, and be happy with your writing.

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10 Responses

  1. Laurie says:

    Another tip on how to overcome perfectionism for writers is to get objective feedback on your writing. Join a critique group or take a writing class. Get used to showing your work…develop a thick skin!

  2. L.S. says:

    Overcoming procrastination for writers is really hard. Thank you for these tips.

  3. Rick says:

    Perfectionism is why I don’t start my own blog. My writing doesn’t seem good enough.

  4. Laurie PK says:

    Hi Tumblemoose, thanks for your comment! I’m definitely not a perfectionist either…in fact, I tend to overlook the details for the big picture and am usually in a hurry to get things done. Not traits of perfectionism, to be sure.

    India, good luck with overcoming perfectionism. I hope you find what works, and welcome your comments and questions anytime!

    Laurie
    .-= Laurie PK´s last blog post ..5 Essential Tips for Better Writing From a Publication Coach =-.

  5. India says:

    Hi,

    I struggle with perfectionism in all aspects of my life — not just writing. Thanks for these tips!

    India

  6. Tumblemoose says:

    Hi Laurie,

    I’m *so* not a perfectionist. This can work to my disadvantage at times, but overall it helps me to keep my sanity.

    When it’s time for a re-write, when it’s time to submit final to the editor – yes, I strive for perfection.

    George

    Tumblemoose’s last blog post..The Flash Fiction e-book is published

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