May 262011
 
when your heart breaks who will comfort you

You’re not alone.

These words of comfort range from inspirational quotations to practical tips for healing and moving forward. If your heart is broken, they’ll help you heal and move on.

I gathered these tips and comforting words at the request of a reader:

“We were together for over 4 years,” writes M. on Surviving a Breakup – 10 Tips for When Your Relationship Ends. “I really thought we’d get married soon. Instead, he told me that he doesn’t feel love for me anymore, and that he wants to date other people. How can I get past this? I’d appreciate any words of encouragement that anyone could offer.”

One of my favorite ways to comfort myself when I’m sad, heartbroken, or depressed is to watch comforting movies. I love About a Boy with Hugh Grant because it’s so real. There’s a lot of pain, and a lot of love, connection, and hope in that movie — just like life!

Words of Comfort When Your Heart is Broken

Different types of comfort help different people. I love the spiritual words below because I believe in a God who looks out for me, loves me, and wants the best for me. Other people might find music more comforting (such as the best songs for broken hearts), or their pets, or painting a picture, or even food.

The best way to find encouragement is to try different things until you find what works for you…

Spiritual Words of Comfort

“God never promised that life would be easy, or that life would be free from pain, but He has promised that He will always be there when you need Him. He longs to cradle your brow…He wants you to tell Him just how you feel. It does not matter how bad you might have been, or for how long you might have ignored Him. Right now, speak to your heavenly Father, tell Him how much it hurts, unburden your sad heart to Him, and you will surely feel His love filling the aching void that has been left in your life.” ~ from Heartbroken? on You’ve Got Friends Who Care.

Comforting Quotations When Your Heart is Broken

“When love is lost, do not bow your head in sadness; instead keep your head up high and gaze into heaven for that is where your broken heart has been sent to heal.” ~ Author Unknown.

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” ~ Alexander Graham Bell.

“It has been said that time heals all wounds. The truth is that time does not heal anything. It merely passes. it is what we do during the passing of time that helps or hinders the healing process.” ~ Jay Marshall.

“One tear met another tear floating down the river. Said the first tear, ‘I’m the tear of the woman who lost her lover.’ The second tear said, ‘I’m the tear of the woman who found him.’” ~ Anonymous.

Comfort Food for a Broken Heart

Let’s deviate from words of comfort for a moment, and savor how nourishing comfort food can be when your heart is broken…

“[When my dog died], a good friend came over with some cheap but delicious Mexican food from La Fresita. She brought a Cuban sandwich and a green chili burrito….the Cuban sandwich was stuffed with thinly sliced pork, onions, tomatoes, grated lettuce, and some secret sauce. And the green chili burrito was also stuffed with a more meatier pork and spicy chili verde. I ate ravenously. We washed it all down with about two-thirds of a bottle of Charles Shaw (or three-buck Chuck) zinfandel. With a full stomach and slight buzz, I felt whole again. My dear sweet Painter boy who always savored every bite would have totally approved of my comfort food fest. Feeding the hungry heart was just what I needed.” ~ Comfort Food for a Broken Heart by Karyn Zoldan.

One last word of comfort when your heart is broken…

Sometimes what seems like the worst thing ever – the most heartbreaking loss you’ve experienced – can be the best thing for you, even if you can’t see it.

For instance, my husband and I can’t have kids. We’re coping with infertility. What comforts me is the thought that maybe our lives are better without kids. As much as I’d love to have a baby, I’m also accepting and embracing the idea of life without children.

If you’re struggling to let go of the past, you may find How to Let Go of Someone You Love helpful.

Why is your heart broken? What words of comfort do you find encouraging or comforting?

About Me

quips tips love relationshipsI'm glad you're here! My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; my husband Bruce and I live in Vancouver, BC with our critters. We can't have kids, and are learning to accept whatever life brings - both good and bad. I have an MSW (Master of Social Work) from UBC, and degrees in Education and Psychology. I hope you say hello below - I can't give relationship advice, but writing can bring you clarity and insight.

  7 Responses to “Words of Comfort When Your Heart is Broken”

  1. I’m so very heart broken…I let my emotions get the best of me & made an irrational decision…I asked the love of my life to leave our home…we had been having issues in our relationship, I regret that we couldn’t work things out before separating…I love him so, he is my one & only true love…I hope & pray that we can get past these hurdles & restore our love & relationship…I miss & love him so, I can’t get his voice out of my head, his face, his touch…I love him so, I need him to come back to me & mend my broken heart

  2. You’re more than your past failures and mistakes. You’re more than what you’ve been demonstrating up to this point in your life. Don’t let your screw ups define you. Instead, let your potential guide you toward becoming the person you want to be. – unknown, emailed to me by a friend.

  3. I’m sorry that your hearts are broken, and hope you found comfort here! Sometimes the best thing to do is write down how you feel. Expressing yourself can bring comfort – and so can knowing you’re not alone.

  4. I met dis guy at a weddin reception,we started datin nd d first month of our relationship was so wonderful,i loved him so much nd he loved me too or i tot he did,until his girlfriend from God knows where showed up on his birthday nd treatened my lyf,after sum tym he asked for my forgiveness nd promised to send d girl away,i’m confused,i don’t know wat to believe,i’m torn into two.

  5. I ruined the best thing that ever happened to me. I hurt the one who I love the most in my life by cheating. And he’s left me now and I regret cheating on him so much. It was only once, but that was enough to ruin everything between us. And now I’m left heatbroken with also the burden that it was all my fault that I feel this way. I shouldn’t be allowed to complain about how hurt I am because truthfully I broke my own heart by cheating. I love him dearly and can only hope that one day we may meet again and it will all be forgotten. I have truly learnt my lesson, and hate myself so much for ever betraying the one person in my life who meant the most to me.

  6. I’m fully heartbroken as the best of my relationship is over, the man i loved dearly and adored just came to me two days ago and told me that he has made his decision and he chose to be with the other woman and not me as he feels its best for me and he had made a promise to his late father that he will marry the woman so he needs to keep that promise.I feel empty, betrayed and unsure if iI’ll ever conquer the pain.

  7. i am married and fell in love with another woman. Me and the woman broke it off and i won’t go back but right now my heart is broken.

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