What do you do when he says he doesn’t love you anymore?
It hurts to argue with your boyfriend or husband, but it’s devastating when he says he’s not in love with you anymore. Here’s what to do when he says it’s over.
Before the tips, a quip:
“Let there be spaces in your togetherness,” said Khalil Gibran. “And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.”
That’s one tip for when he stops loving you: take a step back and let the air flow between you. Below, I describe what “spaces in your togetherness” means. I hate to resort to cliches, but it really is true that when you set something you love free and it comes back to you, it was meant to be.
Sometimes you just have to let go.
If you want to work on your relationship, read I Love You, but I’m Not IN Love with You: 7 Steps to Saving Your Relationship. I also list a few more resources at the end of the article.
Here are a few tips on what to do when he doesn’t love you anymore…
What to Do When He Says He Doesn’t Love You Anymore
Focus on yourself – not on him
For others to love and respect you, you have to love and respect yourself. To love and respect yourself, you may need to make practical, tangible changes in your life. Maybe that means losing a few pounds, going back to school, or spending more time with people you respect. Maybe it means getting up early to exercise or finding out about student loans. To let go of someone you love, write down your goals, and take specific action steps towards achieving them.
Give yourself – and him – space to heal and breathe
One of the most important things to do when he doesn’t love you anymore is to take a step back – though your instinct is to move closer! Find your self-identity. Figure out who you are apart from your marriage, relationship, kids, and relatives. Give yourself (and him) room to breathe.
If he had too much space and found time to cheat on you, you may find How to Stop Loving a Man Who Lies, Cheats, and Steals helpful.
Look at your love and relationship objectively
You’ve been invested in this relationship for years; now, you need to look at it objectively, with your mind and gut (not your heart). Is this the relationship you wanted for yourself, before you met him? Would you want your daughter, sister, or best friend to be in this relationship? Does your partner willingly meet your needs and respect your wishes? Do you do the same for him? If you had to do it all over again, ask yourself if you’d choose him again as your partner. That may help you look at your relationship and decide if you want to stay or leave.
Incorporate two new activities into your life
Plan a trip to Mexico. Volunteer at a homeless shelter. Be a Big Sister. Take a sushi making class. Join a snowshoeing or hiking club. Take Zumba dance lessons! Find a new place to live. It doesn’t matter what the new activities are, really…what matters is that you find new, interesting things to do with your life. Then, when you start obsessing about your ex-boyfriend, you can practice replacing the obsession with something new and interesting.
If your partner doesn’t love you because he’s in love with someone else, read When the Man You Love is Marrying Another Woman.
Has your boyfriend or husband said he doesn’t love you anymore? I welcome you to share below.
Sometimes we need to take control of our lives and relationships! If he’s back and forth about loving you, not loving you, breaking up, getting back together — if it were me, I’d just call it quits.
I know this is easier said than done, but there’s only so much back and forth that one woman can take! The short-term pain of breaking up (and taking control of the relationship) may be worth the long-term pain of being tossed around like an unwanted kitten.
I have been with my boyfriend off and on for almost 4 years now. We started off as friends who would do everything together. We would play tennis, talk for hours, share private writings and stories, and etc. After a couple of months, maybe just a little over one, we decided to become a couple and I couldn’t have been happier. But boy things have been rocky since. I guess I should mention that he is 9 years younger than me. Which has never seemed like a big deal to me. We compliment each other and its recognized by many of our friends and family members. This last December he began talking marriage and went to his father for counseling. (We were separated at the time). We got back together, but just a month into it I could tell he was starting to have his doubts again. We werent arguing or anything like that, in fact everything seemed great. He finally expressed his doubts to me and I couldn’t handle it so we called it quits again. The following month he sent me some flowers, candies and gifts for Valentines Day. I guess I read it the worng way, because he says now that he was just sending that as a friend. Well needless to say we got back together. Again, everything was great except lately I could tell he was withdrawing again. So this weekend we talked it out and he says he doesnt “feel” like he loves me anymore, and that he goes back and forth in his mind all the time. I am very sad. We were supposed to be getting married in September. The crazy thing is that I never initiated any talks of marriage, he did… yet he is now the one who has backed out. I feel like I didnt just lose my boyfriend but I lost my best friend.
We (he) had planned a vacation for us in a few weeks and he is trying to persuade me to go… I just dont understand why we should go on vacation together…??
I am sorry I cannot reply to everyone!
Dear Miriam,
If you decide to get back together, then I think you should go very very slowly. Sometimes people change, but if you rush in too fast, you may find that he has not changed after all.
Love is often about finding the balance between opening your heart and being vulnerable, and being wise enough to protect your heart (and your children, if you have them!).
Maybe you could start dating him, and take things one step at a time. What do you think?
Blessings,
Laurie
My boyfriend of two years, told me I do not love you anymore. Just out of the clear blue. We had been together during the weekend and had a beautiful time,we never had a disagreement during our relationship, we were like best friends. He said I do want to remain friends with you,I will text you and call once in awhile to be sure you are ok.. I thought. My life would have ended at that moment. I told him I have tons of friends I don’t need that. I decided if he didn’t. Love me and wanted his keys back, then he should not know anything about me so I did the no contact,as much as it hurt me I couldn’t. Be friends,its been two years now, and after three months of no contact he started texting me.asking. His daughter to call me to see how I was but I stayed strong no contact,every bday,every holiday he text me.now after two year we meet up face to face. His face was like a Christmas tree he was happy, I keep my cool all I said was hello, and walked away, my heart with so much pain..i know that as soon as we had broken up he was with. Another woman, now they aren’t together I know. I still love him but that pain was so horrible I couldn’t live that again. His daughter told me he regret’s it. I love him so much.but I know I could never trust him again..help what should. I do people tell me everyone deserves a second chance..help
me and my fiance always hav been fighting in very silly matters. after two months we r getting married. we had relationship for the last 7years. we had a very sweet relation before our engagement in 2010. after the engagement everything change. he get annoyed easily of me. small issues has created big fights between us. and now i feel that he doesnt love me anymore.. though he says but i deeply feel that he doest.. i love him so much. and i want to rebuild our relation but donno how to start.. if i dont do anything from now, im sure married life will start badly… i cant afford that..
After four years I get a letter telling me I need to move out by the 1st of September. He says he loves me but isnt in love with me anymore and wants his space in his house. He says he wants to still be “together” just doesnt want a full time girlfriend wants to learn to be independent (he is 37) I have found a place but I really dont want to leave but feel I have no choice. I know I shouldnt chase him and I really have been trying but still living with him right now is so very hard.
I keep asking him if I did something wrong and he denies it but he is so cold, we are supposed to still be together yet he is alwasy off by himself I try to talk to him but he runs away
I need to decide whether or not I want to still be with him and the way he is acting now I am seriously considering telling him to lose my number once I move. I just wish my heart would listen…
my husband has always been so good to me and weve had a good relayionship but he is terrible with communication. we have been having financial issues and just recently he told me he doesnt think he loves me anymore, im afraid its all the stress of bill that is keeping him conected and im afraid im going to lose him i love him so much and i dont know what to do.
Dear Gemma,
Yes, I think it’s time to let go! Why do you want to hold on to a man who is verbally abusive? He’s told you over and over he’s not in love with you anymore….why do you want to stay with him?
Been suffering for quite long now, i am married to a very verbally abusive husband. He have nothing good to say about me at all. That i am nothing and nobody to him. I was diagnosed with breast cancer a year ago and he started to act differently. And just today, he said he is fed up with me. He is tired for he said i am just a burden to him. That he can get any woman anytime he wants. He wanted me to understand and just let go of his drinking habit with his friends. That is always the issue. Of course, i have the right to ask where is he and where have he been. But he is not giving me the right at all, he said i am JUST his wife and i dont have the right to ask his activities. Ive been suffering so much. Is it time to let go? I never gain even a little respect from him. Its so sad, that i gave up everythiing for him, but that doesnt matter to him at all.
I have been with the same man for nearly 30 years. First started going in college together. Quite frankly we were both career driven and although I was fascinated by him, I never felt the toes/fingertips kind of love that I had with others. Our relationship went along, through many career changes, bicoastal address changes, etc. I was 30 and we decided, for lack of anything better to do, to get married. I wanted children. We had difficulties with infertility then quickly had two children in two years. With the second pregnancy he had some sort of affair, never could tell me what exactly happened, and my imagination went wild. I found some pictures of two women so naturally I thought the worst. I never did recover from that. Whatever kind of relationship we did have, it was further drained by his drug addiction. Last summer when dealing with my father’s death, I broke down and finally ended this thing. There was nothing left.I feel nothing for him. It took him months to move out. I finally feel renewed, refreshed and alive again. I can’t wait to get the money and the paperwork of the divorce settled. Thanks for listening.
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, he broke my heart when we told me he wasn’t in love with me anymore, didn’t have felling for me when he hug or kiss me, he tried to fell it but couldn’. He wanted to be alone and want a me to stop contacted with me.ect. he told me allot hate full things and i couldn’t believe it at first but then i was thinking about that past 4 months. He took back the engagement,He was sometimes busy and did have time for me, i could tell he was acting different but didn’t through t it was about us. he got into fights with my family and me i felt lost but then he acted like everything was fine because we talk things out. its been 5 days we haven’t been together and on Facebook he been talking allot sh!T about me to people that it was all my fault and i ruin his life and i made him dead it his friends. i don’t know what to do. HELP!
I have been married for almost 23yrs and with my husband for 26yrs. 1 month ago we sat down to talk and he said I still love you, but I’m not in love with you anymore. I had felt a strain for a few months, I know we had some tough times financially over the years and busy with the kids activities, but I always thought as they left we would have more time for us, and as they have left I have tried to plan more couple things, but he has planned single stuff with other friends, some I don’t even know. We are both in individual counceling, I am trying to keep hope alive, but after a month of one sidded affection, I am feeling beat down. He has been leaving the house for days at a time to go hang out with friends. He still wants to be intimate, and we still putter around the house, but outside activities are not done together. I don’t know how much more I can take, my heart breaks every day. I don’t know what to do
I think that one of the worst things in life is when you love someone and they do not love you in return. Hoping and praying every moment of every day that they will change. Holding on to hope because you love them with all your heart. Accepting that they will not is very difficult. You cannot tell love what to do. I’ve loved a man for approx. 2 1/2 yrs and truly believed that he loved me too. That our union was special and had depth and meaning. He told me last night that he was not in love with me and that he could have sex with another woman and still continue to see me. That somehow that would be okay with him. He’s already left me in his heart and now I have to learn to let him go. I have to accept that he will never come back. I’m not going to hope any longer. This seems like an impossible thing to do since he’s a part of me. The only way I know how to do this is with God’s help. With God all things are possible and I must believe that He has a plan for me.
Hey ava this is for you
The same thing happened when my ex left me. I loved his family as well as him. One thing I can say is if he doesn’t come back don’t let that ruin your relationship with his family. I am still really close to my ex’s mom (she is like a second mother to me) and his step-brothers. Giving him space is good but you need to start working on building a life outside of him. Go do something new. Make a friend who doesn’t know him. Because if he doesn’t come back you don’t want your whole world to leave with him. Hang in there hon, I hope your luck is better than mine. Just remember either way that you are your own person and you should not let him define your life.
Hey mheart I know exactly how you feel. If you read my post you’ll see that I am still not over my ex. I will tell you my parents played a large part in our breakup. He claimed he couldn’t stand their crap anymore. I did have an advantage you don’t since he was in college and I was in highschool so I didn’t have to see him. That said. Since you still go to school with him my advice no matter what stance you take with him is to not let yalls breakup screwup your friendships with other people expecially mutual friends. When my ex left I lost a lot of friends because I ignored them and pushed them away. Don’t let that happen!
I feel kind of stupid commenting on this especially after reading some of these other posts. First let me say y’all are some strong women. You handled it way better than I did. I wasn’t dating my boyfriend for very long ( alittle under six months) when he broke up with me. But let me tell you, it hit me like a ton of bricks. I didn’t feel like someone else had died, I felt like I had died. I had been going through a really tough time with my parents and with selfconfidence issues. I didn’t really know what I wanted to do with my life just that I wanted it to change. I was not in a very happy place at all. I trusted no one and I hated who I was. So when I met him it was like a dream come true. He made me feel like the most amazing person. He wasn’t perfect and neither am I but we balanced eachother. He was strong where I was weak. We got really serious really fast and on my 17th birthday he asked me to marry him. Everyone expected it and we made plans to marry after he graduated from college. I worried a lot that things would change when he went to school since I was still in highschool and sometimes i wonder if my constant worrying and negativity dicdnt contribute to what happened. For the first month or so after school started we were fine, really happr actually. Then I started having issues with my parents and they actually forbid me to see or speak to him for about three weeks. That is when everything changed. I was so exstatic when I got to see him again but he seemed a little distant. He told me he was just having some problems at school and questioning some decisions but I didn’t think much of it. Little did I know the decision he was questioning was his relationship with me. When he finally broke up with me I was totally crushed. I was barley functional for days. I went through the motions of going to class and stuff but I wasn’t really there and I cried almost constantly. I begged and pleaded with him and for several months I was a complete mess. I couldn’t think of anything but him and my friendships and social life suffered. I know several teachers talked to my parents and several people tried to get me to talk to a counsler but I couldn’t bear to do that because that meant admitting I couldn’t get him back. Now almost six months later I am still trying to let him go. He has very thouroughly cut off all contact with me but I am still reminded of him nearly every day. I lost all my friends but one who stuck through it the whole time and even now is still fighting to bring me back. In a little over a month I will be headed of to start my freshman year of college. I really want to make a fresh start but I am terrified his memory will follow me even there. I was young and stupid andf oolish to build my life around him and I don’t know how to undo it.
Hi, my boyfriend of 2 and a half years broke up with me yesterday. Things were difficult because I live in the middle of nowhere and in the last 4 months we saw eachother once. But yesterday he said that he feels like he didn’t care anymore or miss me anymore and that he felt like he couldn’t be bothered to answer to my texts…
Is this relationship repairable or should I just move on? I feel like it may be due to the distance and the fact that I text him too much and I might be going china for half a year next year for Uni… Could he be protecting himself or is it my constant texts are so annoying that he forgets that he misses me?
During the break up he was acting like he was still sexually attracted to me but he was diliberately keeping his distance and not touching me？I just need to know of I should just give up or give him space and not text him and see how that goes?
I was with this guy for 12 yrs. then we broke up and for 10 yrs. then all of a sudden he facebooked me and i accepted, thinking after 10 yrs, he changed. ha, he just got worse. FIRST he came on spring break to see me and it was the best and he stopped drimking which was a BIG problem in our past. now i think its all good, NOT!!! then he pays for me to go to p.r. for 3 months, and i just had my ACL surgery. so, i go and he makes me walk all over the place when i told him if i go all i want to do is RELAX! you know. then he keeps me like a dog and tells me he will smack the s**t out of me in the airport when i was geting the ticket if i kept talking s**t. so, i left him, now he is here in my house in my state and not paying bills rubbbing the past in my face and making me feel i need to leave my house, i love him so much until TODAY. he told me out of know where , I DONT LOVE YOU! i think its time for him to go back to p.r. or by his family . im sorry, but now out of know where YOU dont love me anymore f**k that, gyou got to gol. WHAT DO YOU THINK I SHOULD DO!!!HELP!!!!!!!!!
Hello, Not sure how to even start.. I have been married for 13 years this coming may… I say married because we have not divored yet.. We have two children ages 5 and 10.. we are 7 yrs apart in age.. him being younger… we have had our ups and downs.. well at least I thought that was what they were.. he came to me last august and told me he loved me.. but was not in love with me anymore… at that point.. I was floored.. devasted… I couldnt really understand what he was saying.. I was in shock… but I knew something was/had been wrong for a while.. I had known for maybe 6-8 months before he came to me… but I didnt think anything was “really” bad between us before that.. just thought we were having typical married problems… like we werent doing things together much anymore.. and felt like there was a wedge being pushed between us .. with his job.. the kids.. life in general… through the years we have fought.. over one thing or another.. some drop down drag out fights.. some just short ones.. I felt that those fights were us claiming bounderies.. what we expected from each other.. what we were willing to deal with and what not… well through the years.. we would say mean things to each other.. in the heat of arguments.. I said pretty mean things.. I admit it.. one being that when we got together.. I would be the stay at home mom.. and take care of the kids.. we both agreed to that.. but when we would get into arguments.. I would throw it up in his face that I gave up everything for him.. so he could pursue his life.. career.. whatever… well I would say those things alot… and thinking back.. I never really meant to hurt him.. but it had.. and that is one of the things.. after talking with him that he is basing his feelings on.. saying that if you say it enough to someone .. they believe it.. and I understand that.. and Im so deeply sorry for the pain I caused him… I never knew how much it hurt him… but.. here we are.. and now he is leaving.. we are separating… I asked him if this is a separation.. or divorce.. he tells me that he is done.. and he doesnt think it can be repaired… Im SO broken hearted.. we have been trying to make things better all this time.. almost a year.. and all he has ever said to me.. is Im not happy.. that he doesnt feel any better about us.. problem is.. I have bent over backwards to change my outlook on our relationship.. tried everything I can to make him happy.. and its not enough.. he looks at me and tells me he feels Im doing all these nice things for him because I have to.. not because I want to.. so it just doesnt matter what I do.. it seems he will never believe Im doing all this things for him because I want to.. I want to make him happy.. he just doesnt believe me… I guess because he is so hurt… he also told me he is absolutly positive I am not attracted to him.. and he couldnt be farther from the truth.. I think he is beautiful.. but again.. he does not believe me.. and I am afraid to show him for fear of rejection from him…anyways… I know I have rambled.. and to be honest there is way too much to mention… I guess what I am writing this for is to ask if I should just let it go… him go… I really do love him.. he has been my world… my rock.. for so long.. and when we met.. we were so in love.. and we both felt that we were meant to meet and be together… and I dont know how we got to this point.. Im so devestated.. my heart has been hurting for so long… but it seems nothing is going to change .. no matter how much I try… thx for reading..
a couple nights ago my husband of only 9 months told me he thinks of me as more a friend than anything. and that through out our relationship and marriage doesnt feel as though i loved him. personally i dont know how he feels that way because i stuck by his side when he decided to jion the military, through out basic and tech school and i moved across the world(leaving my own family) to be with him. i do every thing he asks of me and even things he doesnt. my heart is sinking and it hurts so bad because i really do love and care for him and being in another country at the moment we still sleep in the same bed he still cuddles with me hugs me kisses me and calls me baby but i cant help but cry every time he touches me cause i dont know if its real or not and i dont know what to do. and i very strongly oppose divorce and its so early in the marriage. so what do i do?????
hello every one I really need help , last night my boyfriend tell that he wont to broke up with and he said he doesn’t know if he love me any more or not and he has 3 concern first we lose consummation because i am a negative person and i can’t give him an opining so he lost hope so he stop tell the important thing and shear things with me but this is not true he is a very busy person and have a lot of responsible on his back so i was trying to be nice to him when he tell me something and try to make him feel better,and his second concerned that we only talk about six and that making him fell low and then he start to avoid me and avoid talking to me but that also not true we always talk in late night and if i try to talk about any thing he go for six he never said he doesn’t wont it and wont it to stop yes sometime i felt like he doesn’t wont it but that the only way to grab his attention and the third one is that he save some money so we can get married in this year but now his family need him and need his money so he said he cant committed to me because he doesn’t have something to offer to me so my question is ,is it to late to fix this issues and come back together i love him and i know he love me too ,so can you please help me to get him back
Hi there where do I start I’ve been with my husband for 12 years we have our ups and downs like any couple well 5 days ago he comes out with he’s sick of me and the kids and he would leave if he had the choice his mood swings are like jeckle and hyde all the time well me and the kids have been ignored noW for 5 days and its driving me insane problem is kids are 9,8,6,3 so I can not make excuses for him not for his benifit but for the kids sake I just need someone to talk to he owns the house and I would have nowhere to go with the children and doesn’t seem to care how his moods affect anyone!
These asshats! Why do we let them do this to us. I know my worth. I’m smart, funny and pretty. WHAT am I/are we, thinking?! Sometimes I don’t feel I’m thinking at all…just feeling.
Thank you all for this discussion. It helps.
I know how all you are feeling. I’m 42 years old with 3 children: 15, 9 and 16 months, two bad divorces, and bad recent relationship. I recently got acquainted again with my high school sweetheart who lives across the country and has been there for 20+ years. We were talking, texting, facebooking, for months and he seemed like he really wanted to try to re-kindle things. He invited me to come out there to visit, was excited about it and said those things that make a woman really think that: “He is serious!, he really acts like he is concerned about me, my life and so on”. He even wanted to move back home (where I live) due to job and economical reasons. I arrived and we had one great day and night; then all of a sudden he acted like he didn’t want me there!!! Almost like I was interfering in his life and he wanted me to leave. When I confronted him he stated that I wasn’t that he just had a lot on his mind about moving, a job, and so forth. I immediately went to the airport and got a flight home. As I got out of the car to go in he kissed me and hugged me tightly with tears in his eyes, and of course I had been crying. Went home, texted him and he does respond, called him and he does answer and talk to me but not in that caring, concerned voice as before. Almost like I am bothering him. Through our talking; I rediscovered that we had so much in common; morals, values, goals, etc. So that makes it even worse for me: I guess he’s “just not that into me” as I am him. Very hurtful!!! can’t stop crying!!! He was the first guy in years that I felt such a connection with, and even after almost 30 years I still haven’t gotten over him. Any advice or help out there??
I found this site by typing “why am I letting my boyfriend determine my happiness”. I am (was) supposed to be relocating to another state to live with him. Three days ago I gave him my arrival date. Haven’t heard a word from him since. I’m feeling so many really painful emotions right now. Shock, grief, shame, embarrassment, abandonment, and a terrible fear of the future. I’ve been making plans for this move for over four months, and now I feel…I don’t know, kind of anchorless I guess. If I don’t have this what do I have. I’m not sure how to begin re-routing my life. I had it all planned out and now…well, now I see that all my plans, all my dreams and expectations were totally reliant on another persons feelings and actions. I’m hoping that this experience isn’t going to leave me hopelessly jaded and cynical (though at this moment I feel like it just might.)
Maria and sinead, I know EXACTLY what you are both going through. I actually take some comfort in knowing I’m not the only one. I have a 4 month old baby boy, I was with the father for just over a year when he decided to break up with me 6 months pregnant and left me for another woman. This woman was someone he has worked with for several years and I’ve even met her myself on a number of occasions. He is now living with her, they are possibly getting married and she is now spending time with my child. We were also engaged before. I have been in a state of traumatic turmoil and so depressed. But there is hope, I also met someone and he has been a saviour. I don’t need a man to make me feel better but I’ve gone through so much that I’m actually more confident in myself and he arrived just at the right time. I just need this other woman to get out of our lives as she’s not very nice and I don’t really want her round my son. So yes, my advice would be to stick at it, try and get happy for yourself and remain positive if you can. Its hard, I was crying every night waiting for my son to be born on my own while the man I loved was round the corner with another woman. I know how it feels, but believe me.. You do get through it. Oh and also, he will get his share of pain and its hiss loss anyway. Sacrificing a beautiful life with a beautiful family for some tart is a huge price to pay in the long run. X
Ok can someone help me? My boyfriend and I broke up 2 and a half weeks ago and I’m having that good-one-day-then-depressed-the-next moment…
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I actually tried asking people for help on some websites but no one’s been replying to me and it’s just making me feel hopeless. Can someone reply here first so I can at least know someone’s actually willing to help?
This reply is for: Landon Statis
Hello Landon,
I read your message, I’m thinking I can give you some advice, BUT I need to know what exactly happened; what that “bad” thing was that happened between the two of you, before I can give you specific advice. I can tell you from what I see, whatever happened, scared the hell out of her; to the point that she feels as if she can’t trust you again. Like I said, I need to know what exactly happened. Honestly, this may be a situation where you may just have to move forward or it may work over time. I’d also like to know when the situation took place. Did it happen in front of her children? Trust me, if she came out of one bad situation, she’s not going to want to get into another one. I’m sensing a lot, just based on what you wrote. If you’re comfortable, email me and I will give you my honest opinion. Your message to be will be kept CONFIDENTIAL. Now, in terms of you spending the holidays with her, I don’t know, again, I need to know what exactly took place between the two of you.
Best,
rlawrence215@gmail.com
Sinead i know its extremely difficult given your circumstance but you have to remain strong for your children, especially your unborn child. Men make it seem it is so easy for us just to simply move on and find somebody else, we don’t function the same way they do. For them is easy, ofcourse because we are the ones who stay with the kids and have to carry all the dead weight on our shoulders. As much i am crying inside i still have to put a happy face for my son. So try to remain strong, don’t show him your hurting. One thing I learned is that I have to pretend i am ok with his decision and not show him my emotions because if i do instead of bringing him closer, i am just pushing him away even more. Best of luck to you and your family. God bless