I found some great research on persuading people! Here’s the article I wrote — I think it’ll help:

How to Convince People to Say Yes – 5 Persuasion Technique

Best wishes,
Laurie

Funny, I’m not sure what motivates him; I think we’ve lost sight of that. I do know that he’s a man that always needs to be doing two things at once. I know that he loves cars and that he’s been refurbishing one for the last 4 years. Perhaps I’ll use a car analogy when I talk to him next.

Thanks.

I’m sorry to hear it’s taking you so long to get pregnant…I know how hard it is. We’ve been trying for 3 1/2 years, to no avail.

My first thought is to take a break from trying to get pregnant. Maybe he needs time to step back, take a breath, and get off the roller coaster. It’s such an emotional time, full of ups and downs and stress and hope…maybe he just needs a few months away from it all.

My second thought is to tap into what motivates him to do anything. Some husbands are motivated by their wives’ happiness, while others are more motivated by their own beliefs about what’s right. Some are motivated by sex, and others by a challenge! To fire up your husband’s motivation to keep trying in vitro fertilization, you need to figure out what would make HIM ready to keep at it.

Another suggestion is to get a book on negotiation and persuasion. There are many, many tactics to persuade people that are very effective. For instance, one tactic is to get the person to agree to a little thing, then ask for a bigger thing. Or, ask for a huge thing, and when he says no (like you suspected), ask for something smaller. Those are psychological methods of persuasion.

Another tactic, specifically for husbands and wives, is to lead with “I feel loved when….” along with an explanation of why it’s so important to you to keep trying IVF. With my husband, I’ve found that it works to tell him how happy/good/loved I feel when he does specific things for me. The more specific I am, the better.

I think I’ll write a whole article on this topic — it’s such a great question, and there are so many possibilities!

I hope these suggestions have helped….let me know how you guys are doing.

Blessings,
Laurie

Thanks for your comment — and I’m glad you’ve found “Quips and Tips” helpful!

I wish you all the best with your in vitro fertilization, and hope you keep me updated on your pregnancy news….

Blessings,
Laurie

Regards
Praseej

And yes, I’m off to visit your blog…

When I did IVF I took every ‘edge’ I could get. Soaked up all the info available to me, even the tips that seemed a little ‘out there’. And now I’m pregnant!

Keep up the great work! I hope you’ll drop by my blog

Regards
Cori Smelker