Comments on: Donating Eggs to Help Women Get Pregnant – Things to Consider

By: olivia Russell

olivia Russell — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 11:00:08 +0000

I’m 32 years old with 3 beautiful boys .. all 3 football stars and all three straight A students! I feel every women should experience the joy and unconditional love you get from you children! .. I want to help somone by giving my eggs to them! ..hope to help and will be praying for all the mom’s at heart!

By: Les

Les — Mon, 02 Jul 2012 05:10:32 +0000

I had a hysterectomy 2 years ago but my ovaries were healthy so they were left. I am 53 years old and healthy. Can I still donate eggs. I have had 3 children and have always been very fertile. Still no menopause symptoms. (live in W.Australia).

By: Pule

Pule — Thu, 03 May 2012 15:52:54 +0000

Im a lesbian age of 27 n my galfrnd 31 n i want to have a family of 2kids,boy n a girl,i wanna donate to my galfriend so dat we could bond….she wanna full pregrant,n i dont wanna do dat….she is despricly want to hav a baby with me, bt we dont no how,were to start…..pls help me i wanna make a family….

By: shubham

shubham — Sat, 21 Apr 2012 20:53:40 +0000

I want to help people get pregnant by donating sperm.

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 16:56:31 +0000

Hi Noelle,

It’s such a complicated decision, because nobody can predict the future or how you will feel if you donate your eggs and she has the baby! Maybe you’ll just feel happy that you helped your friend…or maybe you’ll feel deeply attached, responsible, and protective about the baby.

I think you need to be prepared to feel a bit of EVERYTHING if you donate your eggs to your friend. You’ll feel sad that “your” baby is being raised by your friend, and you’ll feel happy that you helped her. You’ll probably disagree with how your friend is raising the baby, and her views on childcare, discipline, etc.

We asked our close friend to donate sperm (my husband doesn’t make sperm, even though he desperately wants to!). Our friend said no, he couldn’t, because he couldn’t stand the thought of seeing “his” child with us. We then asked my husband’s brother to donate sperm, but he said no because he knew he’d disagree with how we raised the child, and he wouldn’t be able to see the kid on holidays and family gatherings without feeling deeply attached and sad.

So, I think it’s better to donate eggs and sperm to people you don’t know. I think seeing “your” child with your friend or family would be heartbreaking.

That said, however, it’s different for every woman. Some women can detach themselves and see the child as simply their friend’s kid. Other woman can’t let go that way.

I think you should talk to a counselor who specializes in egg donation. Get her objective perspective on the pros and cons of YOU donating your eggs to help your friend get pregnant. An article like this is good for an overview, but you need to talk it through with someone who can get a feel for your specific personality and lifestyle.

Also, do not let yourself make a decision out of guilt or a sense of responsibility. It’s very sad that your friend may only have a few months or years to have a baby…but that isn’t your problem to solve.

Asking a friend to donate eggs is HUGE, and you need to give yourself the freedom and time and space to make the right decision. Don’t let yourself succumb to pressure or emotional manipulation.

I encourage you to talk to an egg donation or fertility counselor.

Also, I think you should write out all your feelings about donating eggs to your friend. Sometimes the answer to life’s most difficult questions are buried within us…and we need only write them down to discover them. Write 3 pages of your feelings and thoughts every morning, for at least a week.

Take a deep breath, and give yourself time to make the best decision for yourself, your husband, your current child, and your future children.

And let me know what you decide!

Blessings,
Laurie

By: Noelle

Noelle — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 13:26:29 +0000

Hi guys,
It took me 9 months of “doing everything right” to concieve my first and only child (born Nov 2010). I want to have 2-3 more (probably going to start trying the end of 2012) But my very close friend who can’t have babies would like my eggs. I want to help her. However I wish I was done having all of my babies first but that won’t be for like 5 years and my friends Dr doesnt know how long her uterus is going to work. So now I am scared….will the baby she conceives with my egg be the baby meant to be my second baby? Will I be sad when she has the baby thinking “That’s my baby”? What are your thoughts?

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Tue, 28 Jun 2011 17:53:05 +0000

Thanks for your comment, Rosie. I agree – I wish women didn’t have to worry about eggs and embryos, and could just get pregnant naturally, when they want. Wouldn’t that be lovely?

By: Rosie Z.

Rosie Z. — Sun, 26 Jun 2011 14:53:44 +0000

As a woman who can’t get pregnant, I think you’re doing such a great thing by donating your eggs to other woman!!! I wish there were more women like you. I hope other women read this, and donate their embryos because that’s what we need. Our fertility clinic doesn’t have enough embryos for all the couples who need them, so we’re on a waiting list. If there were more women like Trace, we’d have enough eggs and embryos to you around!

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Thu, 23 Jun 2011 14:45:49 +0000

That’s great, Trace! I agree, that the more you give your more God gives back to you. And, I love how you have a heart for other women who can’t get pregnant. Donating your eggs is such a selfless, loving, caring action.

I hope you let me know how it goes. I’ll pray for a successful in vitro fertilization!

Blessings,
Laurie

By: TRACE

TRACE — Thu, 23 Jun 2011 06:03:05 +0000

Thank you. I feel that i should not be selfish and therefore i have decided to dontate my eggs once i am pregnant. Why should i wait so long before i can decide as i can make someone happy quicker. I am just worried that i may one day meet my children that the other lady carried. i know i sound stupid but that is the thoughts that are going through my mind. I have have just enogh money to go for 1 ivf and if that does not work then i would not be able to try again for a long time. I believe the more you give the more god will give back to you. i know how it hurts to wait so long for a baby so why should i make someone else wait long also..