Why Can’t I Have a Baby? Reasons for Problems Conceiving

If you’re asking “Why can’t I have a baby?”, you need to read these reasons for problems conceiving a baby. They include irregular menstrual cycles, low sperm count, and prescription medications.

According to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, infertility is the result of a disease (an interruption, cessation, or disorder of body functions, systems, or organs) of the male or female reproductive tract which prevents the conception of a child or the ability to carry a pregnancy to delivery. A couple should be trying to conceive for about 12 months before they take an infertility evaluation – unless medical history, age, or physical findings dictate earlier evaluation and treatment.

The following reasons for problems conceiving are related to health issues, medical history, and age. To learn more about getting pregnant, read Making Babies: A Proven 3-Month Program for Maximum Fertility – it’s one of the most popular fertility books on Amazon.com.

And, here are several reasons you might be having a problem conceiving a baby…



Why Can’t I Have a Baby? Reasons for Problems Conceiving

Age – for Both Men and Women Trying to Conceive a Baby

If you’re older than age 35, you may find yourself asking “Why can’t I have a baby?” more often than if you’re 24! Both male and female fertility rates decrease with age – though of course there are always women who get pregnant after age 40. It’s just less likely, and a little more risky. At age 30, the average woman’s chance of conceiving during any one cycle is 20%. By age 40, her chance of getting pregnant drops to 5%.

If you’re over age 35 and you want to have a baby, talk to your doctor – especially if you’ve been trying to conceive for six months.

Irregular Menstrual Cycles and/or Problems With Ovulation

If your period isn’t regular, you may have trouble getting pregnant. If your menstrual cycles aren’t 28 days long (less than 24 days, or more than 35 days), or if they’re  unpredictable, then you should speak with your doctor. An irregular cycle may be a sign of possible ovulation problems.

Watching for your natural signs of ovulation can help you get pregnant because they reveal the most fertile time of the month. Yes, you can get pregnant at other times during your cycle (we all know women who have!), but your chances of pregnancy are increased if you focus on certain times of the month.

Period Problems – Excessive or Light Bleeding

If your period lasts for 3 to 7 days, you’re considered normal. But if your menstruation is very light, or very heavy and intense, then you might have ovarian cysts or other health issues that can affect your ability to have a baby. Your period can offer hints to the reasons you’re having problems conceiving: if your bleeding changes significantly in heaviness or coloring, or length of bleeding time, or if you suffer from severe menstrual cramps, you may have fertility problems.

Chronic Illness or Prescription Medications

Chronic illnesses and their related prescription medication treatments can lead to the whole “Why can’t I have a baby?” question. According to The American Fertility Association, illnesses like diabetes and hypothyroidism can cause fertility problems or problems conceiving a baby. Insulin, antidepressants, and thyroid hormones may lead to irregular cycles. Tagamet (cimetidine), a medication used in the treatment of peptic ulcers, and some hypertension medications can cause male factor infertility, including problems with sperm production or their ability to fertilize the egg. If you are dealing with chronic illness, or taking a medication that impacts your fertility, talk to your doctor about ways to stay healthy and have a baby!

These are just a few reasons men and women have problems conceiving a baby. There are others — such as low or no sperm count, endometriosis, unhealthy lifestyles, and being over or underweight.

If you’re struggling with the “Why can’t I have a baby?” question, you may find Fertility Help – 10 Tips for Fertility and Getting Pregnant helpful.


And if you have any questions or thoughts on conceiving a baby, please comment below…



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Welcome - I'm glad you're here! I can't give advice, but you're welcome to share your experience below. I'm a writer in Vancouver; my degrees are in Psychology, Education, and Social Work. I live with my husband, two dogs, and cat. We are childless, & have made peace with it. It helps to love Jesus :-)

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  1. Needs some advice says:

    Hey I see some these story’s and their heart breaking just like mine I can’t relate with a lot of you but really I just need some advice…I’ve tried for over 8 years to have a child with my bf of 9 years..when I was about 14 I got pregnant by him I was so scared I didn’t tell anyone for almost 5 months then my mom found out. We didn’t have a lot of money and my mom was gonna send my away and I didn’t want to make things harder on my family for a mistake I had made…so the rest of my family got involved and pretty much forced me to have an abortion..I really didn’t want to and they kept telling me it would be ok and I could go on to have children when I was ready..so instead of making it harder on my single mom raising 4 kids I gave in and ended up getting an abortion at 6 months it was a 2 day procedure and it was the worst experience of my life..thinking I would be able to have kids when I was ready was the only think that kept my mind at ease..expect for when I tried again and again and again and again and again and nothing time after time..everyday my hope went down and every year I got a more and more depressed…till it pretty much became unbearable I think about it all the time my sister had two kids and all my friends and everyone around me had kids..eventually me and my bf broke up over this and I can’t have a healthy relationship with a man who has kids because I can’t have that with him. I’m jealous..everyday and every time I look at tv or fb or in the stores it reminds me of what I can’t have..no one knows about what I’m going threw and it sucks having no one to talk to about it and when I mentioned it to my gyno they kinda just brush it off..so I’m kinda outta options and I need answers before I go completely insane over it..so my question is does anyone think that me not being able to conceive has to do with the abortion I had when I was younger? How could I get pregnant so quick then not at all..I feel like that was my only chance and I gave it up..I feel like why can’t I do what most women can do I don’t really feel like a women because that’s what were suppose to do..so I just need a few answers or some advice or someone who’s been threw something similar…I just some kind of hope!

  2. maribel says:

    I went to see my Dr in 2008 and he told me i had ovarian cysts and he told me he was going to give me shots to go away after that happend i went to mexico in 2009 and when i went to see the doctor they told me i have cysts agina they give me some herbal supplements and when i went to go see the doc agina they checked me from under there and put a cam in side of me and they told my tubes where fine and there where not blocked they checked for endometriois them test came out ok so know at 31 years old i wont to know what to do. Thanks maribel

  3. Cheadale says:

    hello laurie just wanna ask u why i cant get preggy now i have 3 kids all is girls n my oldest is 16 now and 14 n my youngest is 10 i really want to get baby now boy we try many time but till now im not lucky but i share u onething i feels deff.with my matrix is sounds always get pain but when i try to visit doctor just ther eis nothing so plz tell me wat should i do now?

  4. Thanks for your tips, Lisa. That’s great that you figured out why you can’t have a baby, and that you found and solved your reasons for problems conceiving!

    But remember — no woman should take ANYTHING without getting her doctor’s approval first, especially if she wants to get pregnant!

    Never, ever take any medication without talking to your doctor first. Even herbal supplements or medications can be harmful to your health. I know you want to get pregnant and are frustrated because you can’t have a baby, but you need to be cautious, my friends.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  5. I found myself unable to have a baby at age 38. I had a migraine and went to Southern Hills Hospital in Las Vegas to get relief. A student working w/Dr. Lemon came in and spent about 15 minutes or longer discussing my medical history and health. I had just had a miscarriage and hand not been able to get any answers as to why it happened. The student suggested trying Tagamet/Cimetidine to balance out my high testosterone levels. He said it wasn’t recommended for men anymore because they developed larger breasts when taking it. I grieved over my miscarriage for months and put it in the back of my mind. When I was ready to try again I bought some generic Tagament from Target (about $2.00 w/tax) and was pregnant within 2 weeks! I had my daughter @ 41 and she will be 1 next month! I’ve told many people and everyone who took Tagamet was able to have a baby! These are people who were unable to get pregnant before! This is information most Dr.s won’t tell you because IVF is $25,000 and this information would cut down on their profits.

    I hope this helps others. I wish I could remember the med student’s name so I could thank him.

  6. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Hello Marta,

    Thanks for your tips — I totally agree that it’s so important to do your research (and get as healthy as possible to avoid problems conceiving a baby!). And then relax and let nature take its course.

    Sometimes it’s easier said than done — relaxing so you get pregnant faster — but it really is important when you’re wondering why you can’t have a baby.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  7. Marta says:

    I think it’s really important to do your research then relax and let nature take it’s course. There are so many natural ways to increase your chances of becoming pregnant. I found the information on this free site helpful too.

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