Comments on: The Benefits and Drawbacks of Adopting a Child http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/benefits-drawbacks-adopting-child/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=benefits-drawbacks-adopting-child Want to get pregnant? Fertility tips, plus inspiration for living a childfree life. It's all here! Wed, 23 May 2012 18:46:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: LauriePK http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/benefits-drawbacks-adopting-child/comment-page-1/#comment-764 LauriePK Sun, 16 Aug 2009 23:22:25 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/?p=639#comment-764 Hi Isabel, That is interesting, that your husband prefers to adopt instead of having a biological child with you. Have you asked him outright what his reasons are? (Some couples don't like to ask direct questions, for fear of arguments or hurt feelings). One thing I learned in a counseling class is to ask for three reasons. The third reason is the closest to the truth! This works for most questions (from whether you're struggling with adopting a child to whether you should continue getting ivf treatments to get pregnant). I wish you good luck with your husband...I'd love to hear his reasons for adopting instead of having biological children and would be happ if you shared them here! Totally anonymous, of course. Also -- some people don't the point of bringing more kids into this world when there are already so many children who need good homes. Maybe your husband feels that way?? Laurie Hi Isabel,

That is interesting, that your husband prefers to adopt instead of having a biological child with you. Have you asked him outright what his reasons are? (Some couples don’t like to ask direct questions, for fear of arguments or hurt feelings).

One thing I learned in a counseling class is to ask for three reasons. The third reason is the closest to the truth! This works for most questions (from whether you’re struggling with adopting a child to whether you should continue getting ivf treatments to get pregnant).

I wish you good luck with your husband…I’d love to hear his reasons for adopting instead of having biological children and would be happ if you shared them here! Totally anonymous, of course.

Also — some people don’t the point of bringing more kids into this world when there are already so many children who need good homes. Maybe your husband feels that way??

Laurie

]]> By: Isabel http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/benefits-drawbacks-adopting-child/comment-page-1/#comment-759 Isabel Fri, 14 Aug 2009 11:46:29 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/?p=639#comment-759 I have a different problem. I have a biological son and have no problems with having another child. My husband wants us to adopt a child instead of having our biological child. I am happy to adopt a child but want to do so after I have had another child. I cant understand why my husband cant understand this I have a different problem. I have a biological son and have no problems with having another child. My husband wants us to adopt a child instead of having our biological child. I am happy to adopt a child but want to do so after I have had another child. I cant understand why my husband cant understand this

]]> By: Laurie PK http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/benefits-drawbacks-adopting-child/comment-page-1/#comment-378 Laurie PK Fri, 05 Jun 2009 17:02:17 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/?p=639#comment-378 I totally understand the idea behind having twins or triplets, so you don't have to keep trying to get pregnant again - especially if you're coping with infertility issues. But, wow! Sometimes the thought of caring for one wee babe scares me. I can't imagine 2 or 3....and the thought of 8 kids blows my mind. Have you been trying to conceive for a long time? We have sperm that don't cooperate, and have tried IUI (unsuccessful after 6 tries). Infertility is such a difficult struggle! I still can't believe we can't just have kids naturally. Praying for a miracle... I totally understand the idea behind having twins or triplets, so you don’t have to keep trying to get pregnant again – especially if you’re coping with infertility issues. But, wow! Sometimes the thought of caring for one wee babe scares me. I can’t imagine 2 or 3….and the thought of 8 kids blows my mind.

Have you been trying to conceive for a long time? We have sperm that don’t cooperate, and have tried IUI (unsuccessful after 6 tries).

Infertility is such a difficult struggle! I still can’t believe we can’t just have kids naturally. Praying for a miracle…

]]> By: Chris http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/benefits-drawbacks-adopting-child/comment-page-1/#comment-377 Chris Fri, 05 Jun 2009 01:47:46 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/?p=639#comment-377 I guess it's the risk you take with fostering, but, with IVF, private adoption, other fertility treatments, etc. there's always a risk. Oh, and if we get siblings then we only have to adopt once. :-) Kind of like I tell my husband if I DO get pregnant, I want triplets so I can be done with it on the first try. :-) I guess it’s the risk you take with fostering, but, with IVF, private adoption, other fertility treatments, etc. there’s always a risk. Oh, and if we get siblings then we only have to adopt once. :-) Kind of like I tell my husband if I DO get pregnant, I want triplets so I can be done with it on the first try. :-)

]]> By: LauriePK http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/benefits-drawbacks-adopting-child/comment-page-1/#comment-375 LauriePK Thu, 04 Jun 2009 21:42:01 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/?p=639#comment-375 I think fostering to adopt is a fantastic way to create a family! That way, you get to know the children first - and you're providing a home for kids who really need them. That said, we're hesitating to foster children because of the possibility of getting too attached and then having to give up the kids. I was in foster homes for some of my childhood, and have very, very good memories of the homes and my foster parents. Good luck, Chris, and keep me posted. I'd love to hear if you get to foster an infant -- and I love that you're open to siblings and kids who are a little older than babies :-) Laurie I think fostering to adopt is a fantastic way to create a family! That way, you get to know the children first – and you’re providing a home for kids who really need them.

That said, we’re hesitating to foster children because of the possibility of getting too attached and then having to give up the kids.

I was in foster homes for some of my childhood, and have very, very good memories of the homes and my foster parents.

Good luck, Chris, and keep me posted. I’d love to hear if you get to foster an infant — and I love that you’re open to siblings and kids who are a little older than babies :-)

Laurie

]]> By: Chris http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/benefits-drawbacks-adopting-child/comment-page-1/#comment-373 Chris Thu, 04 Jun 2009 19:43:07 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/?p=639#comment-373 I am not sure where you are from but we are currently looking into the option of foster-to-adopt. We hope to adopt siblings (2 or 3) under the age of 4. Maybe we will get an infant and maybe we won't but we will have children at the end of it and they should be young enough to adapt well and not remember much before we were Mom and Dad. I am not sure where you are from but we are currently looking into the option of foster-to-adopt. We hope to adopt siblings (2 or 3) under the age of 4. Maybe we will get an infant and maybe we won’t but we will have children at the end of it and they should be young enough to adapt well and not remember much before we were Mom and Dad.

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