If your introverted personality is causing problems at work or home, you need to learn what the problem trait is. Then, you can decide if you need to “fix” it or accept yourself the way you are.
Before the tips, a quip:
“I’m an introvert at heart,” said Hollywood movie star Roy Rogers. “And show business – even though I’ve loved it so much – has always been hard for me.”
It is possible to have introverted personality characteristics and be wildly successful in show business (a career you’d think extroverts are more drawn to, but many famous movie stars are introverts). But, balancing the publicity and networking skills required for success can take a toll on introverts, no matter what their career is! To learn more about being happy as an introvert, read The Happy Introvert: A Wild and Crazy Guide for Celebrating Your True Self.
And, here are tips that reveal when certain personality traits are causing problems for introverts…
One of my readers asked, “Is there a clear point where introversion becomes a mental health issue?” on Networking Tips for Introverted People – From Meetings to Marketing.
Yes, my friend, there IS a point when personality traits can cause emotional and social problems for introverts. But there’s rarely one specific, definite point in which introversion becomes problematic. Most life problems (and mental health issues) develop slowly over time.
Introvert Problems – When Your Personality Makes You Unhappy
Any personality type or habit can make you unhappy by causing problems at work or in your relationships — whether you’re introverted or extroverted. So, how do you recognize when your introverted personality traits are becoming an emotional or mental health issue?
Introverts are unhappy when…
They spend little or no time with others. It’s scientifically proven that support networks of friends, peers, and family makes all people (whether introverts and extroverts) physically and emotionally healthier. Connecting with other people improves the quality of your life and increases your longevity. If you’re not spending time with others – which means making a real-life connection (not over email or forums) – at least twice a week, then your introverted traits can turn into a mental or emotional health issue.
If being with people makes you nervous, read How to Make Conversation – Tips for Introverts.
They don’t take care of their personal hygiene. I’m an introverted full-time freelance writer and blogger who rarely leaves the house; I have to admit that hygiene isn’t high on my list of priorities! Luckily, I’m married and still care what my husband thinks, so I fix my hair, brush my teeth, and wash my face before he comes home from work. But, if he wasn’t here every day, I know I’d be less clean. Introverted personality traits cause problems when introverts don’t take regular showers, brush their teeth, or wear clean clothes.
They feel unbalanced or emotionally unhealthy. When I spend too much time alone or too much time with other people, I feel unbalanced, unhealthy, and, frankly, a little wacked out. My reader asked the question about when introversion can become a mental health issue — and mentioned feeling “schizo” and considering seeing a counselor. Fellow introverts, listen to the emotional and physical signals your body is sending you! Don’t wait until your friends and relatives are forced to do an intervention. If you feel unbalanced, unstable, or emotionally unhealthy, get thee to a counselor, doctor, or trusted friend or family member.
Other people are worried, and comment on the fact that your personality is causing problems. If your friends or family members are excessively commenting on or worried about your introverted personality traits, then you need to think about their concerns. I’m not saying you need to listen to them – introverts aren’t always understood by extroverts or people in the middle of the introvert/extrovert spectrum – but I do think you need to at least consider why they’re worried. If you’re unsure, take their concerns to a trusted third party for objective feedback. Are you spending too much time alone?
If you don’t know if you’re an introvert, take this Test for Introverted Personality Traits.
Are you an introvert who struggles at work? Read Best Jobs for People Who Like to Be Alone…Introverts!
Do you have any thoughts on introverted personality traits creating problems at work or home? Please share your comments below…
I'm glad you're here! My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; my husband Bruce and I live in Vancouver, BC with our critters. We can't have kids, and are learning to accept whatever life brings - both good and bad. I have an MSW (Master of Social Work) from UBC, and degrees in Education and Psychology. I hope you say hello below - I can't give relationship advice, but writing can bring you clarity and insight.