Why Can’t You Get Pregnant? Reasons for Not Conceiving a Baby
Are You Ready to Get Pregnant, But Can't?
These fertility checklists can help you figure out why you can’t get pregnant, and if you should see a fertility doctor or infertility specialist.
The reasons for not conceiving a baby range from azoospermia (no sperm) to irregular periods.
“Couples who have sought specialist help and have been diagnosed with ‘unexplained fertility’ may find that making certain lifestyle changes can assist in conception,” writes Michael Dooley in Fit for Fertility: Overcoming Infertility and Preparing for Pregnancy. “These fertility checklists might be useful.”
If you’re ready to ramp your fertility level up a notch — and deal with the “Why can’t I get pregnant?” question once and for all – read Fit for Fertility: Overcoming Infertility and Preparing for Pregnancy.
And, here are Dooley’s ”fit for fertility” checklists…
Why You Can’t Pregnant and Conceive a Baby
The Fit for Fertility Checklist is made up of four individual checklists, for the egg, the sperm, conception, and general male and female fertility problems.
Fertility Checklist #1: The Egg (Female Fertility)
Answer yes or no to the following questions:
- Are you having irregular, short (less than 21 days) or long (greater than 34 days) periods?
- Do you bleed between your periods?
- Are you overweight (with a body mass index greater than 25)?
- Are you underweight (with a body mass index under 18.5)?
- Do you exercise excessively?
- Have you had treatment for cancer?
- Are you being treated for depression?
- Do you have diabetes?
- Have you ever had thyroid problems?
- Have you stopped having periods?
If your periods aren’t regular, read I Want to Get Pregnant! Tips for Regulating Your Menstrual Cycle.
Another helpful article: When You Can’t Predict Your Periods and Want to Get Pregnant.
Fertility Checklist #2: The Sperm (Male Fertility)
Answer yes or no to the following questions:
Have you had an operation on your testicles?
Have you had a hernia repair?
Is there blood in your ejaculate?
Have you had mumps?
Have you had an injury to your testicles?
Do you have any family members with cystic fibrosis?
Have you had a vasectomy?
Are you overweight (with a body mass index greater than 25)?
Are you taking medication for a peptic ulcer?
Do you have diabetes?
If you think you can’t get pregnant because of sperm problems, read How to Increase Male Fertility and Improve Sperm Count.
Fertility Checklist #3: Getting Pregnant
Answer yes or no to the following questions:
- Do you have intercourse less than twice a week?
- Do you have a problem with intercourse?
- Do you have pain with intercourse?
- Does your partner have problems with erection?
- Does your partner have premature ejaculation?
- Have you had pelvic inflammatory disease?
- Have you had an operation on your abdomen (eg, a burst appendix)?
- Do you have discharge?
- Have you had an ectopic pregnancy?
Make sure you have intercourse at the right time (when you’re ovulating)! That’s one of the best ways to get pregnant. Read When Am I Ovulating?
Fertility Checklist #4: General Male and Female Fertility Problems
Answer yes or no to the following questions:
- Do you have a good, healthy diet?
- Do you smoke or drink excessive amounts of alcohol?
- Have you been exposed to environmental hazards?
- Have you tried to conceive before without success?
- Are you under significant stress?
- Do you spend a lot of time apart?
- Do you drink excessive amounts of caffeine?
- Do you take regular medications?
- Do you use recreational drugs?
- Do you have a history of a genetic problem?
If you answered “yes” to one or more of these questions, you need to talk to a doctor about why you can’t get pregnant. Make an appointment with your family physician doctor, and consider talking to a fertility specialist.
Natural cures for fibroids, ovarian cysts, or yeast infections:
If you’re stressed, you may find How to Relax When You’re Trying to Get Pregnant helpful.
If you have any questions or thoughts on why you can’t get pregnant, please comment below. Please note that I can’t offer medical advice! I can only offer support, general education, and tips.
Category: Female Infertility Tips, Getting Pregnant, Health & Wellness
Dear Rosalie,
Yes, it is SO discouraging to get your hopes up every month, and then get your period. It’s frustrating and heartbreaking.
If you’ve been trying for over a year but can’t get pregnant, then you need to see a doctor. Both you and your husband should get some basic fertility tests done, to see whether it’s male or female fertility problems.
I know it’s a drag to see the doctor – and it can be expensive if you don’t have medical insurance – but it’s far better to find out what you’re up against! Don’t keep banging your head against a brick wall; go see a doctor and find out why you can’t get pregnant.
Let me know how it goes…I’d love to hear how you’re doing. If you’re nervous about getting a gynecological exam, let me know. I’ve written articles about it!
Blessings,
Laurie
Dear Cristina,
I’m sorry to hear you’re having trouble getting pregnant with your second child. A friend of mine is in the exact same boat, and wants to have a second baby SO badly.
Has your husband had his sperm checked? Have you gone to the doctor to see how your ovaries and “female parts” are functioning? You really should get checked out if you’ve been trying to get pregnant almost a year without success.
Here’s an article I wrote for women who can’t get pregnant a second time:
What to Do When You Can’t Get Pregnant With Your Second Child
I hope it helps, and that you and your husband go get checked in person…and that you get pregnant fast!
Blessings,
Laurie
Hello Jesse,
Have you tried timing your ovulation, so you’re having sex at the exact time your eggs are ready to be fertilized? There are many ways to figure that out, from taking your temperature to checking your cervical mucus (ick!) to getting an ovulation predictor kit.
I think ovulation predictor kits are the best way to go. Here’s an article about that:
Should You Use an Ovulation Predictor Kit If You’re Trying to Conceive?
And, be aware that 1/3 of couples who can’t get pregnant have “unexplained infertility.” Doctors don’t always know why women can’t get pregnant – and they don’t always know why women DO get pregnant! It really is a mystery, despite all the research and advances they’ve made.
Keep trying, my friend. Most couples DO get pregnant – it just takes some longer than others!
About HIV; I know a couple who is adopting a baby with HIV. It’s not easily spread — and it’s definitely nothing to be ashamed of.
I wish you all the best, and would LOVE to hear from you when you’re pregnant. Or even if you’re not
Try timing your ovulation…and it probably wouldn’t hurt to reduce your caffeine intake (that’s what the fertility doctors told me…just one cup of coffee a day, and minimal chocolate and soda pop).
Blessings,
Laurie
hi,
i want help with my condition
I am married to a wonderful 34 years old man, I am 23..we are happy together and we’ve decided to establish a family together with a baby
We are married since 4 months now and trying since the 1st day to conceive a baby.
but no pregnancy happened till now.
I have 26 days cycle for periods but normal hormonal changes (according to the doctor) happened to me during the last two months, please see below my periods dates for the last three months.
10 July 2011
7 August 2011
26 August 2011
18 September 2011
I have always had a regular cycle. why i had hormonal changes? is it normal as the doctor said
Everything is fine with my husband and the doctor said that there is nothing wrong with me too.
So why i didn’t get pregnant? what tips do you have. shall we do intercourse day after day to increase the possibility of getting pregnant? please i need your advice.
btw i have completed 8 cycles of clomid and i plan not to take anymore of it !
Hi ,
Please help me im very stressed , i have been tryin for 3 years n not once i fell pregnant , docs say that i have pcos as i ovulate once in 2-3 months time although i get periods every month and in the past i had high prolactin , FSH and LH ,i also had 2 dialation and cuttrage done as i had developed a polyp twice but thankfully it was taken off. My husband has a normal sperm count. I am always trying to lose weight and my doc says that i am fine but i jus dont get it why i have neve concieved. plz help if you can . i dont drink coffee , no alcohol or smoking , yes i eat chocolote but i’ll stop that to0 for sure . plz help !! :’(
hi, im 22 years old i’ve been trying to get pregnant for almost a year now but never could,last year i have an abortion it was unmedicated i didn’t see a doctor i just drink the pill and some infecttion pill then a few months later i found out i had chlamedia then i go for the pill for only 4 months then i stop taking them since then it’s been a disappointment every month when i have my period. should i go see a doctor to see if something wrong or it just not my moment to become pregnant?
Hello,
My fiance and I have been trying for over a year now to get pregnant. Every month we try and get our hopes up and get them knocked down. I’m very close to just going to the doctor and asking them to do it. It wouldn’t be the same as me and my fiance making a baby on our own. I’ve taken Pregnatal Vitimins for increase fertility, have enjoyable sex and we have sex 3 times out of the week and have sex on my most fertal days. I need help and advice because we want a baby so bad and keep getting knocked down, discouraged and we’re thinking that we’ve tried everything. Please Help!
Hello,
Im 27 and I have a 6 year old little girl. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for almost a year and no luck,really stressing us out because we are both betting older. He does smoke and I have gained weight also my period the past two times have been 45days apart I need advice we want a baby so bad!!
Hello its me again
I’m not afraid to say I have HIV and like I said before everything on that is while taking care of. My husband and I both have been seen by a doctor And they say we are fine there is nothing wrong with him or me. In fact I just seen my doctor today and my husband got check at the beginning of this yr. So is there something we maybe missing?
Dear Jennifer,
I have a fibroid too; I think the reason people can’t agree about whether they cause infertility is that sometimes they do and sometimes they don’t! It depends where the fibroid is, how big it is, how old it is, how it impacts your uterus, etc.
My doctor recommended surgery to remove my fibroid, to create the “ideal circumstances” for getting pregnant. But we don’t have sperm (my husband has azoospermia), so I made the decision not to have surgery. If we had sperm, I would’ve had the surgery.
I suggest you get your fibroids checked again; they do change in size as time goes by. Ask the doctor what he or she thinks now about surgery. Find out what the risks are for fibroid surgery (there are always risks for ANY surgery, but often they’re low).
Also, here’s a resource that might help:
3 Steps to Getting Rid of Fibroids Holistically
I haven’t tried it myself.
I hope this helps, and wish you all the best in getting pregnant sooner rather than later!
Blessings,
Laurie
Dear Rachel,
I know it seems like you’ve been trying to get pregnant FOREVER, but it’s only been six months! It takes most couples a year to get pregnant (though some get pregnant the first time they have sex).
Have you tried timing intercourse with an ovulation predictor kit? The best way to get pregnant is to have sex when the egg is coming down the chute – that’s when you want to send the sperm up to meet it!
Here’s an article that may help:
Should You Use an Ovulation Predictor Kit If You’re Trying to Conceive?
Don’t lose hope, my friend. You’ll get pregnant eventually — most women do!
Blessings,
Laurie
Dear Sandra,
Have you and your boyfriend been examined by a doctor? He needs to get his sperm count checked, and you need to get your ovaries and other “girly parts” checked! The only way to figure out why you can’t get pregnant is to get examined in person by a gynecologist (for you) and a urologist (for him).
It takes most couples a year on average to get pregnant. After three years of trying, you’re definitely coping with infertility. I’m sorry – I know how frustrating and sad it is.
Get yourselves to doctors, and see what they say, okay?
Blessings,
Laurie
Dear Jesse,
An STD can affect your chances of getting pregnant – it depends on many factors, though (eg, the type of STD, what effect it had on your body, etc).
Have you been examined in person by a gynecologist? That’s the best way to figure out why you can’t get pregnant, and how to proceed.
Has your husband had his sperm checked? 33% of problems getting pregnant are because of male fertility, so it’s always good to have the guy checked out.
Many couples can’t get pregnant the second time around. It’s very disappointing and frustrating! Getting pregnant seems so easy for some, and impossible for others…I know how disheartening it is.
Go to a gynecologist, and get examined. That will help you figure out the next step.
I wish you all the best in getting pregnant!
Blessings,
Laurie
Dear Jessica,
Yes, I definitely think there’s hope for you and your husband! I don’t know how long you’ve been trying to get pregnant, but as you know it takes most couples a year on average to conceive. Sometimes it doesn’t matter how much caffeine you take, how often you drink or smoke, or how much you weigh. Other times, it does! Every couple is different, and every body is different.
Have you tried having sex when you are ovulating? One of the best ways to get pregnant is to get an ovulation predictor kit, and time intercourse so the sperm meets the egg at the exact right time.
Here’s an article that will help:
Ovulation Predictor Kits – The Best Way to Tell If You’re Ovulating
And, I think you should try to cut down on the caffeine. Can you have one cup of coffee a day, and eliminate other sources of caffeine (eg, soda pop, chocolate)? You can’t stop taking your meds, but you can cut down in other ways
I hope this helps, and wish you all the best in conceiving your first baby!
Blessings,
Laurie
Dear Nitin,
Have you talked to a doctor about why your wife can’t stay pregnant for more than three months? I’m sorry, but I can’t tell you what is happening with her body….she really needs to get examined in person by a gynecologist or fertility doctor.
I wish you all the best – I hope your wife can carry a pregnancy to term very soon!
Blessings,
Laurie
Dear Divya,
The only way to tell why you can’t get pregnant is to get examined in person by a gynecologist or fertility doctor. And, get your husband tested as well – his sperm may not be healthy. Or maybe he doesn’t have sperm at all! For many women who can’t get pregnant, it’s a sperm issue.
Get tested in person – that’s the best way to find out why you can’t get pregnant.
Blessings,
Laurie
Dear Jane,
I think you need to undergo those tests from your gynecologist in order to find out why you can’t get pregnant. The best way to solve the problem is to get information that is specifically related to your body, which you can’t do over the internet!
I’m glad your fiance had his sperm checked, because problems getting pregnant are caused by poor sperm as often as by female health issues.
Your best bet is to take those tests, and hope that they uncover a potential health issue. There’s nothing worse than “unexplained infertility”, which means that there’s nothing you can do to get pregnant! Except keep trying, of course. I think it’s better to have an actual reason for not getting pregnant, because then you can try to deal with it.
Keep me posted on how the tests turn out. I wish you all the best.
Blessings,
Laurie
Dear Mimwe,
Thanks for asking such an important question! Your experience puts a whole different twist on the “why can’t I get pregnant?” question.
I wrote this article for you:
When You Feel Guilty for Having an Abortion – How to Heal
It includes links to articles about getting pregnant. I hope it helps, and welcome your thoughts there or here.
Blessings,
Laurie
Ok, I have had one prior pregnancy and what was in 2005. I had an ectopic pregnancy removed in April of that year. My doctor was able to save my tube since I was only 25 and had no children. I have not been able to get pregnant since then. I am on my second marriage so I’m going to assume it is not infertility on the males part. I have uterine fibroids. I have read many different forums and there is a split decision it seems like on whether they can cause infertility. My doctor put me on lupron to shrink them and then wanted to cut me open and shave them down some more. I don’t know what I did not do it, but I was just not comfortable with that decision. That was over two years ago. I’ve read about fibroid embolism. I am at a loss of what to do. I will be 32-years-old in October. HELP!!!!
Hi I am 20 yrs old and my husband and I have been trying to concieve for 6 months, I’m doing everything right…we both eat right I ttc when I’m ovulating, I get regular periods every month, I’ve never been on birth control before and I just don’t understand why I haven’t gotten pregnant
Hi, I am 27yrs old and I have been with my fiance for 4 yrs. We have been TTC for 3. I have a 6yr old and had an abortion 4yrs ago before I met my fiance. I am in good health, I dont smoke, I drink occasionally and im not over weight. My periods come every 29 days but a have been experiencing slight spotting (just on tissue when I clean myself) 3 days before AF. Im desperate I would love to be a mother again and I dont know what to do. My fiance is very athletic, he doesn’t smoke or drink too much caffein and we have sex on a regular basis. Today AF should arrive:(
Hello I’m Jesse
Me and my husband both 28 and we have been trying for little over a yr now. I’m married and we both have a child outside of are marriage. Period is fine or least I’m under a lot of stress than I may miss a month but that as only happen once. Now the down side to all of this is that I have a STD but I’m on medical for it and I’m doing fine no problems far as that goes. I have done just about everything there is that is affordable. What should we do. It hurts like hell when the end of the month come and my girlfriend show up. Me and my husband really want a baby in are marriage. Please help in any way u can. Thank u
Hi I love how you respond to peoples questions on here! Here’s my story;
I’m 21 going on 22, about 15llbs overweight, I don’t smoke, I drink socially maybe once or twice a month but not excessively, I do however need caffine everyday! As well as I’m prone to migranes and the medication I take has caffine in it. My husband and I haven’t used protection since january, I’m not stressing about it its a ‘if it happpens it happens’ thing I’m just wondering what’s happening? Haha. I was on BC for 1 year and stopped around june 2010 due to a painful cyst that developed on my overy.(could that make me infertile?) We have sex quite regularly, if not everyday every two days including during my period (we are newlyweds and both really enjoy it! Hehe;) ) my husband does smoke however and I read that can lower spermcount, but there are so many who smoke and still reproduce without probs?? I’m starting to think it just won’t happen for us, I know we must keep trying for a year, but we’re so young? He is 23. We also did in the past frequently smoke marijuana but haven’t for over a year. Do you think there’s hope for us? All around me are happy coupples with babies and though I’m not stressing about it I would like to have my own..we are young but financially stable, and should be biologically primed for reproducing, I hope my BC didn’t permently damage my overies
hi,
i m 30 and my wife is 34 we got married before three years. she is quite over weight. she lost 17 kgs. now she is 80 kgs. we had three miscarriges. we both dnt have any porblem. we did all the tests.
all the three miscarrege were in three months. fetous is not carring more than three months. we both r very much fustrate. now we r planing for pregnancy. so please suggest us. wat should v do?
Hi,
I am 23, me and my husband have trying to get pregnent from past 3 months but its not happening i have my regular periods there is no problem, but 2 yrs back i had an abortion and i used some unwanted pills also, plz help me is there any problem to get conceive.
Hi, Really need your help. My fiance and I have been trying to conceive for about 8 months now, I have had 2 terminations in the past (both pregnancies were to my fiance), we are both healthy, I no longer smoke cigarettes,drink coffee or soda, he has thyroid problems in which they dont work so he is on medication. He was on steroids about 16 months ago but he has had several sperm tests since then and they have all come back fine now.
I have been checking basal temperature every day to pin point the correct days to try, and am seeing my gyno but looks like i have to have a whole bunch of tests, can you think of anything ?
hi,
im 21, me and my husband have trying to get pregnant but no luck, i have been pregnant before with my ex but had an abortion and now i am scared if i was cursed for doing that lol i know its crazy but i feel so bad and getting stressed about it.
this month, my period was 3 days late and i really thought i was pregnant but had my period yesterday, and it just made me sad. i have been taking vitamins and having regular sex especially during my ovbulation time but yet no luck. is there any advice on how to conceive.
Also, Danii — you’re not doing anything WRONG!
People who don’t want to get pregnant, or crackheads and tweakers, are getting pregnant not because of things they do RIGHT. They’re getting pregnant because conception is often unexplainable and mysterious.
Getting pregnant isn’t about doing things right or wrong. It’s about biology, and our bodies being what they are and doing what they do. It’s the same as getting a disease like cancer or a mental illness…it’s not about how we act and what we do…most of the time, it’s just random and inexplicable.
Hugs,
Laurie
Dear Danii,
I’m sorry to hear you can’t get pregnant…3 years is such a long time to keep getting disappointed about not having a baby!
Has your husband’s sperm been checked? Sperm problems are equally as responsible for not getting pregnant as female fertility problems. If he doesn’t have those little swimmers, you won’t ever get pregnant. His sperm may need a boost — but first you need to investigate them.
Here’s an article about male fertility tests:
Male Fertility Tests You Can Do at Home
The best way to tell if you’re ovulating is to get tested by a doctor. He or she can do an ultrasound to see and even measure how many follicles and eggs you’re producing every month (or if you’re ovulating at all).
If you’ve been to one doctor, I think it’s worth getting a second opinion.
You might also want to try a naturopathic physician instead of a traditional MD. You never know — some of those naturopaths have been very successful at helping women get pregnant! It just depends on the reason you’re not conceiving.
The bleaker perspective is unexplained infertility, which about 30% of why couples can’t get pregnant. Doctors don’t know what’s going on with unexplained infertility, which is almost worse than a diagnosis of no sperm or no ovulation.
But, you have to stay positive! I know it doesn’t seem like it, but you’re YOUNG. You have time to explore your options, and even start saving money for fertility treatments.
Here’s another article to read:
How to Know When You Need to Find a Fertility Doctor
I hope this helps a bit, and wish you all the best in getting pregnant fast…
Blessings,
Laurie
Hi. First off, I love the advice you’ve given all the ladies prior to me so far. I have read about every link you have published above but still need some much needed advice.
My husband and I have been married for 3 years. I am 24 (on Aug. 31) and he is 25 in Septemeber. We have been trying practically since the day we met 3 years ago for a baby. Neither one of us has ever had children; I have never been pregnant (no abortion, miscarriage,ectopic pregnancy, etc.) and either has he with anyone else. We tried the au-natural way for about a year and half expecting a BFP to show up but nothing. My periods started to get later and later each month so I went for a check up and got on Provera to ‘kick start’ my system. I also had check ups for ‘down there’ and everything came back normal. After about 6 months after Provera, I am finally on a good schedule and had Af on cycle day 25…instead of 48! My husband and I both tried Fertilaid for 3 months but saw no difference and no BFP. I just recently purchased a CBFM and am on my third cycle now. I keep hitting the second bar at about CD 14 but no peak. After a week of two bars it, it just drops down to one and then Af shows up. Am I not ovualting at all? We do drink socially from time to time but nothing excessive. My husband does smoke everyday, which I am trying to break his habit and he has been using the nictone patch and gum for three months now, on and off. He is a little over weight but not by much. We have also tried KY liquidbeads and an egg (all suggestions from other sites to increase fertility chances) as well as sperm-friendly lube. Nothing seems to be working and everyone else around me is getting pregnant on mistake or by chance
( I am so depressed about the whole thing. What am I doing wrong? Why can tweakers and crackheads get pregnant every 9 months but I can’t fall pregnant just once? 
Jessica ~ I’m sorry to hear about all your problems with your period and getting pregnant. I hope you can overcome your feelings of hopelessness, and keep the faith! Don’t give up yet.
Pahi ~ Remember that it takes most couples a YEAR on average to get pregnant! Many doctors won’t even do fertility tests until a year has passed, because it’s normal to take a year to get pregnant. So yes, I believe you can get pregnant naturally….and you’re definitely on the right track. Let me know what the fertility doctor suggests; I’m curious if he or she says keep trying to get pregnant naturally, or if he or she recommends fertility procedures.
Blessings,
Laurie
Dear Sam,
I know just how you feel, except I’m 42!! Wait a minute – I’m only 41…..weird how I added 6 months to my age.
Anyway, I wrote this article for you:
Taking Too Long to Get Pregnant? 5 Different Baby Making Tips
I hope it helps, and wish you all baby making getting pregnant good wishes!
Blessings,
Laurie
hi i am 33 and my hubby is 42. we got married 5 months back and trying for a baby for last 3 months. we have consulted a gynecologist and as per her advise i am diagnosed with insulin, thyroid, regular blood test,abdominal ultrasound etc and reports came normal. mine is 28 days mens cycle and never experienced any problem so far. 2 days back my hubby went for semen analysis and his report came as asthenozoospernia. his total count is 28.8, motility 34%, normal morphology 10%.we are going to consult a fertility doctor tomorrow. i am just curious whether i can get pregnant in natural way..
hello my name is jessica.I am 19 years old.my husband and i have been marry for almost a two years now.we been trying to get pregnant for almost a year now.my problem is that i dont get my period when i was 15 my period didn’t happen for a whole year and last year it happen again.i am very iregular with my period because of this i went to a gynecologist and he gave me a prescription for provera but i started to gain alot of weight i was a size 5 and now am a size 11 then he gave me metformin because my insulin was high but i dont have diabetes i have stop taking the medicine because they are just ruining my body and i dont know what else to do.i get really depressed because people always ask us when are you going to have a baby and its hard because i can’t get pregnant.
My Name is Samantha, im 20 going on 21 my Fiance and i have been trying to get pregnant for almost 2.5 years now. we both have been checked to see if everything is in working order, and we are. I mean its just getting frustrating. im to the point i just want to give up on trying. but i don’t because we really want this to happen. I guess i just need a little guidance to maybe hear other peoples suggestions that would maybe help me and my fiance so we can have a lil one of our own. I guess another reason that is so heart aching is because it seems that everyone around us that is not wanting a kid is getting pregnant, don’t get me wrong i am happy for them i really am but just frustrating to hear that everyone around us is getting pregnant.
Grace ~ I think you can still get pregnant even if you had a thyroid operation, but it depends on your body and health! The best way to determine if you’ll conceive a baby is to get checked by a doctor in person.
Tabitha ~ I’m sorry to hear about your diagnosis of PCOS. Though that can make getting pregnant a bit more difficult, it won’t necessarily stop you! Please follow your doctor’s advice, and get a second opinion. I’d also encourage you to talk to a naturopathic physician, to see what he or she says. Don’t do both treatments at once (natural fertility and conventional fertility), because they may not interact well. Instead, get a couple or three opinions and decide which route you want to take.
Shenell ~ The first thing you need to do is QUIT SMOKING! That’s so bad for your baby and for you. Your boyfriend needs to quit smoking, too. Start taking prenatal vitamins, and think about starting a healthier lifestyle. If you lose weight and have intercourse that involves penetration, you’re more likely to get pregnant.
Best wishes to all ladies who want to get pregnant, but can’t! May our dreams come true…
Hi i am. 21 years old and me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years. and we have been trying to Have a child i just start have a period at the age of 19 we both are over weight and we smoke. I never have penerate when havin sex with him but i love him and we. Still want to have a child my period lastest maybe 5 to 6 days at the most i need help please.
Been married for 4 years this November and with my dear husband for 5 years we have been trying for 3 years and still nothing were even seeing fertility treatment, such as chlomid and metformin oh and hcg shots on Friday, and a big fat nothing. Last month I got the red headed dragon on the 9th, ovulated on the 24 thr 25. I was supposed to start my period on the 7 of this month and i was 2 days late and no cramping no bloating no nothing to indicate aunt flo. Then the 9 started light pink only when wiped, the the 10th spotting off and on, 11 nothing, 12 spotted again, 13 nothing then today light pink when wipped…. Now Dr. Said I have pcos, but problem with that is I have regular 28 day cycles, ovulate on the 14th day. Never ever had this happen to me never missed a period or late or a light period like this…. Plz help me Dr appointment on teusday.
i have 10 yrs old girl since then i dint get preggy till nown i dont know what actually happen.n then i found that i have thyroid n get operation on it.so possible that i can be preggy ornot?n im 33 yrs old now…thnx hope i can get to know about it thnx…
Dear Jasmine,
It takes most couples a year on average to get pregnant, so please don’t worry if you haven’t conceived a baby yet! It’s not always as simple as having unprotected sex.
Irregular periods can make things more difficult. Here’s an article that may help:
How to Get Pregnant When You Have Irregular Periods
Balancing your hormones and getting regular periods is the first step! If you can’t get pregnant after a year of trying, then you need to see a doctor and get some fertility tests done.
I hope this helps…and I hope you can relax when you’re trying to conceive. Try to enjoy the process — because I suspect you’ll be preggers before you know it
Blessings,
Laurie
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. I’m ready for marriage and children with him but I am very worried. We have unprotected sex. In the beginning I didn’t worried because it wasn’t my intention to get pregnant but now thinking about it makes me worried. I am 26 and very ready for children. My periods are very irregular and with our schedules at the most we have sex three times a month. Please help!
Dear Destiny,
Even though it seems like 3 months is a long time, you have to remember that it takes a YEAR on average for most couples to get pregnant! Some couples get pregnant when they first start trying — but by far, the majority take a year or longer.
Also – have you tried timing intercourse with an ovulation predictor kit, so you’re making sure sperm meets egg?
Here’s how to do it:
How Ovulation Predictor Kits Work – Predict When You’re Ovulating
I hope this helps, and wish you all the best as you try to conceive your baby.
Blessings,
Laurie
Why can’t I get pregnant?
I am 22 years old my boyfriend is 35 (very healthy) we are trying for a baby it would be my first but his 3rd. We have tried for about 3 months now. Everything is normal with us according to the check lists on this site but yet nothing. Can someone please help
Me to figure this out. It is killing me that I want a baby so bad n can’t have one but everyone around me that doesn’t want a baby are having them
A new research study shows that caffeine has devastating effects on getting pregnant. If you can’t get pregnant or have male fertility problems, try cutting out ALL caffeine. No coffee, soda pop, chocolate!!
Thanks for your comment, Tina! You’ve given us women who can’t get pregnant a ray of hope and faith….we mustn’t lose hope…
I congratulate you for posting such awesome and insightful information to help couples find help regarding getting pregnant. My heart goes out to those ladies who have commented here and are waiting to get the wonderful news that they are pregnant. Be patient and don’t lose hope. It could happen today, tomorrow or next week so don’t give up trying.
Dear Jessica and Karina,
Thank you for sharing your struggles here! I know how heartbreaking and frustrating it is when you can’t get pregnant.
I wrote this article for both of you:
Tried Everything to Get Pregnant, Nothing Works? The Next Steps
Did you know that you both mentioned thyroid problems? I mention that in the article.
I hope it helps…
Blessings,
Laurie
Hi, my husband and I have been married for almost 11 years and we have tried everything to get pregnant, i have thyroid problems for about 6 years and it is under control now, since then i been having a normal cycles of 29 days. 3 moths ago i started to use testing strips for ovulation and my husband found out about it and got really mad at me telling me that i should just wait for it to normally happen so i stop. My husband for about 5 months has also been taking testosterone shots every 3 weeks and now I’m at the point that i don’t know what to do we don’t have the money to see a specialist for fertility and we really would love to have children..
Hello there! My husband and I have been trying to conceive now for nine months. I have low thyroid but it is corrected by the doctor. I have seen the doctor, and he has told me that I should not be having any problems getting pregnant. I am 23 and my husband is 24 we are both healthy and at a very healthy weight. We don’t smoke, or drink. I have a regular cycle of 28 days. I ovulate on day 14. We baby dance a lot around the time of ovulation when I am not on duty for the military. I am getting a little fustrated when AF shows up every month. Oh yeah we did an at home sperm count test too and it came back positive for 20 million or over. I have read Pregnancy Miricle and it doesn’t seem to be working for us. Any suggestiongs?