I’m sorry about your ectopic pregnancy, and the removal of your Fallopian tube. It’s heartbreaking and stressful! Surgeries like that aren’t just difficult to undergo, they have huge effects on the rest of our lives (such as getting pregnant in the future, as you know).

This wasn’t something you did to yourself; it’s just something that happened to your body. IVF and other fertility procedures aren’t easy or fun, but they can give you the outcome you want: a happy, healthy baby!

Please take a deep breath. You’ve probably had time to get some sleep, and get used to the idea of in vitro fertilization treatments. I hope you’re feeling more comfortable with the idea, and that you feel better about what the future holds.

Take it one day at a time, my friend. Let your body and spirit heal, and know that you ARE moving in the right direction. You and your husband will end up exactly where you’re supposed to be – you just need to keep taking deep cleansing breaths, and take it one hour at a time.

I hope this helps, and hope you let us know how you’re doing.

Blessings,
Laurie

According to WebMD, a laparoscopy is a surgery that uses a thin, lighted tube put through a cut (incision) in the belly to look at the abdominal organs or the female pelvic organs . Laparoscopy is used to find problems such as cysts, adhesions, fibroids , and infection. Tissue samples can be taken for biopsy through the tube (laparoscope).

In many cases laparoscopy can be done instead of laparotomy surgery that uses a larger incision in the belly. Laparoscopy can be less stressful and may have less problems and lower costs than laparotomy for minor surgeries. It can often be done without needing to stay overnight in the hospital.

This procedure might help your doctor figure out why the IVFs didn’t work, which may help you get pregnant in the future!

Since I have not experienced ridicule or any negative feedback from my friends and family, I did not realize how devastating it can be. I admire and respect you for your positive and encouraging attitude, and for building yourself up despite your feelings of loss and disappointment.

May God bless you in other ways, if He does not give you a child. I feel He has blessed me in other ways – if I focus on the good things in my life!

Sincerely,
Laurie

I’m happy that the old fashioned way worked for you! And I’m glad you commented, because it’s important for women to see that even if in vitro fertilization didn’t work, there is still hope for getting pregnant other ways.

And, adoption is a loving, compassionate, wonderful way to have a family. There are so many kids who need to be loved…maybe instead of spending all that time, effort, energy, and health on IVF, couples could consider adopting…I know not everyone wants to adopt, but it’s worth at least thinking about.

Know the infertility route is not your only way. Adoption works – I know people with very complete and loving families because they opted for adoption – either because IVF failed them or they simply thought their advanced age wouldn’t produce results with IVF so they didn’t even go there.

If you opt to adopt you’re not admitting to failure – you’re opening your heart and horizons to other avenues and if in the end you have a complete and loving family – isn’t it worth looking into? By the way there are many possibilities for domestic adoption today..

Just remember IVF fails many wonderful competent women and men – don’t let it eat you up and suck out everything you and your partner have – if you need to create a family – please consider all your options – there are children out there right now who would love to have you as a mother!

I’m sorry to hear about yours and your husband’s struggles. However, I believe that the extreme stress and the pressure your husband has been put upon himself has caused the issue. I believe it can be corrected with the help of therapy and the alternative medicine to bring his adrenal health back into balance. I’ve seen it work for different issues and I’m a big believer. The main thing is finding a good recommended acupuncturist/naturopath as well as the therapist for your husband and start the recovery process. One other suggestion, have you husband try taking DIM supplements. They help to bring estrogen/testesterone hormones into balance. Do your own research on it.
I sincerely wish you all the best!

I’m really sorry that your IVF failed yet again. You tried so hard to get pregnant with all those attempts at in vitro fertilization, and then you get disappointed over and over. It’s heartbreaking, and exhausting both physically and emotionally.

My heart breaks for you. I wish IVF would have worked, and I’m sorry it didn’t. I hope you will heal, and be able to feel sincere joy and peace in your life.

In sympathy,
Laurie