Comments on: What to Talk About on the First Date – Dating a New Partner

By: Ben

Ben — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 00:01:35 +0000

These are pretty good tips. Perpetuating what your date is already talking about is the right plan. Thanks for the post.

-Ben

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Tue, 04 Jan 2011 22:45:47 +0000

Matt,

Thanks for your comment — and your tip for what to talk about on the first date!

By: Matt

Matt — Sat, 01 Jan 2011 05:24:58 +0000

These are interesting tips. They all seem to be about establishing some sort of common ground and common language.

There’s a flip side to this, which is that just as you should try to find common ground, you should also avoid things that might immediately alienate you from your date. That’s why it’s a good idea to avoid political discussion (unless you met via membership to a certain political party, of course!).

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Thu, 16 Dec 2010 02:56:04 +0000

I agree that gimmicks aren’t good for first dates…but sometimes it’s good to have an idea of what to talk about before the date happens. It may help you feel relaxed, and ready to enjoy the date.

By: tom

tom — Sat, 11 Dec 2010 06:16:50 +0000

I would not try any gimmicks to force the conversation along. I would just let it play out.

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 14:29:12 +0000

Hi Moses,

Have you read 10 First Date Conversation Starters, here on Quips & Tips for Achieving Your Goals? Here’s the link:
10 First Date Conversation Starters

Also, I encourage you to be yourself! Talk about how nervous you are, or even how much you want to make a good first impression on her. Being authentic and real is a great way to keep first date conversations going — and to make yourself real and likeable to her.

And I also suggest you ask genuine questions. Really TALK to her; listen to what she says, and be curious about who she is and what she likes. Don’t just ask questions for the sake of asking questions — be sincere in wanting to get to know her.

I think the best way to stop being nervous and make great conversations on the first date is to forget about what impression you’re making or how you sound. Instead, focus on getting to know your date for who she is.

Good luck — and I hope you come back and tell me how it went!

Laurie

By: moses

moses — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 08:09:28 +0000

please….send me some tips on the this to say to a girl (effective discussion) on a date

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 16:08:03 +0000

Thanks for your thoughts, Flora.

Whether I liked or hated dating depended alot on my dating partner. Some guys were great to date, while others were torture!

And I think attitude matters, too. You have a great attitude: getting to know someone without trying to impress him. I wish I would’ve included that as a way to keep the first date conversation going, because I think the relaxation that comes with that attitude will keep the conversation easy.

Happy dating!

By: Flora B.

Flora B. — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 12:42:33 +0000

Thanks for these first date conversation tips. I think they’re great.

I love dating now but I used to hate it at first. What turned it around for me was realizing that I’m getting to know my date as a person, not trying to impress him with how wonderful I am! That makes starting conversations alot easier.

I like dating so much, I don’t think I want to be in a relationship

Flora