Getting Pregnant in Your 40s – Tips From a Pregnant 50 Year Old
These tips for getting pregnant in your 40s are from a 50 year old who is happily pregnant. If you want to have a baby, you’re over 40, and you’re considering in vitro fertilization (IVF), read Mary Beth’s story.
Also – make sure you’re improving your chances for pregnancy. Making Babies: A Proven 3-Month Program for Maximum Fertility by Sami S. David (Author), Jill Blakeway isn’t guaranteed to get you pregnant, but it will maximize your chances of conceiving a baby.
Mary Beth – our pregnant 50 year old – said, “I woke up one day at age 45 and wondered ‘Where did these last 20 years go?? They just flew by! I’m ready to have a baby now.” If you’re in the same boat – reaching your 40s or 50s and wondering if you’ll ever get pregnant – read Mary Beth’s story below. She had in vitro fertilization at age 51 and is seven months pregnant!
Getting Pregnant in Your 40s
This is a Q & A with Mary Beth, a pregnant 52 year old woman.
Had you already grieved the idea of never having kids? No, not really. I made conscious choices along the way to put my career first, knowing that child bearing would wait a while. Somehow I always felt that I would still have kids (either marrying a guy who already had a family…or would still somehow have my own).
What made you decide to try in vitro fertilization (IVF) at age 51? After changing my life around so that I wasn’t so focused on my career, I met a wonderful man when I was 46 and at age 47 it was very serious. That’s when we started speaking with fertility doctors to see what our baby choices were. They told me choices were 1) still use my eggs (small chance of getting and carrying a pregnancy) or 2) consider donor eggs. So, we tried in vitro fertilization.
Did you consider adopting or fostering children? Yes. My husband and I discussed this in great depth. We decided to try the IVF route for 3 cycles. If that didn’t work, we were then going to enthusiastically pursue adoption.
When people discover that you’re 52 and pregnant, what reaction do you get? Most say “Wow, that’s incredible. That’s awesome and you are brave!!” A very few say “You are out of your mind.”
How long have you been married, and how old is your hubby? We’ve been married 2½ years. I just turned 52 and my husband will soon be 52.
What advice would you give women coping with infertility? Stay positive, give it time, keep an open mind and consider all options for infertile couples. Again – stay positive and optimistic! Consider what’s best for you and don’t listen to what your family and good friends are saying. Initially, my own mother was really against IVF and wouldn’t even discuss it with me. I figured in due time she would come around when she was ready.
If you’re trying to get pregnant and you’re over 40, read 15 Things You Need to Know About Pregnancy After 40.
My husband and I knew what was best for the two of us…and we didn’t seriously listen to anyone else’s comments. Most everyone was excited for us to be trying to get pregnant over age 40, but a few weren’t.
What would surprise people to learn about infertility, or getting pregnant in your 40s or 50s? That it still can happen!!! Keep yourself in the best possible health…and stay positive!! So far (7 months along) I have felt GREAT. I never had morning sickness and still haven’t had a day yet of feeling pregnant. That’s more than my younger sisters could say about their pregnancies 20 years ago when they were in their 20s!
Are you having trouble getting pregnant? Read Why Can’t I Get Pregnant? Male and Female Fertility Problems.
You may also find The Most Common Health Problems That Prevent Pregnancy helpful.
If you have any thoughts on getting pregnant in your 40s or 50s, please comment below. I can’t offer health or medical advice – please see your fertility doctor if you’re trying to get pregnant – but I welcome your stories and tips!