Take a deep breath, and use these three ways to turn your life around to help you gain control of your situation.
These tips are inspired by a reader…
“I hope you get the courage to move on and do what is good for you,” says Amy on How to Leave Your Husband. “Don’t hate the men in your lives – they did not force you to get married or have children or be a stay at home mum. Take responsibility for your lives, until you do just that you will always blame everyone else.”
Sometimes “taking responsibility for your life” means “out with the old and in with the new”!
One of my favorite books is Refuse to Choose! A Revolutionary Program for Doing Everything That You Love by one of my favorite authors, Barbara Sher. The first step to turning your life around and regaining control is to figure out what you really want.
3 Ways to Turn Your Life Around
“Most times, we women want to please everyone, we want to have kids to please our men, we want to be good mothers to our kids, but we never think of pleasing ourselves,” says Amy on my article about leaving your husband. “We all have one life to live, so live it well. Time will never come back, so if you want that Masters degree, go ahead! If you wanted to learn French or Italian, then do it! If you want to live in Spain – start packing. It’s your life.”
It’s your life, my friends. It’s time to take it back.
Remember that time doesn’t just fly – it’s a speeding bullet
I bet you often marvel at how fast time passes. Where did the week go? The month? The years? The first tip for turning your life around is to remember you’ll be 80 years old before you know it – and you’re the only one who can guarantee an exciting, fulfilled life. You won’t succeed at everything you do, but you can take risks and use every moment of life that God gives you.
One of my favorite quips is, “It’s later than you think.” My husband thinks it’s a depressing thought, but I find it motivating and inspirational! It helps me when I’m stuck, because it reminds me that if I don’t do it now, I may not ever do it.
Don’t let your life keep spiraling wildly out of control… it’s later than you think.
Figure out what kind of life you want to look back on
When I was 28 years old, I sat on a stool in my sister’s kitchen and said, “I want to live a BIG life! I want to reach age 90 and look back on my life and be amazed at what I did!” So, I moved to Africa and taught at an American high school there for three years. I’ve started businesses, tackled a freelance writing career, got married, went into counseling for a year before I got married to deal with my issues, and am now hiring writers for my Quips and Tips blogs! And we travel every year.
This is the kind of life I want to look back on…I want to have tried tons of new things, seen lots of new places.
Where do you want to go in life? Who do you want to be, what do you want to experience? If you want to turn your life around, you first need to figure out how to get a life you like.
Stop blaming other people for your problems
Do you hate your job? Feel fat and ugly? Have no time to exercise or declutter your house? Feel stuck in a loveless marriage? Struggle with financial debt and money problems? You create the situation you’re in, my friend. Instead of blaming other people for your problems, you need to take responsibility for your life by taking action. Even small, “baby steps” actions make a HUGE difference in helping you achieve your goals!
What action can you take today to start taking responsibility for achieving your goals, seeing your dreams come true?
Another one of my favorite books on turning life around when things are wildly out of control is This Is Not the Life I Ordered: 50 Ways to Keep Your Head Above Water When Life Keeps Dragging You Down. Check it out!
What does “out with the old, in with the new” mean to you? How will you turn your life around?
I'm glad you're here! My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; my husband Bruce and I live in Vancouver, BC with our critters. We can't have kids, and are learning to accept whatever life brings - both good and bad. I have an MSW (Master of Social Work) from UBC, and degrees in Education and Psychology. I hope you say hello below - I can't give relationship advice, but writing can bring you clarity and insight.