Sep 082011
 

If you’re like most women, you want to be more beautiful. I bet you never knew that being a beautiful woman isn’t about how you look, it’s about how you act!

These tips are about increasing your beauty from the inside out – because being a beautiful woman is about more than your weight, size, and shape. How you make people feel changes how they see you, how beautiful you are as a woman.

Here’s a cool fact about beauty – which I bet you never knew!

“You are 20% more beautiful to other people than yourself – the woman you see in the mirror every morning,” says Eva Ritvo, MD, co-author of The Beauty Prescription: The Complete Formula for Looking and Feeling Beautiful. “Why?  Because when you look at your reflection, all you see is your physical form, and all you’re doing is looking for flaws.  But when others see you, they also take in your personality, style, intelligence, sex appeal wit…the entire you.”

If you want to be a more beautiful woman, remember that people see you differently than you see yourself. To learn more about beauty – and how to look your best – read Beauty Confidential: The No Preaching, No Lies, Advice-You’ll- Actually-Use Guide to Looking Your Best.

And here are a few facts about beauty I bet you never knew…

8 Things You Never Knew About Being a Beautiful Woman

Your charm matters more than your size and shape

“Charm…it’s sort of a bloom on a woman. If you have it, you don’t need anything else,” says J.M. Barrie. “If you don’t have it, it doesn’t much matter what else you have.”

How you act and treat people affects your appearance far more than what you actually look like. Who you are and how you make people feel can change how they see you. You become more or less beautiful based on your own behavior.

Feeling better about who you are can motivate you to make big changes

“A better self-image doesn’t pay the rent or cook supper or prevent nuclear war. Feeling better about ourselves doesn’t change the world by itself, but it can give us energy to do what we want and work for change.” – From Our Bodies, Ourselves for the New Century.

The more beautiful you feel – regardless of how the world perceives you – the more energy and vitality you’ll have. And this, my friend, makes you more beautiful. Having energy to make changes in your life will make you happier, which will make you a more beautiful woman.

Your personality changes how beautiful you look

“It’s beauty that captures your attention; personality which captures your heart.” – Unknown.

This “thing you never knew about beauty” is backed by scientific research: the kinder, more compassionate, and more reliable you are, the more attractive you’re perceived to be. To enhance your self-confidence, remember that who you are is more important than what you look like.

Being a beautiful woman has little to do with your body shape and size

“Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical,” says Sophia Loren.

She was one of the most beautiful women in history – and her beauty secret stemmed from the fact that that true appeal comes from how you feel on the inside - not what you look like on the outside. That’s what beauty from the inside out is all about.

Your imperfections make you more beautiful

“Some beautiful things are more impressive when left imperfect than when too highly finished,” says La Rochefoucauld.

Your flaws and weaknesses can make you more beautiful! When I studied psychology, I learned that people who make mistakes are more likeable than those who appear perfect. You can’t connect with perfect…but you like and love people who are real. That’s one thing I never knew about being a beautiful woman until I was in my forties.

Trying to be perfect will drive you crazy

“Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy of the people,” says Anne Lamott. “It will keep you insane your whole life.”

I think Lamott was referring to writing here, but it’s a beauty tip, too! You’ll never look perfect - so stop comparing yourself to the perfect bodies in women’s magazines.

Beauty isn’t about your skin, hair, or nails

“People are like stained-glass windows,” says psychologist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. “They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.”

How you act when you’re overwhelmed with frustration, stress, and anger makes you more – or less- beautiful than wearing all the makeup or cosmetic surgery in the world.

Quiet self-confidence makes you a more beautiful woman

” ‘Glamour’ is assurance. It is a kind of knowing that you are all right in every way, mentally and physically and in appearance and that, whatever the occasion or situation, you are equal to it,” said Marlene Dietrich. This beauty tips is from one of the most beautiful women in history – and it proves that self-confidence makes you more beautiful than perfect skin or a slim figure.

If you feel like beauty will never be yours, read How to Feel Beautiful No Matter What You Look Like.

What do you think makes a woman beautiful? Comments welcome below…

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quips tips love relationshipsI'm glad you're here! My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; my husband Bruce and I live in Vancouver, BC with our critters. We can't have kids, and are learning to accept whatever life brings - both good and bad. I have an MSW (Master of Social Work) from UBC, and degrees in Education and Psychology. I hope you say hello below - I can't give relationship advice, but writing can bring you clarity and insight.

  One Response to “8 Things You Never Knew About Being a Beautiful Woman”

  1. What do you do once you’ve gotten to the point that you believe you’re beautiful? Like – I have been working on my self esteem, and I’m noticing now that men are constantly flirting with me. I’m happily married, but I enjoy being perceived as beautiful. I am uncomfortable though, because I’m not sure if I should flirt back, or ignore them. It is especially awkward for me because I am an actress by profession, and I’m often back stage with people – and the relationships and boundaries people have in the arts are so much more blurred than in regular jobs (I used to have a day job, and I’ve noticed a BIG difference since I’ve switched to full time performing that people are much more familiar with one another). I appreciate that they notice I’m pretty, and Some people say I’m naturally flirtatious. While this might be true, I’m actually more confused about how I should behave, and how I should feel about my own beauty. I don’t mean to sound full of myself. Just feeling awkward.

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