Thoughtful 40th Birthday Gift Ideas for Women

You’ll find the most thoughtful 40th birthday gifts for a woman in this list because I included a huge variety of ideas! These fortieth birthday gift ideas will make her 4oth meaningful because they focus on experiences as well as elegant and practical gifts. Most of these 40th birthday gifts are linked to Amazon, to make your shopping experience easy and fun.

Thoughtful 40th Birthday Gift Ideas for WomenFirst on this list is the Sterling Silver and 14k Yellow Gold Blue Diamond Tree of Life Pendant Necklace. It’s is a silver and diamond necklace with a polished pendant and a gold-plated tree at the center. The diamond-studded leaves at a touch of sparkle – this is could be a thoughtful romantic gift for a wife or a sentimental birthday gift for a sister or other woman who is turning 40 years old.

My first set of ideas on this list includes elegant, thoughtful 40th birthday gifts for women. The second list contains unique, creative ideas for fortieth birthday celebrations that involve experiences. First, though, I want to shake things up a little bit! I’m sharing what my husband’s gift to me was on my 40th birthday…

The Gift My Husband Gave Me for My 40th Birthday

Nothing. He didn’t give me anything for my 40th birthday! About three weeks before my birthday, we went on a 15 hour road trip to be with my friend who was getting chemotherapy treatments. My husband took almost two weeks off work to make this trip and to take care of my friend’s kids while I was doing the chemo thing with her. I told my husband that this trip would be my 40th birthday gift because I was so grateful.




He did exactly what I told him to: he didn’t give me a gift for my 40th birthday – not even a card!  And I was crushed. I was so disappointed, even though I knew he was only doing what I told him to. For the following wedding anniversary, he gave me a beautiful and thoughtful power point slideshow of pictures of us on vacation.

Two lessons from my experience of gifts for a woman turning forty: 1) Don’t believe her if she says she doesn’t want a gift for her 40th birthday; and 2) Consider giving her a creative power point slideshow of fun experiences in her past. Memories are the most thoughtful 40th birthday gift ideas for women.

A weekend getaway on her 40th birthday

Take her away for two nights – you don’t have to go to a faraway or exotic place. The fact that you thought ahead, planned something different, and took steps to celebrate her fortieth birthday by doing something different will make her happy.

Thoughtful Gifts for a Woman Turning 40

Thoughtful Gifts for a Woman Turning 40

Buy her this exquisite Cenzo Duffle Vecchio Italian Leather Travel Bag and pack it with a few small gifts (anything from retro candy from 40 years ago to pearl earrings). Surprise her with a card that explains where you’re going for your weekend getaway – or just give her a hint. Make it fun, light-hearted, special.

The most important thing you can do for a wife on her fortieth birthday is show her how important she is to you, and how much you care about her. That’s one of the most thoughtful 40th birthday gift ideas of all.

A diamond sun pendant

Thoughtful 40th Birthday Gift Ideas for WomenThe 10k Yellow Gold Diamond Sun Pendant is one of the most beautiful gifts you can give a woman turning forty. People will compliment her on this birthday gift because it’s both classy and light-hearted – and every time someone notices it, she’ll be reminded of you! This will help her feel good about turning forty.

No matter what gift you buy for her 40th birthday, remember that turning 40 is a huge milestone in a woman’s life. I loved my 40th because I felt like I was starting fresh. I felt strong, healthy, wise, and calm. The best 40th birthday gift is something that makes a woman feel good about herself.

The key to helping a woman feel good about herself on her 40th birthday is knowing her personality, likes, and dislikes.

Thoughtful Jewelry Gift Ideas for Her 40th Birthday

Here are several pretty, elegant 40th birthday gifts for women. Then, I’ll share several unique and creative birthday experiences for women – plus a fun Retro Candy Box for Women Turning Forty :-)

Jewelry Gifts for Her 40th BirthdayThe Mulco Unisex “Bluemarine” Stainless Steel and Light Watch – this watch is both a pretty and practical 40th birthday gift idea. It’s timeless, and perfect for any 40 year old woman.

14k Yellow Gold Round-Cut Diamond Hoop Earrings – a stunning twist on classic hoop earrings, with round cut diamonds that will light her up.

Sterling Silver and Cubic Zirconia Tennis Bracelet – a dazzling, classic bracelet that looks like diamonds but isn’t nearly as expensive. Jewelry is one of the best 40th birthday gift ideas for women – even for women who don’t normally wear jewelry. Jewelry is elegant, but not necessarily extravagant. African safari vacations and Caribbean cruises are extravagant 40th birthday gift ideas.

thoughtful gifts for women 40th birthdayThe 10k White Gold and Diamond Double Heart Pendant Necklace is an extravagant gift to put in the leather travel bag! It’s a symbol of love and unity. I’m not a woman who welcomes or even wears jewelry gifts, but I would wear this pendant if my husband gave it to me.

Jewelry is a “safe” gift for women because most women really like to glam it up once in awhile. The tricky part is knowing what kind of jewelry she likes. For instance, I don’t like big costume jewelry because I’m a small woman. I also don’t wear earrings, rings, or bracelets.

Take a good look at your 40th birthday girl: if she’s not a jewelry person, then don’t buy her necklaces, earrings, rings, or bracelets.

More Thoughtful 40th Birthday Gift Ideas

It’s important to know how she feels about turning 40. Does she see this birthday as a new beginning, or a tragic ending? If she thinks she’s over the hill, consider getting her something exciting and challenging, such as sky diving or ski lessons. If she couldn’t care less about turning 40, give her one of the most thoughtful 40th birthday gift ideas: something fun and creative.

An experience is an exciting way to spend a birthday. Here’s what @BamaGretch tweeted:  “I’m asking for my husband to rent me a Ferrari for the day on my 40th birthday. :-) ” An extravagant gesture is one of the best 40th birthday gift ideas.

A spa weekend for her 40th birthday

birthday gift for 40th birthday womanGoing to a resort for a spa weekend is expensive — unless you bring the spa to her. The Art of Appreciation Gift Baskets Essence of Luxury Vanilla Spa Bath and Body Gift Set is a thoughtful birthday gift she will delight in on her 40th birthday, and will use for weeks. Months, maybe! You might even give her a sensual manicure and pedicure after she relaxes in a bubble bath.

Something from her bucket list

This creative idea for 40th birthday gift ideas is from Alicia King, writer and creator of The Lili Effect. When I asked for gift ideas for women on Twitter, she said:

“Plunder the birthday woman’s bucket list for a novel experience you can do together.” I love it! Just yesterday, I told my husband that the number one thing on my bucket list is a boat. His dad recently gave us an old zodiac (inflatable boat with a teeny tiny motor), and we’ve gone boating twice. What a blast. So, if your birthday girl likes boating, gift her with a water experience! Rent a kayak for a couple hours, or even a houseboat for a weekend.

Silk pajamas

40th birthday gift idea for womenBelieve it or not, the Women’s Classic Silk Pajamas Luxury Gift is  one of the most popular and thoughtful 40th birthday gift ideas for women! These pj’s are a soft, gentle way to go to sleep at night and wake up in the morning. They’re comfortable and sleek against her skin, and a luxury she wouldn’t buy for herself.

Time is one of the best gifts you can give any woman turning forty. Time to herself, time to pursue her goals and dreams, time to center herself. Give her the pajamas, and a whole weekend to do whatever she wants in them.

A YouTube video of loved ones saying “Happy 40th Birthday!”

When I searched the internet for 40th birthday gift ideas for women turning forty, I found several YouTube videos of friends and family members saying “Happy Birthday” to the birthday girl. If you’re technologically inclined, this is a fun and thoughtful 40th birthday gift – especially if you get creative about how you send birthday wishes. For instance, you could tease her with all the possible 40th birthday gifts she might be getting.

A custom-made 40th birthday cake

Hire a cake decorator to bake a beautiful custom cake for her birthday. The one in the picture is an actual edible birthday cake, baked for a woman who loves shoes. The people who bake and decorate cakes are absolutely amazing in their creativity and artistry, and a cake like this will be something a woman never forgets when she celebrates her 40th birthday. For more ideas, search the internet for unique 40th birthday cakes for women turning forty.

Gifts for Women Who Love Technology

Is your birthday girl part of a book club? Many of the women in my book club have a kindle or digital reader, and they love them. Electronic or digital gifts are an extravagant way way to celebrate a big birthday.

A Kindle, digital or e-reader, or an iPad 

Amazon’s newest Kindle Fire in Full Color – loaded with her favorite books – will jolt her out of the doldrums that come with turning 40. If she loves to read, surprise her with a digital reader she wouldn’t buy for herself.

Apple iPad tablet

birthday gift for woman turning fortyIf she hasn’t tried an Apple iPad tablet, think about giving her one as a 40th birthday gift. When I went to a women’s writing conference a couple weeks ago, a woman brought hers — she loved the convenience and flexibility that it offers. I bought myself a Samsung Galaxy Tablet, and I love it. It’s less expensive than an iPad, and almost as good.

Random Gift Ideas for Women Turning Forty

The next few ideas on this list of 40th birthday gift ideas vary from cruises to retro candy…

Encouragement to create a bucket list

Thinking back to one of the best 40th birthday gift ideas for women: does your birthday girl even have a bucket list? The idea comes from Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman’s The Bucket List – which could be a great birthday gift for a woman who feels over the hill. This movie will encourage her to grab life by the horns and life fully and freely — and show her she’s never over the hill. Turning 40 is a new beginning.

A Carnival, Royal Caribbean, or Disney Birthday Cruise

40th birthday cruise giftWhen searching the internet for 40th birthday gift ideas for women, I found this entry on a cruise forum: “I’m a cruise addict…I have only been on 6 cruises so far. When my marriage ended last year, I gave up hope of EVER going on another cruise. Well….just today….approaching the top of the Wild Thing rollercoaster at Valleyfair in Minneapolis…. my boyfriend told me he is taking me on a cruise for my 40th birthday next month. I am SOOOOO excited! Who knew turning 40 could be so wonderful! I pretty much missed the whole rollercoaster ride after he said that because my mind was fixated on the cruise! We are sailing on Carnival Imagination on September 25. I have been on four Carnival cruises before, and I just love them. He has only been on one cruise and that was 20 years ago, but he knows how much I LOVE cruising!”

Can’t you just feel her excitement? She doesn’t feel “over the hill” – she’s thrilled, excited, and happy about turning 40. Can you afford to give your birthday girl a cruise for her 40th birthday?

Retro candy from 40 years ago

40th birthday retro candy gift ideaA box of 40th Birthday Gift Basket Box of Retro Candy is a gift many readers give for fortieth birthdays, as a creative addition to the “real” thoughtful gift idea for her fortieth birthday.

You know what’s really interesting about this list of gifts for women on their fortieth birthdays? The three most popular ideas are:

  • Box of retro candy for 40th birthdays
  • Women’s silk pajamas
  • The diamond sun pendant

Those three most popular birthday gifts are so different! Candy, sleep, and elegance. To find the perfect gift for a woman on her 40th birthday, think about what she most wants in life. Sweets? Sleep? Sunshine? That’s the most thoughtful idea – and only you can give it.

Gift cards to Amazon, Starbucks, etc

One of the best side gift ideas for women turning 40 is an Amazon Gift Card. Gift cards are like stocking stuffers – or icing on the fortieth birthday cake.

Tickets to the Dr Oz show – or Ellen!

I’m blessed with the luxury of working from home, and the only two TV shows I’ll turn on for background company while I write is Judge Marilyn Milian and Dr Oz. I like the judge show better, but get a kick out of the women in the audience of the Dr Oz show! They’re so excited and happy – like the women on the Ellen show, actually. A lot of those women are over forty years old. The best 40th birthday gift ideas are those that take women out of their comfort zone – and give her plane fare to get there.

Made in 1975 birthday t-shirt

40th birthday tshirt gift ideaThe 40th Birthday Gift Made 1975 Original Distressed Ladies T-Shirt is another popular and thoughtful 40th birthday gift idea for women. I like it because it doesn’t advertise her age (most people won’t bother doing the math), yet it’s funny because it says “all original parts.” :-)

Hot flash survival kit for her 4oth birthday

This is the only 40th birthday gift idea for women that I’m not excited about. It’s from Prank Ideas Central:

“For a woman turning 40, hot flashes are a real concern and can strike anytime! So show her you care with a hot flash survival kit as her 40th birthday gag gift. Get a nice box and add useful things like a hand held fan and ice packs to cool down, a small towel or pocket handkerchief to wipe her brow with, a spare shirt and emergency medication (chocolates).” ~ 40th Birthday Gag Gifts for Women. This is one of my least favorite 40th birthday gift ideas for women. I know menopause is a new beginning, but who needs to be reminded of “the change”?

40 small thoughtful gifts for her 40th birthday

Here’s a fun idea from the Gift Ideas Muse: “Giving 40 small gifts is a cool idea! You can do something fun like 40 coupons or a collage of 40 photos… or something really meaningful, like 40 personal letters from their closest friends and family expressing love and appreciation. Get creative and throw in some surprises, like perfume for a woman or sporting event tickets for a guy. If you’re on a budget, bake them 40 cupcakes or cookies!” ~  40th Birthday Gift Ideas from the Gift Ideas Muse. This is one of the best 40th birthday gift ideas for women who like to open lots of presents.

For more ideas, read 20 Birthday Gifts for Women Turning 40 – Plus Retro Ideas.

Gift Baskets for 40th Birthdays

chocolate gift ideas for 40th birthdayIf she loves chocolate, indulge her with an Anthon Berg Dark Chocolate Liqueurs with Original Spirits. This isn’t just any old chocolate – it’s liqueurs in dark chocolate bottles – each with a unique flavor and taste.

The Art of Appreciation Gift Baskets Victorian Lace Tea, Spa and Treats Gift Chest is also thoughtful and elegant. She’ll love going through the gift basket on her 40th birthday, pampering herself.

Even better for a 40th birthday is a gourmet wine and food gift basket. It doesn’t matter what birthday a woman is facing; a gift basket eases the pain every time.

Yoga retreat weekend

If I were turning 40 again, I’d love a yoga retreat. Other women might like to experience zip lining, sky diving, or hot air ballooning as their 40th birthday gift. These are once-in-a-lifetime adventures that can change her perspective on life.

A safari in Africa on her 40th birthday

When my best friend turned 40, her birthday gift to herself was a five week trip to Africa. Now that is a luxurious birthday present! She went to Jamaica for her 50th birthday. A less extravagant 40th birthday gift is a power point presentation of flattering or funny photos of her, paired with beautiful poetry or the lyrics of a song you both love.

Last 3 Thoughtful 40th Birthday Gifts for Women

This is your last chance to find the right birthday gift for your woman’s 40th birthday…

40th gift idea for woman The Sterling Silver Oval-Cut Amethyst with Genuine White Diamonds Bracelet is an elegant gift for a woman who wants to look and feel beautiful (and don’t we all?).

Apple iPad Mini – this would by my first choice, if I was turning 40 again. I’ve never owned an Apple product – except for my iPhone – but I’ve always thought it’d be awesome to get a Mac for work and play. Apple’s iPad has received thousands of awesome reviews on Amazon, and is great gift for women.

A Time Capsule – 40th Birthday Gift – which is a bucket of items and momentos from the year she was born. This is an easy gift that’d be fun to unpack together.

I hope you found something helpful on this list of 40th birthday gifts for women! If you have any suggestions, please comment below….




May you find the most thoughtful and perfect gift for the woman in your life, and may her fortieth birthday be awesome.

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Welcome - I'm glad you're here! I can't give advice, but you're welcome to share your experience below. I'm a writer in Vancouver; my degrees are in Psychology, Education, and Social Work. I live with my husband, two dogs, and cat. We are childless, & have made peace with it. It helps to love Jesus :-)

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5 Responses

  1. Jack says:

    Phenomenal list of 40th birthday gifts for women!
    Thanks for taking the time to put this together. Super helpful.

  2. Tim says:

    Quick point: Dogs should not be gifts of any kind.

    Giving a dog as a gift means a dog is going to someone that may not want or be ready for a dog, and may not be the best fit for that particular dog. The end result is unhappy people, confused dogs, and worst of all, dogs out of homes because it didn’t work out. Of course, if your 40 year old has a good heart they will accept and love the dog no matter what, but that doesn’t mean that’s for the best.

    Instead, If you feel like your 40 year old would like a dog, then a great “side gift” could be to tour shelters and see if the two of you can find a good match. What you lose in spontaneity, you gain in the quality of life for your 40 year old, as well as the dog you rescued. She will have a better relationship for the length of that dog’s life and fonder memories for the rest of hers.

  3. Laurie says:

    Thanks, Abby. I agree that spending time with people you love is a wonderful 40th birthday gift idea for women.

    Another gift is time and help cleaning the house! I would love a year’s worth of housecleaning services, so I could spend my precious time doing other things. Cleaning the house is necessary, but o so full of drudgery. I’d much rather use my time doing other things, which makes housecleaning services one of the best ideas for gifts for forty year old women. In my opinion. :-)

  4. Abby A says:

    I turned forty last year and the best birthday gift was a fine wine gift basket. I love wine but don’t want to spend alot of money on it. I especially love enjoying a glass with a close friends. I didn’t have a big 40th birthday party but I really enjoyed the small dinner with friends. That’s the best 40th birthday gift: spending time with people I love.

  5. Laurie says:

    The key to finding the best 40th birthday gift ideas for women is knowing who she is and what she loves most in life. A cruise isn’t the best gift for someone who hates boat rides! My friend was given a cruise for her birthday, and she’s afraid of water. Her family want her to get over this fear, but I don’t think it’s a great way to celebrate a fortieth birthday.

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