Accepting a Childfree Life – How to be Happy Without a Baby
Can Women Be Fulfilled Without Having Children? Yes!
Can you be happy and fulfilled without having a baby? Yes.
These four tips for accepting a childfree life will show you that acceptance can be healthier than relentless fertility treatments and trying to get pregnant against all odds.
Easier said than done, right? But listen…
“The willingness to win OR lose moves us out of an adversarial relationship to life and into a powerful kind of openness,” writes Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen in Kitchen Table Wisdom: Stories That Heal. “From such a position, we can make a greater commitment to life.”
Kitchen Table Wisdom is one of my favorite books because it’s all about accepting both the bitter and the sweet parts of life. Dr Remen is an oncologist who never had children. She struggled with Crohn’s Disease for most her life, and when she was in her 20s had surgery to remove most of her intestines. Remen knows failure and heartache…and she teaches people how to bounce back to live full, passionate lives.
And, Sweet Grapes: How to Stop Being Infertile and Start Living Again is a powerful book about accepting your life, whatever it may bring.
Here are my tips for being happy even if you don’t get pregnant…
Accepting a Childfree Life – How to be Happy Without a Baby
Be willing to lose your focus on how your life “should” be. Do you associate not getting pregnant with feelings of failure, being a “loser”, or feeling less worthy or fulfilled than the mom next door? One step to accepting a childfree life is expressing your feelings of pain and loss. Second, you have to be open to your life as it is. Instead of hating your body or wrestling with life, try opening your heart and mind to a life without kids. You don’t have to love it or be cheerful about it…but it’ll help you to accept not having kids as part of who you are.
Remember that everyone deals with something. My friend’s 19 year old son was recently killed in a car crash. I have ulcerative colitis; my husband and I are coping with male factor infertility (azoospermia). A writing colleague recently had a stroke, and can’t think clearly enough to write anymore. If you’re dealing with infertility, remember that it’s just a condition that you’re unfortunate enough to have…and we all have stuff. Knowing that I’m not alone in the pain life brings helps me accept a childfree life – and it helps me cope with infertility.
Surround yourself with childfree couples. We spend time with friends who have kids – but I most enjoy my friends who don’t have children, or who have grown children! I especially like my friends who have chosen never to have children. If it hurts you to spend time with pregnant friends or big families, then reduce those visits. I wouldn’t advise avoiding people altogether, but I think accepting a childfree life is easier when you’re with like-minded friends.
Practice letting go of sadness, bitterness, or regret. Getting and staying emotionally healthy is a daily choice. Accepting your childfree life is something you have to decide to do — perhaps every hour! Being okay with your life doesn’t happen overnight. And, feelings of acceptance don’t last forever (like bathing or putting food in your belly). To accept your childfree life, you have to accept that it’s an ongoing process. To ease the process of letting go of your hope for a family, read tips for not resenting your pregnant friends – they might help.
Do you have any thoughts or questions about being happy without a baby or accepting a childfree life? I’d love to hear from you below…
Category: Infertility Depression & Anxiety, Infertility Hope & Acceptance, Life Goals
Read Mask of Motherhood and other good books that demystify the pink cloud as it is tough, hard, and often miserable and yes also great and without is just as great just different. I decided to go without and these kind of books helped me to realize it does not make you more happy or more complete. It is just a different life once you move beyond the stereotype of thinking how life should be. Me andy partner are incredibly happy with our ability to prioritize and make life choices that fit us the best. You may be surprised to find out that a childless/free lifes may suite you well, very well
I also went to lots of parties where parents were present, listening carefully to them. Try to look more objective and realistic. The thought that parenthood makes people more happy is one of the best kept illusions. Though of course for some who really have only one goal in life it may really be what they need to do. For many out there I don’t think it is. Have the guts and live your life as it comes and dare to choose 
or accept. I never expected to feel si hood about it. It’s great to move beyond societal pressure and expectations and to take care of yourself and from there for others. Let’s do it, let’s be free 
Thank you Jennifer.
I really needed to hear that someone survived. When I signed up to this network, I was hoping to hear stories from people who had accepted that there would not be children. All the stories are from younger people who are still trying. Don’t get me wrong, I hope everything works out for them, however, I would appreciate hearing from people who are past the child bearing years and are child free, accepting it and are happy.
Thank you again.
After 7 years of trying to get pregnant- and at least 2 miscarriages that I am aware of- requiring hospitalization- fertility treatments, praying, etc.etc. I have finally come to terms with the fact that I am not going to be a mother. It took a while to get to the point of acceptance that I am at now (or at least most days
Giving up the dream of parenthood was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with in my life. However, now that I am on the other side I see that life can be beautiful, fulfilling and rewarding. It can be full of love and joy too!! It’s just different than what I thought it would be. Like Laurie- I too have finally accepted this is the thing in life- my thing- that’s difficult. We all have a cross to bear and this is mine- and that’s ok. Hang in there ladies- as one whose been through it- you can come out the other side stronger and happy.
Dears,
A quote I like to share with you all, from a friend who tried to boost me up of the fact that I can not have kids om my own.
“God loves all the women, the one who have a child and the one who can not”.
It is very hard to deal for yourself to be infertility and als the explaining to others. Other remarks like if you not have a child of your own your not a woman, grrrr… I hate it, but try always to be polite. It take years for me to cope with it, a lot of silent tears. Meditation exerices have helped me a lot. And take a son of my sister, as a 6 month baby, in house is a blessing to us. He is now 15 years old and in his teens, but I still enjoy having him around.
So, mums-can-not-be I hope I cheer up you a little with sharing above quote with you.
greetz
Soem
Carol,
I know my parents were upset when I told them that my husband and I wouldn’t be having children. However, when I explained to them the cost of trying to do fertility and the cost of adoption, they understood a little more. We may still try to adopt down the road, however for now we would like to save up money and be sure we are in a good financial position before doing so.
Some people are willing to pay the price at any cost to have a family of their own–it seems like your son and his wife have decided not to. Please be a parent and stand by them and help them through this. It was difficult for me at first and I just asked my Mother to stand by me as it was difficult enough to take it all in and she’s been there for me to lean on when I’m having a down time. As hard as it may be for you to not having grandchildren, know that it have to of been just as hard for your son and his wife to make their decision. It’s difficult at first, but I hope in time you will all be able to realize why they have made the decision they have.
My son and his wife have decided not to have a family.(Or should I say, she has decided and he now thinks that is what he wants also). I am devastated, heart-broken and consumed with grief. Help please !!
Carol
Thank you. Finally someone who is actually happy without having to have a baby. I’m not saying that there is anything wrong with wanting children, as I certainly did, however, I’m now 51 and my husband and I were not blessed with children and am growing tired and depressed of reading all the posts about how unhappy and depressed people are because they don’t have children.
When I logged on to this site, it was for support, and not to be made more
depressed.
Cathy,
Did your best friends daughter have her twins already? My husband and I are willing to adopt and I would never want to split twins up!
Please let me know and we can get in touch! We would be willing to travel to Florida, we live in Wisconsin and around 30 yrs of age, and if she would like recommendations, we can get those as well!
My thoughts and prayers go out to you in hopes you can find some comfort as well as your best friend and her daughter! My husband and I can’t naturally have children and the cost of IVF is outrageous.
Dear Rony,
Thanks for your comments.
I agree that there is a reason for everything, even if we don’t know what that reason is. And life is so much easier and better if we can flow with what we’re given, instead of fighting it.
Blessings,
Laurie
Dear Cathy,
I’m 41, too! Some days I am perfectly fine with the idea that I’ll never have a child, and other days I feel very sad about it.
I always hoped I’d find a situation similar to yours: a friend’s daughter gets pregnant and gives us her child! But I never thought how painful it could be — what bad luck that it turned out to be twins. I don’t think I could raise twins either, and I’m married! My mom is a twin, and it’s a handful in a lot of ways. One of my friends has twin two year old girls, and I can’t believe how much work it is.
I think some of us simply weren’t meant to have children. Some of us get cancer, some of us are born with disabilities or chronic illnesses, some of us have congenital diseases…we all have something.
Five months ago, we got a dog. While I don’t believe our dog could ever be a “child” to us – and I refuse to refer to myself as “mommy” to my dog!! – I do find that it helps fill the hole left by a childless life. We took our dog on a road trip, we talk about our dogs potty habits and poop, we love watching her romp with other dogs at the dog park, we give her baths….it helps fulfill the need to take care of another living creature.
Getting a dog isn’t the answer to a childless life and won’t erase your pain, but it can be a fun and joyful way to live. It’s also a great way to meet people!
I haven’t completely given up hope of having a child yet. I’m 41, but I know women who had kids in their mid-40s. I think if I had to completely, totally accept that I’ll never have kids, I’d be sadder than I am…I like living with hope!
And I trust God. I believe in a God who loves me and wants the best for me, and who is in control of my life. I don’t know why He hasn’t blessed me with children, but I don’t feel bitter or angry at Him. It is what is is, and I will make the best of my life no matter what it brings.
I’m glad you have your nephews and nieces – and I’m especially glad you can see the good parts of your life!
Blessings,
Laurie
I’m having a really tough time accepting I will never have a child. I’m 41 and never married. Due to my age, I decided to try and have a baby with a friend and we would co-parent. I ended up having an ectopic pregnancy in April 2010. I had an ovary and tube removed at that time and the few times we tried after that never took.
Then in April of 2011, my best friend’s 16 year old told me she was pregnant and asked me if I would adopt her baby. She moved in with me (she is from FL, I live in NC) and a month later, we found out she was pregnant with twins. I can’t afford twins on my own and refused to split them up, so she went home to her family in Florida.
Now I’m dealing with my sister, who just turned 40 and has been married a year. She’s being induced with her first child tomorrow. I’m an emotional wreck! Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy for my sister, just sad that it’s not me. I’m currently in therapy, but don’t feel like I’m getting anywhere with it.
I must say though, I am thankful for my 6 nephews and 2 nieces (and the one that will arrive tomorrow) as they are the lights of my life. I couldn’t be closer or love any one of them more than I do.
I decided about 3 years ago that motherhood was not something I truly wanted. The idea always gave me a sick feeling, all the responsibility and the thought of being pregnant… yikes! For some reason people like to make me feel as if I am less of a woman because I don’t want to be a mother. My freedom is priceless and nothing in this world makes me happier. I think sometimes women have children to keep men in their lives, in fact my cousin is having her first baby by a man with 2 children by two other women. She can’t afford this obligation yet she wants to have this baby bacause she loves the man. I feel so sad for those who can’t bear children, because there are so many people who should have never had children. I will say that it was not a role that I was meant to lead in life, however people who can’t have children should think of it as a sign that perhaps they were not meant to be parents. It’s only a blessing for those who can provide for the child, I feel like there is a reason for everything. Even if that reason is unknown in the present, the future will prove the reason for such events.
I am a 22 year old. I am dealing with the fact that I will not have kids, Not for the fact I physically cant. I mentally cant I have severe bipolar and loose my cool very quickly and can become violent. I do not want to have a child and have that happen. So i have chosen not to have kids. I am having a very hard time accepting that Its only the fair thing to do for myself and any child I gave birth to.
Dear Stacy,
I’m so sorry to hear you can’t have kids…and that you’re having trouble accepting a childfree (childless!) life.
I don’t think it’s something you accept and are done with it. Instead, I think accepting a childfree life is something you have to do every day – sometimes several times a day! I’ve accepted that we won’t have kids…and yet I still feel sad when I see babies, or when my friends with kids visit.
It’s not just a one time thing, this living without children. It’s a daily act of acceptance.
About fostering kids, I think you should listen to your husband and counselor! They know your personality, health, and lifestyle, and they have your best interests at heart. I don’t think they’d be against fostering for any reason, other than it’s not a good fit for you right now.
We can’t afford to adopt, either. So, I write and blog and travel and do things I enjoy. I try not to focus on not having kids…I try to focus on the things I love about life! Spirituality is huge for me. I believe in Christ, and find a lot of peace, happiness, and joy in prayer and nature and church.
I hope this helps…and welcome your thoughts.
Blessings,
Laurie
It will be two years in December since I had an emergency hysterectomy. I am 35 and was married three years ago. My husband and I talked about having lots of kids before the surgery. I have seen different counselors and yet still cannot accept the fact I will never be able to have children. As I am writing this I am crying and inside and out. I do not know what to do. My husband and I can’t afford adopting a child, we heard it’s thousands of dollars. I wanted to foster kids, but my husband and counselor said I shouldn’t. I need advice please.
Thank you,
Stacy Botar
Thanks for your comment, M! I think many people have children for the wrong reasons. And, a nurse once told me that more than 50% of pregnancies are by accident. I couldn’t believe it.
Though it’s hard to accept a childfree life, it’s definitely possible to be happy without a baby.
Blessings,
Laurie
Hi:
Having a child just so that you will have a part of you is not a good reason to have one. I’ve always wanted children to love. Too many people want children just to make them feel that a piece of them will live on. If you have nephews/neices or siblings, a piece of you will live on. I’m crushed because I couldn’t have children, not because a piece of me will not live on. If someone wants a piece of them to live on, be kind so that people will remember you.
Dear Pamela,
My husband can’t have biological children – he has azoospermia (no sperm). He feels the same way your boyfriend does; disappointment and sadness that nobody will be part of him or carry his name after he’s gone.
It is a very difficult thing to come to terms with. I suspect your boyfriend is mourning his loss – the loss of something that most of us grow up thinking we’d have. I know my husband grew up thinking he’d have SIX kids!
How do you work this out? He needs to decide if a childfree life is something he can live with. He needs to settle it in his head and his heart once and for all: can he live without having kids?
The thing is, the pain of not having kids never really goes away. It is ALWAYS there, even if you’re like me and you’re happy without a baby! I still feel sad sometimes that I never had kids.
I think he needs to know that a part of him will always mourn his loss. He can be happy with you and love you with all his heart, but still have an underlying sadness that he never had kids. That’s normal. If he knows this now, he won’t be bitter towards you or second guess his decision to stay with you in a few years from now.
How will he learn this? I don’t know.
Would you like me to write an article about how the sadness is something people without kids learn to live with? Maybe you can send it to him, so he sees what it’s like. Maybe it’ll scare him off, maybe it’ll help him see that his feelings of loss and mourning are normal…and won’t completely disappear.
Let me know. I can post the article link here when it’s written, and you can decide if he should read it.
Blessings,
Laurie
Dear Laurie, thank you so much for your reply. To be honest, we had discussed this and he had always said he didn’t want any children. Its only in the last few months that he has been like this. He says altho he knows we will have each other when we are older, he doesn’t have anything that is part of him, and I do, as I have a son. I am giving him space, tho it is so difficult not to talk to him every day, we haven’t spoken in over a week, and im missing him so much. What we had planned to do after the wedding was travel, and have some fun in our lives as we have worked so hard over the years. Im so confused and really not sure how we can work this out. It’s breaking my heart…
Dear Pamela,
I think the bottom line is: do you want to have a baby? You have to look deep into your heart, and find the answer that represents your honest feelings.
There’s a big difference between having a baby to make your fiance happy, and having a baby because you really want to. If you have a baby to make him happy, you’ll be the one primarily responsible for the baby’s care (you know what it’s like!).
The chances of a 43 year old woman getting pregnant are much lower than even a 40 year old woman – but it’s still possible. You could have in vitro fertilization; I think the odds are less than 20%, depending on which fertility clinic you talk to. But if you want it to happen and your body is willing, then it could happen.
I think you should give him time to figure out what he wants. I suggest giving him space – give him a chance to miss you. Decide what you want to do about getting pregnant. Communicate that to him honestly, and tell him that it’ll break your heart if he decides that he really wants children — but that you have to remain true to you.
I hope this helps a little…I’m sorry you and he aren’t on the same page. But, a child is definitely a make or break part of the deal. There’s no compromising with children….well, I guess you could compromise and have a baby, but as I said and as you know, it’s a huge sacrifice.
Let me know what you think…I wish you all the best.
Blessings,
Laurie
Hi there, I could really do with some advice on my issues at the moment. I was married for ten year and am divorced for 11, I have one son who is 19. I met my current partner 3 years ago and he doesn’t have kids. Now its becoming an issue for him and he says he doent know how to get over it and has asked me for time to sort his head out. he works abroad, and we are due to get married the end of next year. I am at my wits end, as he says he doesn’t know what he wants, and I feel that at 43 i am too old…please any advice would be so much appreciated.
Dear Haydee,
I am so sorry for what you’ve been going through. Not being able to have children is hard enough, without people having negative thoughts about it.
Do you wish your partner would end your relationship? What do you want – besides a baby? Maybe having low self-esteem makes things much more complicated.
If you have a specific question, I’d be happy to try to answer it. All I can do right now is say my heart goes out to you, and I hope you’re able to resolve your feelings and reconnect with your partner.
Blessings,
Laurie
I’m am feeling a huge sense of loss and guilt. I had an abortion an 21. I came from a broken home and was determined not to have a gaggle of children just because … Like my paternal mother did. She is a very horrible lady who irrespective of what you achieve on life she thinks I am sh*t. I have had 6 rounds of clomid , 3 rounds of IUI and 1 ivf. All failed and deep down I know it will never work. I don’t know why I just do and I look at my partner while he sleeps and think I’m being unfair. I should leave it MY problem not his. I’m 35 and he is 34. He could father and I deny him. He’s been really cold since the ivf failed and I can’t he but think he’s thin,ing deep down oh sh*t ! But I think his morals keep him from doing what I think he’d like to and that pass me over. It doesn’t help that he was a family friend before we got together. There’s a sense of responsibility on his part but I wish he’d end it. It’s my grief not his just let me slope off lick my wounds and get on with a lid without anyone. But I do love him, actually I adore him and I admire his arogance. I suffer with low self esteem although I know I am good person and I’m clever. I’ve a successful job I work in media and I’m top of my game. So why I feel hollow is beyond me. Ive spent 35 yeRs wanting to be looked after and loved and been a child who would do this is denied. I hate my mom because of this. She was sh*t at it and id do a much better job but she could have kid and I can’t because she was so shit. It’s made my life seem so hopeless. What’s it a
L for now?
Dear Tina,
Thanks for your comment, and for sharing this. My heart goes out to you — I, too, chose not to have fertility treatments. Being happy without a baby isn’t easy, but it is possible.
I wrote this article for you:
Childlessness and Happiness – Why I’m OK With Being Childless
I hope it helps, and that you include me on your journey towards acceptance and finding God’s purpose for your life.
Blessings,
Laurie
Hi,
I am needing to find my happiness. I love my husband with my whole heart. We recently found out that we can’t have kids and have decided against fertility treatments. It hurts, but I am trying to learn to accept this. I just cry and cry every time I think of it. I don’t want to see a counselor but it may come to that. I just don’t know where to begin to accept it. I wanted kids because growing up, I always dreamed of having them; being able to watch them grow and going to sport/school events. I need to remember that God does things for a reason. Maybe we aren’t meant to have kids; what if we did and they had medical problems, then it wouldn’t be like I dreamed it would either. I’m trying to see the positives in a childfree life, yet I break down when I do. Maybe it’s because I spend so much time around family/friends who do have kids and I wish I could experience what they talk about. I know we always find a way through life, I want to be that happy, loving, cheerful wife I was before we found out our problem. I’m thinking I need to go pick up a book—but where do I start.
Dear Judy. I applaud your strength in choosing rather than letting life happen to you. Society often attempts to impose itself on what should be a personal decision. I am also childless, but by marriage not by choice. It is a greatly different experience. I feel strongly that having or not having children should be a conscious choice. Oddly, I know many people who just drifted into parenthood by happenstance. I am not sure why this gives them the moral high ground and yet… In any case, I wanted to share that my older sister also chose not to have children. At 53, she and her husband are still very happy with their decision.
I strongly oppose the idea of thinking that childlessness and infertilty are anything tragic. As a matrophobe who do not want to become a mother myself, I believe that infertility is a blessing. It is the misconception of procreation as a “must” which causes us, people who don’t ever want to have children, to get shunned by the convention of society. I am 32 years old. I went to a obestrician requesting a tubal ligation. That doctor hestiated to give me one because I look younger than my age and have no children at all!!!! Being child-centric is just like being ethnocentric or homophobic. It is denying that people like me, who is fertile but never wants to children, ever exist!!!! Having children is not for everybody. And if anyone is not able to have children at all without needing a tubal ligation or a vasectomy, God bless!!!!
Hi again Jen,
Your comment gave me so much to think about, I had to write an article about it. Here’s the link; if you have any further comments or questions, I’d love to hear from you.
Living Without Children in a World of Families
Best wishes,
Laurie
Thanks for your thoughts, Jen! I really appreciate the feedback.
Maybe this blog needs to go in one direction or the other: how to get pregnant, or how to accept a childfree life. Maybe I’m trying to cover too many bases by including both types of lifestyles.
Though, I’m trying to get pregnant AND I’m accepting childfree life at the same time. Does it have to be one or the other?
Like I said, thanks for the food for thought!
Laurie
Perhaps your advice might be better received if it were not accompanied by…21 ads for fertility help.
Dear Madonna,
Thank you for sharing your story here. It’s great to hear from you. I’m on the other end of Canada — Bowen Island, BC — and I love hearing from fellow Canadians!
Infertility is so sad, isn’t it? I’m almost 40, and we don’t know if we’ll have kids. My hubby has azoospermia, and I’m not big on trying in vitro fertilization. We’ve tried intrauterine insemination, but it didn’t take after 6 months. I think we’ll try for another 6 months…
But to get to your question! I hope other women who can’t have kids are able to open up and connect with you here. I know hundreds of women are reading these articles every day, but not everyone comments.
My heart goes out to you. I think that the pain of a childless life never goes away. Just like the pain of losing a child, of losing a spouse — there are so many life tragedies that we never fully recover from.
I just wrote How to Live With the Fact That You’ll Never Have Children with you in mind. I hope you read it, and I hope it helps a little!
And, I wonder if you should take a break from your friends who are so into their children and grandchildren? The more time I spend with families and moms, the more I wish I had kids. But when I spend time with my friends who don’t have (or want) kids, or who have kids but don’t consider them the absolute be-all and end-all of life, I feel better about my own situation! I love those parents, who love their kids but who have very active lives, careers, hobbies, etc aside from their children.
Everyone has different pain in their life. A friend of mine recently lost her 18 year old son in a drunk driving accident (he was the passenger; his friend the drunk driver survived). SO much pain there: my friend, the boy who was driving under the influence and who feels he killed his best friend, his mom, their friends….
I guess the point I’m trying to make is that we’re coping with inferitility, and it’s awful. But, everyone is coping with something. You know what I mean? Everyone you meet is facing a hard battle — whether they have kids or not.
To choose to be happy in the face of whatever pain we’re dealing with is the true meaning of life, of success, and of happiness. Choosing to be happy is painful and difficult, and it’s something we have to do throughout every day! It’s not one choice that lasts forever, it’s a choice that we have to make every hour.
Anyway, I just want you to know you’re not alone.
Have you considered mentoring other women who are coping with infertility? Is there a support group or something in your area? Connecting with others in our situation — like you’re trying to do here — can be very helpful.
I wish you all the best, and welcome you back anytime! Please do keep in touch.
If you have any comments or disagree with anything I’ve said, I welcome that too. I’ve got a tough skin!
Take care,
Laurie
I’m 49 years old, have been married for 18 years to a wonderful husband and do not have any children. We desperately wanted children but were unsuccessful. I experienced two miscarriages. My first miscarriage was at 6 weeks and I was 32 years old. My pregnancy was natural. We continuously tried to get pregnant without any success and at the age of 36 I decided to try IVF. This procedure was not available in the province of Newfoundland, Canada at that time and my husband and I travelled to Toronto, Ontario to TCART for the procedure. I was successful in getting pregnant, however, at 3.5 months, I miscarried. My miscarriage was caused by a uterine infection which entered into my bloodstream killing my baby wherein I ended up with septicemia and nearly died myself.
I am very fortunate and blessed that I survived, however, 12 years have passed and I still feel the pain of not having any children. Throughout the years, I have been asked many, many times why I don’t have children and who will take care of me when I get old. I also get very tired of hearing the phrase, “I would die without my children” or “my children are my life”, etc etc. One thing that I have learned is that some Mothers can be very cruel, especially when they say, “I can’t wait to be a grandmother,” and those that are, all they say is that “my grandchildren are my life”. I could say so much in return, however, I refrain, only to break into tears when I get home.
I would really like to connect with individuals who are in my situation or some advice on how to live my life without feeling sad most of the time.
Thank you!
Yes, you should definitely see the doctor! The sooner you get any disease dealt with, the better.
As far as not having kids if you have Crohn’s disease — don’t resign yourself to infertility or accepting a childfree life yet! Crohn’s doesn’t usually affect your ability to get pregnant (though it can complicate things, depending on how bad it is).
Go see your doctor, start a treatment program, and be positive about your future family!
All best,
Laurie
I’m very afraid about how Crohn’s disease will affect my ability to get pregnant. I have some abdominal pain, often in the lower right area, and diarrhea. Should I go to see the doctor? Please help.
Thanks for this tip, Kelly!
Pamela – the author of Silent Sorority – actually wrote “5 Steps to Coping With Infertility” on Quips and Tips for Couples Coping With Infertility a couple months ago.
Fabulous information — here’s the link:
http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/quipstipscouplesinfertility/health/5-steps-to-coping-with-infertility/
One thing I’ve learned: when you’re coping with infertility, some days are definitely better than others!
Laurie
An infertility blogger wrote a book called Silent Sorority that you might want to consider for a book review. She and her husband are childfree, not by choice. Visit her website to learn more http://www.coming2terms.com.