Comments on: How to Network for Shy, Quiet Types (Introverts!) http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/tips-for-networking-successfully-for-introverts/ Got goals? Need a push in the right direction? You've come to the right place! Thu, 24 May 2012 22:43:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/tips-for-networking-successfully-for-introverts/comment-page-2/#comment-26358 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Tue, 13 Sep 2011 17:20:38 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=649#comment-26358 Hello Jerry, Thanks for your comments, and for your link to more tips for networking successfully for shy, quiet people! One thing I've noticed lately is that social media (Twitter, Google Plus, Facebook) is totally draining me. I didn't think that online interaction is just as exhausting for introverts as in-person interaction is, but it is. I just want to write. And answer comments on Quips and Tips! Blessings, Laurie Hello Jerry,

Thanks for your comments, and for your link to more tips for networking successfully for shy, quiet people!

One thing I’ve noticed lately is that social media (Twitter, Google Plus, Facebook) is totally draining me. I didn’t think that online interaction is just as exhausting for introverts as in-person interaction is, but it is.

I just want to write. And answer comments on Quips and Tips!

Blessings,
Laurie

]]> By: Jerry http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/tips-for-networking-successfully-for-introverts/comment-page-2/#comment-26288 Jerry Mon, 12 Sep 2011 06:14:31 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=649#comment-26288 @Laurie Very helpful and informative. You set down some really great guidelines to commit to action. Being an introvert myself, having steps to follow in a systematic manner seems to make networking a little easier. More free tips from: http://www.helpforthenetworkingintrovert.com/ @Laurie
Very helpful and informative. You set down some really great guidelines to commit to action. Being an introvert myself, having steps to follow in a systematic manner seems to make networking a little easier. More free tips from: http://www.helpforthenetworkingintrovert.com/

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/tips-for-networking-successfully-for-introverts/comment-page-2/#comment-15468 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Thu, 16 Dec 2010 03:30:26 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=649#comment-15468 Hmmmm....thanks for your thoughts on introverted and extroverted personality traits, Ann! I don't agree that personality traits aren't important, though...I think personality can override what you want and how you want it. Hmmmm….thanks for your thoughts on introverted and extroverted personality traits, Ann! I don’t agree that personality traits aren’t important, though…I think personality can override what you want and how you want it.

]]> By: Ann http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/tips-for-networking-successfully-for-introverts/comment-page-2/#comment-14956 Ann Mon, 13 Dec 2010 14:36:10 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=649#comment-14956 What a thread and what opinions. I can just laugh. Someone defined the people on introvert and extrovert and then everyone is following the definition and how one or the other is successful or not. How come people do not get it? Has nothing to do with your personality but what you want and how you want it! For God's sake people :) I am an extrovert and introvert too, in different situations with different people. What about it? What a thread and what opinions. I can just laugh. Someone defined the people on introvert and extrovert and then everyone is following the definition and how one or the other is successful or not. How come people do not get it? Has nothing to do with your personality but what you want and how you want it! For God’s sake people :) I am an extrovert and introvert too, in different situations with different people. What about it?

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/tips-for-networking-successfully-for-introverts/comment-page-2/#comment-11725 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Fri, 03 Sep 2010 20:45:20 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=649#comment-11725 Hi Kikie, Yes, it's definitely possible for two introverts to fall in love and get married! I'm an introvert, my husband is an introvert, and our marriage is better now than the day we married five years ago. It sounds like there's more going on with your boyfriend than "just" being an introvert. If he doesn't like who he is, then it doesn't matter if he's introverted, extroverted, or a Martian. The issue isn't your personality traits, I don't think. It's his self-perception. Maybe letting go of him is the healthiest thing you can do in the long run, as heartbreaking as it is in the short run. Maybe he needs time to learn how to love and accept himself. Until he does that, he won't be able to loe and accept anyone else. Wishing you all the best, Laurie Hi Kikie,

Yes, it’s definitely possible for two introverts to fall in love and get married! I’m an introvert, my husband is an introvert, and our marriage is better now than the day we married five years ago.

It sounds like there’s more going on with your boyfriend than “just” being an introvert. If he doesn’t like who he is, then it doesn’t matter if he’s introverted, extroverted, or a Martian.

The issue isn’t your personality traits, I don’t think. It’s his self-perception.

Maybe letting go of him is the healthiest thing you can do in the long run, as heartbreaking as it is in the short run. Maybe he needs time to learn how to love and accept himself. Until he does that, he won’t be able to loe and accept anyone else.

Wishing you all the best,
Laurie

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/tips-for-networking-successfully-for-introverts/comment-page-2/#comment-11724 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Fri, 03 Sep 2010 20:41:09 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=649#comment-11724 Dear Lei, I'm so sorry I missed your comment! You asked a fantastic question. Let me know if you're still around -- if you are, I'd be happy to give you my thoughts. My short answer is no, I don't think pretending to be an extrovert will get you what you want. You CAN find happiness and fulfillment as an introvert! Laurie Dear Lei,

I’m so sorry I missed your comment! You asked a fantastic question.

Let me know if you’re still around — if you are, I’d be happy to give you my thoughts.

My short answer is no, I don’t think pretending to be an extrovert will get you what you want. You CAN find happiness and fulfillment as an introvert!

Laurie

]]> By: Kikie http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/tips-for-networking-successfully-for-introverts/comment-page-2/#comment-11692 Kikie Thu, 02 Sep 2010 16:33:27 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=649#comment-11692 Hi Laurie, Is it possible for 2 introverts to fall in love and get married? My boyfriend decided that we should separate because we are both introverts and will only be sad. Is this true? Well he is an unstable introvert and I am stable but, it has occurred to me that he hates himself for being an introvert. I am hurt. Hi Laurie,
Is it possible for 2 introverts to fall in love and get married? My boyfriend decided that we should separate because we are both introverts and will only be sad. Is this true? Well he is an unstable introvert and I am stable but, it has occurred to me that he hates himself for being an introvert. I am hurt.

]]> By: Lei http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/tips-for-networking-successfully-for-introverts/comment-page-2/#comment-9573 Lei Tue, 27 Apr 2010 02:08:06 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=649#comment-9573 I've been looking up a lot of information about being an introvert. Your articles are helpful in recognizing that I am a definite introvert. I do feel that your article is suggesting that introverts behave more like extroverts. No, I am not attacking your article or you however, it seems that introvert personalities are less likely to get the same job an extrovert is also applying for. Employers seem to only want people who will socialize with anyone. Most jobs are sales, sales need representatives, these representatives need to be outgoing, energetic, talkative to secure sales. Now where does that leave the detail-minded, punctual, articulate, diligent introvert? I can honestly say that I only landed my current job because i pretended to be an extrovert on that interview...I was in desperate need for a paycheck! No 3 years later I am miserable, but can't quit because jobs that suit me are hard to come by. To sum it up, would you agree that pretending to be an extrovert is more likely to get you what you want? --confused I’ve been looking up a lot of information about being an introvert. Your articles are helpful in recognizing that I am a definite introvert. I do feel that your article is suggesting that introverts behave more like extroverts. No, I am not attacking your article or you however, it seems that introvert personalities are less likely to get the same job an extrovert is also applying for. Employers seem to only want people who will socialize with anyone. Most jobs are sales, sales need representatives, these representatives need to be outgoing, energetic, talkative to secure sales. Now where does that leave the detail-minded, punctual, articulate, diligent introvert? I can honestly say that I only landed my current job because i pretended to be an extrovert on that interview…I was in desperate need for a paycheck! No 3 years later I am miserable, but can’t quit because jobs that suit me are hard to come by. To sum it up, would you agree that pretending to be an extrovert is more likely to get you what you want?
–confused

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/tips-for-networking-successfully-for-introverts/comment-page-1/#comment-7518 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Fri, 06 Nov 2009 22:43:18 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=649#comment-7518 Hi Jay, Thanks for your thoughts -- I haven't met many people who went from extroverted to introverted (except for one friend of mine!). I like your encouragement for people to know themselves, be themselves, and make conscious decisions to act. Good advice! :-) Hi Jay,

Thanks for your thoughts — I haven’t met many people who went from extroverted to introverted (except for one friend of mine!). I like your encouragement for people to know themselves, be themselves, and make conscious decisions to act. Good advice! :-)

]]> By: Jay http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/tips-for-networking-successfully-for-introverts/comment-page-1/#comment-7507 Jay Fri, 06 Nov 2009 02:47:20 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=649#comment-7507 Hi all The subject of introverts and extroverts has always been interesting in many fields and Laurie's articel certainly hightlights many things that introverts encounter. I am an introvert but was once an extrovert. Yes, this can happen. What changed me it is not important but what the change has done for me is to to experience both traits. My occupation involves numerous networking and presenations and the pre-anxieties before either of these events are massive [inc's extreme shyness]. How do I get through it all? By making a conscious decision and having the insight of self. We can read as many books on self halp as we want, but at the end of the day, it is up to the self to make the difference. Know thy self, accept thy self and if you really want to do something, make a conscious decision. Hi all
The subject of introverts and extroverts has always been interesting in many fields and Laurie’s articel certainly hightlights many things that introverts encounter. I am an introvert but was once an extrovert. Yes, this can happen. What changed me it is not important but what the change has done for me is to to experience both traits. My occupation involves numerous networking and presenations and the pre-anxieties before either of these events are massive [inc's extreme shyness]. How do I get through it all? By making a conscious decision and having the insight of self. We can read as many books on self halp as we want, but at the end of the day, it is up to the self to make the difference. Know thy self, accept thy self and if you really want to do something, make a conscious decision.

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