Taking Too Long to Get Pregnant? 5 Baby Making Tips

Whether you’ve been trying for three months or three years, it’s taking too long to get pregnant! These baby making tips are inspired by a reader who feels frustrated and sad…

“I’m almost 21, and my fiancé and I have been trying to get pregnant for almost 2.5 years,” says S. on Why Can’t You Get Pregnant? “We’ve both been checked to see if everything is in working order, and it is. It’s frustrating! I’m at the point of giving up trying to get pregnant, but I don’t. I guess I just need a little guidance, to maybe hear other people’s suggestions so we can have a lil one of our own.

We stopped trying to get pregnant because it’s not medically possible (my husband has azoospermia, and you can’t get pregnant without sperm!). But we tried for over a year. When we felt like it was taking too long, we got tested…and found the problem.

If you don’t know why you’re not getting pregnant, a book like Making Babies: A Proven 3-Month Program for Maximum Fertility will help. It covers many different scenarios and offers different solutions, and has received over 75 positive reviews on Amazon.com

And here are a few tips for when it’s taking forever to get pregnant and you’re close to giving up…

Taking Too Long to Get Pregnant? 5 Baby Making Tips

Since I don’t know what you tried to get pregnant (ovulation predictor kits? losing weight? fertility yoga? books for getting pregnant?), I’ll list a few different tips for making a baby.

But remember – to get specific medical advice on getting pregnant after years of trying, you need to see a gynecologist or fertility specialist in person. There are no easy answers about why it’s taking so long to get pregnant on the internet (or in person, for that matter).

Remember that some fertility issues are hard to detect

Doctors make mistakes, overlook possible reasons it’s taking so long to get pregnant, and fail to see the obvious. Doctors, like us, have brains that can only hold so much information and they only have so much time to learn about all the new pregnancy and fertility research. Further, they’re affected by their own lives, health, and problems. This is why it’s so important to get a second opinion, and to get multiple health tests done!

And, our health changes daily, weekly, and monthly. For instance, a man is always creating new sperm. He could get tested one month, and all is normal. But give him a test two or three months later, and he may have different results. It’s the same with female health tests. So, don’t hesitate to get a second test done – even if you’ve already had it.

Focus on something different for a few months

My second baby making tip is to take some time off – especially if you’re 21 years old! I’m not saying give up on your dream of getting pregnant, nor am I saying “just relax – you’ll get pregnant when you’re ready.”

I encourage you to redirect your energy towards something different for at least three months. Give your mind, body, and soul a rest. Get involved in a project, class, volunteer commitment, home renovation task – anything that you’re interested in, that makes you happy. Round out your interests. Explore other aspects of life. Try to just BE without wanting, hoping, yearning, craving a baby.

Learn why it takes some women so long to get pregnant

Different women have different issues when trying to conceive: obesity, endometriosis, prescription medications, smoking, health problems. If you haven’t had a gynecological examination lately, book one today. If your husband hasn’t had his sperm tested in the past three months, get it tested now.

Different women need different baby making tips, which is why it’s so hard when readers ask me for help! All I can do is offer textbook advice, not personal medical tips.

Take comfort in the fact that you’re not alone

“Another reason it’s so heart aching is because it seems that everyone around us who doesn’t want a kid is getting pregnant,” says S. “Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy for them, but I’m just frustrated that it’s taking so long to get pregnant.”

I really want to get pregnant, too. So do the thousands of people who visit this website every day. It does make me feel better to know I’m not alone – I’m not the only one who is taking so long to get pregnant! And, I’m 42 years old, so my baby making days are dwindling.

And it’s not just women who get frustrated that it takes so long to get pregnant…

“Men get depressed about infertility, too,” says J. on How to Overcome Infertility Depression – Can’t Get Pregnant. “My wife and I are having a hard time getting pregnant, and we’re not getting any younger. Both of us were in our 30′s when we married. So, the clock is ticking.”

He says that his heartache that it’s taking so long to get pregnant comes and goes in waves. “I’m grieving the loss of never being able to participate in the creation of life,” he says. “I’m grieving the loss of passing on the family name…I am the only son of six children. I’m grieving the loss of many, many things that comes with bringing your own biological children into this world.”

Remember the one thing worse than taking a long time to get pregnant

The only thing worse than taking a long time to get pregnant is never getting pregnant at all…and living in bitterness, defeat, pain, and heartbreak.

I want to be a resilient, strong woman who coped with infertility and filled her life in other meaningful ways. I don’t want to lose myself in the negativity and blackness that infertility can bring.

How do you want to live your life? It’s your choice.

I say keep your chin up! Keep the faith – because just because it takes a long time to get pregnant doesn’t mean it’ll never happen. I still hope to get pregnant, even though I refused to try fertility treatments such as in vitro fertilization.

And if you’ve been diagnosed with unexplained infertility and are motivated to keep trying, make sure you read all the tips for making a baby.

Quick Baby Making Tips

• Learn how ovulation predictor kits work
• Try fertility yoga
• Read books about getting pregnant
• Improve sperm health

One of my favorite ways to cope with the stress of waiting forever to get pregnant is yoga. Not fertility yoga per se, just healthy yoga several times a week. And long walks with my dog!

If you have any thoughts on these baby making tips, please comment below. Note that I can’t offer medical advice! If it’s taking too long for you to get pregnant, please see your gynecologist or family doctor in person.

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