Comments on: A Couple Who Adopted While Coping With Infertility http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/a-couple-who-adopted-while-coping-with-infertility/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=a-couple-who-adopted-while-coping-with-infertility Want to get pregnant? Fertility tips, plus inspiration for living a childfree life. It's all here! Wed, 23 May 2012 18:46:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Janet http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/a-couple-who-adopted-while-coping-with-infertility/comment-page-1/#comment-2385 Janet Tue, 01 Jun 2010 09:39:51 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/?p=82#comment-2385 You are very courageous to have pursued and succeeded at adoption. The pain of infertility is impossible to impart to those who have not experienced it and most who have eventually get their "miracle" pregnancy. In that way it can be both isolating and frightening - when you realise how low you can go and how different your life is from that of your contemporaries. My husband and I have experienced 8 years of 12 miscarriages and 11 ivfs (including 2 donor egg). At the end of all that the doctors then decided it's because of my husband's undescended testicle as a child. All that pain and expense and nothing would ever have worked! Now we are considering adoption, people say to us, "Oh, but it's such hard work!", and "You might as well just enjoy the life you have." It's as if, having endured the pain of infertility, society thinks we should not have the opportunity to experience parenthood. It's like being given a kick in the face after you have already been beaten up. I know it will be worth it in the end, but it really is very difficult when others don't even recognise that we have been suffering so much over the last 8 years. It's nice to hear that your experience strengthened you for motherhood. I hope you got a brother or sister for little Ryan. You are very courageous to have pursued and succeeded at adoption. The pain of infertility is impossible to impart to those who have not experienced it and most who have eventually get their “miracle” pregnancy. In that way it can be both isolating and frightening – when you realise how low you can go and how different your life is from that of your contemporaries.

My husband and I have experienced 8 years of 12 miscarriages and 11 ivfs (including 2 donor egg). At the end of all that the doctors then decided it’s because of my husband’s undescended testicle as a child. All that pain and expense and nothing would ever have worked!

Now we are considering adoption, people say to us, “Oh, but it’s such hard work!”, and “You might as well just enjoy the life you have.” It’s as if, having endured the pain of infertility, society thinks we should not have the opportunity to experience parenthood. It’s like being given a kick in the face after you have already been beaten up. I know it will be worth it in the end, but it really is very difficult when others don’t even recognise that we have been suffering so much over the last 8 years.

It’s nice to hear that your experience strengthened you for motherhood. I hope you got a brother or sister for little Ryan.

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