Comments on: Is Your Relationship Unhealthy? 7 Signs of Problems in Love

By: joy

joy — Thu, 24 May 2012 01:39:02 +0000

Hi. My love for my soon to be ex husband had me at hello! But; now seven yrs later, and yrs of on and off serious meth use on his part has left me loveless. To give and or receive. The damage ti my soul is incomprihensible. To anyone with a relationship with a meth addict, please get away from the person before you get put thru a human shredder that my ideal true love did me. The cycles of insanity never stop. It is the holocaust of evil for the non user( me). There is no answer but that I loved an unemotionally unavailable person who turned all around on me blaming me for the break up when tje only single issue is meth use and sales on his part. Love can never exist around anyone on meth. I will never trust and love the way I began our relationship. And I will resolve to just live lonely, until my replenishment is complete. I am not optimistic, but I see others do have love in their lives. But I am drained of any hope for any love again. I feel like I was forced to do heart surgery on myself without anisythic
. With the world watching for complete humiliation for the continual loyalty I kept giving my ex, THE. BLACK WHoLE. Love is way too blinding to me that I am so not going to put myself in any position like that again. Now/ my ex has made a pimp out of his life and his drug sales, I can’t get proof to. Convence judge not to alliw visitation. Judge doesn’t care that he was arrested three times in last seven months. I am still worried even tho I am out of the relationship
I am still abused by his lousy parenting to my daughter
Do not take any chances people with drug addicts…………
They are monster zombie liars and cheaters to the max. Peace to your life keep it simple. And clean. Joy

By: Anita

Anita — Tue, 22 May 2012 20:32:23 +0000

Ive been in a relationship right now for 6 year I know im not completely happy but his a great man the love isn’t there any more I just don’t know how to get out every time I try to leave I cant I start crying as if it hurts to leave but when im home is as if were not together

By: Stevie

Stevie — Mon, 14 May 2012 18:53:27 +0000

I was in a relationship for 4yrs. He was everything I had dreamed of in a true loving relationship at least until i started finding text, emails and other messages to different women. He left me for a much younger girl and went as far as moving her in with him weeks after dating. Didnt last but a month and he realized it was not what he wanted. He came back and apologized. I tried trusting him but his lies even the smallest made it hard to. He wld call all day and visit me at work 5x a day. Flowers weekly and food all day to make sure i didnt have to leave work. I loved how he looked out for me but was he? We did everything together and loved being together all the time. So why wld things get bad? When he wld get mad he wld call me awful things and later apologized for it. I wanted to spend my life with him but he made it impossible with his actions. He wld keep me up all night on the phone arguing or wld not let me sleep when together cuz he wanted to settle an argument. I loved him so much and still do but when it started getting physical i thought it wld be only one time. He wld break my things and try to fix it or buy me another. He seemed like the perfect man and seemed like it to many but only i knew the person hed become when alone. why if we loved each other so much things got so bad.

By: Ramone

Ramone — Wed, 09 May 2012 03:12:23 +0000

The best way to control addiction to other people is to really and truly enjoy your own company. You need to be able to sit at home alone reading a book, watching TV, or walking by yourself thinking; at least for a couple hours a week. You need to have time for self-reflection because in the end your addiction to another person has to do with your insecurities about yourself. If that person ever leaves, how will you live with just you!

Very good write-up. I’ve never read the book but it seems very informative from a practical POV.

By: Devin

Devin — Thu, 26 Apr 2012 15:28:42 +0000

“Social isolation – your relationship is almost a secret”

This one is huge for me. I actually dated a girl for almost a year and kept her hush-hush the whole time. It finally tore our relationship a part. The reason I didn’t tell anyone? I didn’t know how to let my friends know I was dating a girl with a daughter. Terrible idea, I still feel bad about it.

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Tue, 27 Sep 2011 22:27:03 +0000

Dear Marjorie,

Thanks for your comments. Some people stay in unhealthy relationships because they’re scared of never being loved again, of never finding anyone else who will want them. That’s why I stayed with a loser for months (I would’ve stayed with him for years if he hadn’t dumped me). I just wanted to be in a relationship, so I overlooked and ignored our worst problems.

By: Marjorie

Marjorie — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 20:16:08 +0000

I think a huge reason a lot of people stay in unhealthy relationships is because they don’t really know any different. I tell everyone I know that starts saying “You just haven’t found the right one” or “He’s out there, you just have to find him” that the only people that, in my opinion, stay together anymore are the people who have been together since they were young & don’t know any different. I also think that if you grow up in an unhealthy environment, you are more apt to be in unhealthy adult relationships. Great post! Very interesting.

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Tue, 05 Apr 2011 22:41:35 +0000

Maybe the biggest sign of an unhealthy relationship is that you’re unhappy. Maybe these are the REASONS your relationship is unhealthy…but the sign is unhappiness.

By: helena mbiine

helena mbiine — Sat, 19 Mar 2011 06:37:17 +0000

It hapened to and i felt like i have to postipone every time ihave to tell him its over i would not. love was a routine indeed eat, pray and love. i hated it.

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Fri, 21 Jan 2011 18:28:59 +0000

Thanks for your insights, fitness girl! I think women in ALL cultures sometimes overlook love and man problems because they want to stay in the relationship….even if it’s an unhealthy relationship.

Sometimes the pain of what you know is better than the pain of change, or of loss.