Comments on: Thinking About Fostering Kids? Info From a Father of 12 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/thinking-about-fostering-kids-tips-from-a-father-of-12/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=thinking-about-fostering-kids-tips-from-a-father-of-12 Want to get pregnant? Fertility tips, plus inspiration for living a childfree life. It's all here! Fri, 25 May 2012 12:53:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/thinking-about-fostering-kids-tips-from-a-father-of-12/comment-page-1/#comment-4734 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Tue, 10 May 2011 22:00:11 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/?p=158#comment-4734 Dear Sheryl, Thank you for sharing your experience as a foster grandmother. The reality of fostering kids can be harsh...and I appreciate your advice to couples coping with infertility. I was a foster child, and loved all my foster homes. They were fantastic - because they had caring, loving people like you. Don't underestimate the impact you have, even if the kids go back to their birth parents, and even if their birth parents are less than ideal! Blessings, Laurie Dear Sheryl,

Thank you for sharing your experience as a foster grandmother. The reality of fostering kids can be harsh…and I appreciate your advice to couples coping with infertility.

I was a foster child, and loved all my foster homes. They were fantastic – because they had caring, loving people like you. Don’t underestimate the impact you have, even if the kids go back to their birth parents, and even if their birth parents are less than ideal!

Blessings,
Laurie

]]> By: Sheryl Bullock http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/thinking-about-fostering-kids-tips-from-a-father-of-12/comment-page-1/#comment-4614 Sheryl Bullock Tue, 03 May 2011 22:07:16 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/?p=158#comment-4614 As a foster grandmother of 2 sibling fost/adopt children placed with our son and his wife, I can attest to the fact that hoping to adopt foster children is very, very risky. Our kids took in a sibling group a year ago off the fost/adopt list and now suddenly a birth parent is out of jail and about to be granted custody again. Needless to say there is a family in alot of pain. And there are two small children who are about to have the rug of trust, security and safety pulled out from under them. It's unbelievable to me how quickly government agencies put children back into high risk situations. I cannot recommend fost/adopt to infertile couples unless you are willing to face the fact that you have a 50/50 chance of having the children removed. Our kids were told it was highly unlikely they wouldn't be able to adopt these children. Not true and they know of others who have gone through the same experience in their local area. It is quite common for fost/adopt children to be returned to a biological parent. You think infertility is emotionally painful? Try bonding with children for a year under the assumption they'll be with you forever, then have them taken away....that's about as bad as it gets. As a foster grandmother of 2 sibling fost/adopt children placed with our son and his wife, I can attest to the fact that hoping to adopt foster children is very, very risky.

Our kids took in a sibling group a year ago off the fost/adopt list and now suddenly a birth parent is out of jail and about to be granted custody again.

Needless to say there is a family in alot of pain. And there are two small children who are about to have the rug of trust, security and safety pulled out from under them.

It’s unbelievable to me how quickly government agencies put children back into high risk situations.

I cannot recommend fost/adopt to infertile couples unless you are willing to face the fact that you have a 50/50 chance of having the children removed. Our kids were told it was highly unlikely they wouldn’t be able to adopt these children. Not true and they know of others who have gone through the same experience in their local area. It is quite common for fost/adopt children to be returned to a biological parent.

You think infertility is emotionally painful? Try bonding with children for a year under the assumption they’ll be with you forever, then have them taken away….that’s about as bad as it gets.

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