Comments on: Tips for Introverts – 6 Ways to Reduce Christmas Stress and Anxiety

By: Hear You Me

Hear You Me — Sun, 25 Dec 2011 16:22:23 +0000

I’m starting to dread christmas because my family always hosts a party for family and friends and I’m stuck at home all day having to socialize and/or cook, clean till I drop (my mom goes nonstop and I want to help bc she always overdoes it). I’m from a traditional conservative culture so since I’m the daughter I have to help help till the party is over and house is clean. I already started feeling very depressed a week ago because I knew what was coming. I just want Christmas to be over. I wish just one Christmas I could have the choice to go to a party, stay a bit and LEAVE and go home and rest. I’ve never been able to do this in my life. I feel like a prisoner and depressed right now bc I’m worn out and just want to be alone. I can’t even say I’d want to go stay with relatives because that would also be extremely exhausting for me. This is the curse of being a more extreme introvert. If I just can’t take it, I’m thinking of making up a story and going to my brothers empty house to be alone. I’m so physically tired too and fear I might have a breakdown….would it be wrong to do something like this?

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 19:47:36 +0000

Jennie Anne,

I’m sorry to hear about your anxiety and depression — but glad to know you’re managing it naturally with 5-HTP food supplements!

If you’re an introvert as well, I hope these tips help.

Blessings,
Laurie

By: Jennie Anne

Jennie Anne — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 10:11:54 +0000

I have both Anxiety and Depression. This is the wost sickness that you could possibly have in this world. I try to mange it naturally using 5-HTP food supplements.

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 17:47:54 +0000

Thanks for your comment, Matthew. That’s great that you put your wife’s needs above your own, especially if she wants to do more socializing at Christmas.

I sure hope these tips for introverts help over the holidays…I love writing about introverted personality traits!

By: Matthew R.

Matthew R. — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 23:44:26 +0000

I’m an introvert, but I put my wife’s needs above my own preference to stay how for Christmas. These tips for introverts are helpful, but I think sometimes you just need to do the right thing. And, the right thing is about loving your partner in the way they want to be loved.

Thanks for this article; I’m sure introverts everywhere appreciate it!

By: Laurie PK

Laurie PK — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 23:22:57 +0000

Hi Sue,

I’m with MacConvie on this one: you’re not wrong for wanting to share Christmas with your partner! He’s playing — and misusing — the introvert card.

There’s not much I can add to MacConvie’s suggestion, except to encourage you not to let him hide away for Christmas. If he absolutely refuses, remember that this isn’t a “one-off.” That is, he probably won’t change in the future and suddenly want to participate in family Christmas get togethers. You’ll need to decide if you can live with it or not…

Let us know how it goes!

Laurie

By: MacConvie

MacConvie — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 21:24:58 +0000

@ SUE

No you’re not WRONG. I am an introvert and he’s being an a**. He might have social anxiety. Many Introverts are usually fine being in extroverted territory, just not for LONG PERIODS of time. He can take short breaks if he needs to. Tell him him how it will make you feel if he didn’t attend.

Tell him something like this:

I understand your need to be alone to energize yourself, but I also have needs and since we are in this relationship together don’t you think it’s best we compromise? We can spend a little time with my family and then we can have the rest of the evening to ourselves. I’d really appreciate it, if you’d come with me…I’d feel a little hurt if you didn’t.

You’ve acknowledged his feelings, but you’ve also made sure that your feelings weren’t left out and that you both get what you want.

By: Sue

Sue — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 16:05:34 +0000

I am dating an introvert, for the first time, and this is our first holiday season together. None of his family will be here so he is left alone…while my family will be. Last year I was in a very serious car accident 4 days before Christmas that left my daughter (I am a single parent) by my hospital bed praying that I would survive through the holiday season. This year she has her mom and I am spending the holiday with my family. I INCLUDE him as part of MY FAMILY (since we have talked about marriage)…he won’t go because he uses his INTROVERT personality as his excuse….so I won’t see him now at all for Christmas Eve or Christmas. (I am in Law Enfrocement so I work both days…so my hours are limited to begin with).

We got into an arguement over this…his arguement was I don’t know what it is like being an INTROVERT…I told him him look up the definition of FAMILY!!

There are plenty of places to seek solice…or go for a walk and gain some alone time…he jsut doesn’t want to hear it.

I told him I have been through enough holidays as a single parent…now I have a partner and I am STILL doing the holidays as a single parent.

AM I WRONG???

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 17:20:57 +0000

Thanks for your comment, Barry. I’m not sure if these tips for introverts help with panic attacks…I didn’t think about them that way! Interesting idea.

By: Barry

Barry — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 08:22:39 +0000

There are many people that get anxiety because of the holiday season. Yes, these are some of the effective ways to get rid of panic attacks.