Comments on: What to Do When Nothing is Good Enough for Your Mother http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/what-to-do-when-nothing-is-good-enough-for-your-mother/ Got goals? Need a push in the right direction? You've come to the right place! Thu, 24 May 2012 22:43:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Laura http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/what-to-do-when-nothing-is-good-enough-for-your-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-39493 Laura Sun, 08 Jan 2012 19:52:57 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=8194#comment-39493 It was very nice to read this article. My mother is very unsatisfied with her own life, fatalistic, judgemental and critical and has absolutely no clue that all of these things strongly get projected on her children. She doesn't seem able to see how she behaves. If i try to defend myself she goes very much against it. I'm now 26 and unfortunately i had to go live back home when i was 24 to finish my studies, but now i'm at home it seems very much more difficult to find the courage to work at it, i try to get out of the house as often as possible because i feel like she is sucking away my self respect and i feel powerless to do anything against it. I try to picture myself that how she act tells more about her than about me, and so not accept her view of things. I know i am a good person and i honestly don't consider myself as a selfish person, even though she succeeds in making me feel one time after time! It's funny how you can see with your brain just how it is, but that's not enough to change your feelings. It can only help you to set yourself in a better direction. The sentence about your own situation, how that it's a sickness of your mother and that your robbed childhood won't prevent you of getting robbed of your childhood, i feel that it's giving me more peace and at the same time more energy of achieving something that is worthy of myself;). It might seem silly but i put it on my desktop so i will automatically remind myself.. It was very nice to read this article.
My mother is very unsatisfied with her own life, fatalistic, judgemental and critical and has absolutely no clue that all of these things strongly get projected on her children. She doesn’t seem able to see how she behaves. If i try to defend myself she goes very much against it.
I’m now 26 and unfortunately i had to go live back home when i was 24 to finish my studies, but now i’m at home it seems very much more difficult to find the courage to work at it, i try to get out of the house as often as possible because i feel like she is sucking away my self respect and i feel powerless to do anything against it. I try to picture myself that how she act tells more about her than about me, and so not accept her view of things. I know i am a good person and i honestly don’t consider myself as a selfish person, even though she succeeds in making me feel one time after time! It’s funny how you can see with your brain just how it is, but that’s not enough to change your feelings. It can only help you to set yourself in a better direction.
The sentence about your own situation, how that it’s a sickness of your mother and that your robbed childhood won’t prevent you of getting robbed of your childhood, i feel that it’s giving me more peace and at the same time more energy of achieving something that is worthy of myself;). It might seem silly but i put it on my desktop so i will automatically remind myself..

]]> By: andrew http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/what-to-do-when-nothing-is-good-enough-for-your-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-32819 andrew Sat, 29 Oct 2011 08:22:59 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=8194#comment-32819 Hello, I agree with you that good looks open doors, the problem is that if there is only one job available, good looks almost always trump talent, especially if the person interviewing you is a typical Alpha personality, who will put the chance of sex above the good of the company, I have witnessed this in many companies, funnily enough many of those companies are no longer with us. It makes me laugh often when companies start hiring people based on looks on the firm believe that 'it will make the company look good'. In certain industries, I can accept this, but for most, where the public are not present, there main goal is to produce a product to a very high standard, you must hire people based on talent, or your end product will suffer, but this is often not the case. Hello, I agree with you that good looks open doors, the problem is that if there is only one job available, good looks almost always trump talent, especially if the person interviewing you is a typical Alpha personality, who will put the chance of sex above the good of the company, I have witnessed this in many companies, funnily enough many of those companies are no longer with us.

It makes me laugh often when companies start hiring people based on looks on the firm believe that ‘it will make the company look good’.

In certain industries, I can accept this, but for most, where the public are not present, there main goal is to produce a product to a very high standard, you must hire people based on talent, or your end product will suffer, but this is often not the case.

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/what-to-do-when-nothing-is-good-enough-for-your-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-32745 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Fri, 28 Oct 2011 22:57:06 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=8194#comment-32745 Dear Andrew, I'm sorry that your mom was so critical and judgmental. I agree to a certain extent that good looks have a huge effect on how we're treated, how much money we make, what jobs we're hired for...and even how our moms treat us. But I do think that not all mothers treat their kids based on their appearance...and while good looks can open doors, in the end talent is really what matters. After all, good looks can only take you so far! Thanks for commenting. Blessings, Laurie Dear Andrew,

I’m sorry that your mom was so critical and judgmental.

I agree to a certain extent that good looks have a huge effect on how we’re treated, how much money we make, what jobs we’re hired for…and even how our moms treat us. But I do think that not all mothers treat their kids based on their appearance…and while good looks can open doors, in the end talent is really what matters. After all, good looks can only take you so far!

Thanks for commenting.

Blessings,
Laurie

]]> By: andrew http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/what-to-do-when-nothing-is-good-enough-for-your-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-32359 andrew Wed, 26 Oct 2011 23:00:31 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=8194#comment-32359 Well, there use to be a time when I would try anything to please my mother, however over time I realised that no matter how well behaved I was, how much work I did, how much money I handed over, she would never love me or like me. My parents divorced when I was only a baby, and I look like my father, so my feeling on the subject is that she can not love me, despite being a very good person, because of how I look, I genuinely believe that if I looked like her, the story would be different, my older brother looks liked my mother's side of the family, and he got everything when we were children, literally, it is not the best time in life to learn that people are very biased based purely on looks, but it is a lesson worth learning, they way modern western society works is edivence of that, where good looks are enough instead of being talented. Well, there use to be a time when I would try anything to please my mother, however over time I realised that no matter how well behaved I was, how much work I did, how much money I handed over, she would never love me or like me.
My parents divorced when I was only a baby, and I look like my father, so my feeling on the subject is that she can not love me, despite being a very good person, because of how I look, I genuinely believe that if I looked like her, the story would be different, my older brother looks liked my mother’s side of the family, and he got everything when we were children, literally, it is not the best time in life to learn that people are very biased based purely on looks, but it is a lesson worth learning, they way modern western society works is edivence of that, where good looks are enough instead of being talented.

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