Comments on: What Not to Say to Couples Coping With Infertility http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/what-not-to-say-to-couples-coping-with-infertility/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=what-not-to-say-to-couples-coping-with-infertility Want to get pregnant? Fertility tips, plus inspiration for living a childfree life. It's all here! Fri, 25 May 2012 12:53:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/what-not-to-say-to-couples-coping-with-infertility/comment-page-1/#comment-2662 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Tue, 10 Aug 2010 17:42:20 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/?p=552#comment-2662 Yikes - that's a terrible thing for someone to say to you, Jane! I can't believe someone could be so cruel. When people are that mean, I think they're in pain. It's the meanest people who are in the most pain; they want to hurt others so they don't feel so bad about their lives. I wouldn't know what to say in response. I'd probably just walk away and never speak to them again....and try my best never to be that insensitive to other people coping with infertility or miscarriages or anything at all! Like what you're doing :-) Thanks for taking the time to comment; I wish you all the best. Blessings, Laurie Yikes – that’s a terrible thing for someone to say to you, Jane! I can’t believe someone could be so cruel.

When people are that mean, I think they’re in pain. It’s the meanest people who are in the most pain; they want to hurt others so they don’t feel so bad about their lives.

I wouldn’t know what to say in response. I’d probably just walk away and never speak to them again….and try my best never to be that insensitive to other people coping with infertility or miscarriages or anything at all! Like what you’re doing :-)

Thanks for taking the time to comment; I wish you all the best.

Blessings,
Laurie

]]> By: Jane Schuell http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/what-not-to-say-to-couples-coping-with-infertility/comment-page-1/#comment-2658 Jane Schuell Mon, 09 Aug 2010 19:18:04 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/?p=552#comment-2658 On top of all the comments I've heard that you mention in your article, the absolute worst thing someone ever said to me was that this might be a sign of God's infinite mercy, because quite likely I wouldn't have made a good parent, therefore the miscarriage was God's way of preventing a tragedy. Kind of like "Miscarriage is nature's way of preventing a horribly deformed baby", but with a more judgemental spin. The comment was so brutally shocking, it took my breath away; I felt as though I'd been punched. What can you say in response? I realized that there are a lot of people in the world who are either ignorant, mean-hearted, or well-meaning but just plain insensitive. Also, a lot of people who are incredibly misguided about the nature of God. I don't give those people the time of day. But I'll never forget. And it's made me be more sensitive (I hope) to those around me who are hurting. On top of all the comments I’ve heard that you mention in your article, the absolute worst thing someone ever said to me was that this might be a sign of God’s infinite mercy, because quite likely I wouldn’t have made a good parent, therefore the miscarriage was God’s way of preventing a tragedy. Kind of like “Miscarriage is nature’s way of preventing a horribly deformed baby”, but with a more judgemental spin.

The comment was so brutally shocking, it took my breath away; I felt as though I’d been punched. What can you say in response? I realized that there are a lot of people in the world who are either ignorant, mean-hearted, or well-meaning but just plain insensitive. Also, a lot of people who are incredibly misguided about the nature of God.

I don’t give those people the time of day. But I’ll never forget. And it’s made me be more sensitive (I hope) to those around me who are hurting.

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