I like your idea of letting people know that you and your husband would like to handle your journey towards pregnancy alone. It may be that our friends and family just don’t know how difficult it is when they keep asking. The care for us and want the best for us…and don’t realize that letting it alone is one of the best ways to help.

I wish you all the best…and may you be part of the miracle of life in a whole new way — soon after your family planning starts!

Blessings,
Laurie

my God, you are absolutely right. I know exactly how it feels. Sometimes it’s as if people were more focused on your “problem” than yourself. I even think some of these so-called “friends” use you to feel better about their own lives because, even though they may have children, they may not be happy or satisfied. It gives them a reason to think: “I’d better not complain about anything because that poor one cannot have children” Sad but true. The last time someone asked me if I had started my fertility treatment, she told me I didn’t have to answer if I didn’t want to, but I guess people should first think about what they’re entitled to ask or to know. I just told her that, from now on, my husband and I are going to handle the situation ourselves without involving anyone else. This I am going through now has taught me not only how lucky we all are to be alive and be part of the miracle of life, but also, to focus on other aspects of life (studying, learning, achieving things) and “giving birth” to other things as long as we can’t give birth to a baby. It’s nice to know that people mean well, but when they keep asking it feels as if they wanted to move into your bedroom to see what’s going on. For us it’s nothing but our family planning. It’s something we will (hopefully) achieve one day and others just happen to have achieved earlier. How would they feel if we asked: are you already trying? has it worked this month? are you going to try again? is it going to be tonight?….
I wish you the best and I hope God will listen to what your heart desires,

Ali