How to Stay Positive When You Can’t Get Pregnant

Learning how to stay positive when you can’t get pregnant can increase your chances of conceiving – and it’ll make your life better! Staying positive when you’re coping with infertility may be one of the most difficult things you’ll ever do as a couple (or as a single woman or man)! Not giving in to despair is the difference between a life of depression and bitterness, or a life of peace and acceptance.

“It will never rain roses,” said George Eliot. “When we want to have more roses, we must plant more roses.”

For more infertility support — to learn how to plant roses — read the Infertility Survival Handbook by Elizabeth Swire-Falker.

And, for tips on staying positive when you’re dealing with fertility issues, read on…

How to Stay Positive When You Can’t Get Pregnant

Give the benefit of the doubt. Staying positive when you’re coping with infertility involves not judging other people – doctors, fertility specialists, your partner or family. Negative energy focuses on other people’s mistakes and weaknesses. Negative energy is critical and demeaning; try to shake it off.

Acknowledge your shadows, but stay focused on hope and faith. Staying positive involves the willingness to reach for healing and strength. Positive energy is about moving forward and growing, even when you’re part of a couple coping with infertility.

Feel compassion towards yourself and the world. To stay positive, realize that everyone is doing the best they can. Listen to – and try to understand – other perspectives, regardless of how different or even offensive they are. Positive energy is open-minded and curious.

Be open. To stay positive when you can’t get pregnant, express your true self in your thoughts and actions, gently and honestly (which frees others to do the same!). Positive energy is honest and available – even with negative thoughts and emotions.

Celebrate the success and happiness of others. Positive energy appreciates success and doesn’t let jealousy or comparisons overwhelm the joy that exists. Negativity resents the successes and joys of others. People with positive energy don’t focus on “should have” or idealized, perfect expectations that are impossible to live up to. Read Tips for Not Resenting Pregnant Friends to learn how to stay positive when you can’t get pregnant.

Don’t let other people’s moods and energy dictate your moods and energy levels. Staying positive when you can’t get pregnant means staying in touch with your own heart and soul.

Meet your own needs. Trying to please people constantly and ignoring your own needs can lead to an ocean of negative energy. Don’t allow fear and cynicism to harden your heart and color your perspective. Negative energy revolves around fear and bitterness…so try not to go there.

See the positive qualities in others. Staying positive when you can’t get pregnant involves appreciating the positive qualities in other people. Don’t try to change other people’s perspectives and opinions. Negative energy wants everyone to think the same, act the same, and be the same. If you’re having trouble communicating as a couple, read How Infertility Can Affect Your Marriage.

Make mistakes and own up to them. Keep lines of communication open, opt for discussion and connection – and be satisfied with “agreeing to disagree.” Failures and disagreements don’t faze people with positive energy, because they know that’s part of this life on earth.

For more tips, read Fertility Problems? Tips for When You’re Not Getting Pregnant.

How do you stay positive when you can’t get pregnant? I welcome your thoughts and questions below…

Category: Couples Coping With Infertility, Faith & Perseverance, Health & Wellness, Infertility Hope & Acceptance, Male & Female Infertility, Relationship Tips, Stress Management Tips