There is no right or wrong way to pray for a baby. These tips for pregnancy prayer focus on “centering prayer” – an ancient meditative art.
No pregnancy prayer will guarantee you’ll conceive a baby, but prayer can may you spiritually, physically, and emotionally stronger to deal with whatever happens.
“Prayer does not change God, but it changes him who prays.” ~ Søren Kierkegaard.
If you’re praying to get pregnant, I think it’s important to start praying for your unborn, un-conceived baby. Read Expecting: Praying for Your Child’s Development-Body and Soul to start your journey with God and your baby.
Prayer isn’t about getting what you want – no matter important getting pregnant is to you! Rather, prayer is about communing with God so you feel more stable, secure, and peaceful no matter what happens.
It’s fine and even good to pray for a baby – God wants us to ask Him for the desires of our hearts! But, basing all your happiness on pregnancy isn’t a true spiritual relationship. God isn’t Santa Claus.
Here’s how pregnancy prayer based on centering prayer works…
What is Pregnancy Prayer or Centering Prayer?
Centering prayer is about silencing your heart and mind for peace, for increased spirituality, and for the emotional strength to cope with getting pregnant, not getting pregnant, or finding other ways to have the family you want.
Centering prayer can be a pregnancy prayer. But more than anything, this type of prayer is about communing with God. Prayer isn’t about getting what you want; it’s about finding the strength to deal with what you get.
Here are four steps to pregnancy prayer…
Choose a “sacred” word or phrase that symbolizes your intention
The focus of centering prayer is to consent to God’s presence and action within. Choose a word or phrase that helps you remember that you are consenting to God’s work and power in your life – whether that means getting pregnant or not getting pregnant. For instance, your sacred word could be “Trust” or “Hope” or “God’s will be done” or “Acceptance.” Note that it’s not necessarily “praying for a baby” or “increased fertility” or “conception”! The idea is to be open to what God has in store.
Find a comfortable position and place for prayer
Where can you pray comfortably for 20 minutes? Try not to pray in a place where you’ll fall asleep or be distracted. Close your eyes and let go of everything happening within you – all your hopes and yearnings and wishes to be pregnant.
When you’re praying for a baby, be prepared for distractions, such as images, feelings, reflections, physical sensations, and unexpected thoughts…and use your sacred word to quell those distractions.
Use your sacred word in your pregnancy prayer
Whatever thoughts or emotions come to you, lay your sacred word over them. That is, when you feel scared you’ll never get pregnant, repeat “Trust” or “Acceptance” until you feel calm and focused on God. If you keep frantically thinking about getting pregnant or what will happen if you don’t get pregnant, savor your sacred word: “Faith” or “God’s will be done.”
Be silent for a couple of minutes after your prayer for fertility
Taking two or three minutes to transition from your centering prayer to everyday life will help you bring your “God feelings” into your attempts to get pregnant. One benefit of this type of pregnancy prayer is that it helps you feel peaceful, hopeful, faithful, and able to accept of whatever comes your way.
The purpose of pregnancy prayer is to give you peace, hope, and acceptance – whether or not you get pregnant.
I welcome your baby prayers, hopes, and intentions in the comments section below. And, remember that with prayer and faith comes action! Read How to Know If You’re Ovulating – 3 Signs of Fertility.