Romance Tips – Easy Ways to Show Your Love

Written by on November 23, 2009 in Dating Tips, Love & Relationships, Marriage Tips with 19 Comments

My husband found an easy, effective way to show his love for me; it melts my heart every time!

It’s the first on my list of romance tips – they work for sweethearts who want to say “I love you” to new boyfriends or girlfriends, or for spouses who’ve been married for years.

Before the tips, a quip:

“I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you,” says poet Elizabeth Barrett Browning. “I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out.”



An easy way to show your love is to write the above quotation on a piece of paper, and slip it into your spouse’s pocket, purse, lunch, or briefcase. Just a little bit of poetry and a note to say “I love you” can work magic in the romance department! For more love advice, click 1001 Ways to Be Romantic: Now Completely Revised and More Romantic Than Ever. And, read on for more easy, effective ways to show your love….

Romance Tips – Easy Ways to Show Your Love

E-mail your spouse photos of your last vacation together. Every month or so, my husband sends me a different photo of me and him on vacation, and I love it! The photos remind me of our travels – Italy, Israel, Turkey, Austria – and show me that he’s thinking of me when he’s at work. It’s easy and effective way to say “I love you”; just paste or upload a photo in the body of an e-mail, say a few words about the trip or what you love about your partner, and hit “send.” Voila! For more tips on being a great husband to your wife, read How to Be a Good Husband.

Remember Rumi’s “Let there be spaces in your togetherness.” It’s important and healthy to have your own life, separate from your boyfriend or girlfriend. Give your partner space to pursue his or her own interests, and take that time to do what you love. For instance, I volunteer at our local library every Saturday afternoon, in part to give my husband time to be home alone. That’s one way I show my love, by giving space and room to breathe.

Ask questions about the “little” things. The more connected women feel to their men, the more loving and intimate they’ll be. One romance tip to increase intimacy is to ask about your girlfriend or wife’s day – but take it a step further! Follow up on something specific that’s been happening in her office or job, or with her health. Ask how her mom is doing, or how her new exercise routine is going. Be curious about the little things in her (or his) life.

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Please go to 7 Practical Ways to be Romantic to continue reading!

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  1. Lisa says:

    Thanks for these romance tips! I didn’t have to go to your other article because I found what I was looking for right here, the easiest way to show my love.

  2. fitness girl says:

    I appreciate if my partner do something from me,,i can feel that he care for me in a little way like..sharing happy moments is a must in every relationship its the foundation of strong and longer relationship.

  3. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Thanks for your romance tips — I appreciate them!

  4. Natalie says:

    Keeping romance alive is a must. Very often we forget to do this and fall into our safety nets. Then it is not till one partner strays that we start to panic.

  5. Josh Johnson says:

    Ladies who do you let check the oil and water in your car for you and why? How often do your husband or boyfriend check it for you? How often is a sign they really do love you.

  6. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    My husband always checks the oil in my car, and I think it’s a great way to show your love! It’s practical, and it shows he’s taking care of me. I’d rather have that than flowers, chocolates, or jewelry.

  7. Josh Johnson says:

    How many wives let their husbands check the oil in their car for them and why? How often do they check it for you?

  8. monica msteven says:

    Romance is the deep affection that is constantly shown by a lover to their partner. To keep this love in their relationship, we must seek the best advice romance and employ them. The best online dating romance tips can be found in many places.

  9. lifestyle says:

    To cultivate kindness is a valuable part of the business of life.

  10. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Stephen,

    Those are lovely — and loving! — things to do for your wife. I’m sure she feels loved…

    If my husband and I lived in a colder winter climate, I know I’d find those actions romantic :-)

    Laurie

  11. Stephen says:

    I show my wife I love her by starting her car and scraping it off in the winter. And, I always make sure the tank is full, so she doesn’t have to get gas.

  12. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Yes, Joy, I’ve read about love languages — my husband and I took the Love Languages test before we got married! We both still refer to it today, and regularly talk about how we love to be loved.

    Thanks for your tips and information — your Joy of Romance company sounds great! And what a clever title, with the play on words :-)

  13. Joy Nordenstrom says:

    Great post Laurie!

    Making sure you know your partner’s love language can also be a wonderful and effective way to fill up your partner’s love quotient. critical for couples to understand when they move from the attraction phase of love to the comfort zone of the attachment phase. In my company, Joy of Romance, Inc., I teach them in almost all of my classes. The five love languages are 1) Acts of Service, 2) Quality Time, 3) Words of Affirmation, 4) Physical Touch and 5) Gifts. In the beginning of a relationship you naturally give love in all of these ways but once you have passed the point of being chemically addicted to your partner and move into your comfort zone, you primarily give love the way you were given love as a kid. If this doesn’t match your partner’s way of receiving love, your efforts could be lost on them and they might not feel the love you are giving them. Make sure you know their love language and they know yours for a thriving and passionate relationship. Create your own special love rituals for one another that highlights your particular love language!

    Joy Nordenstrom
    Joy of Romance, Inc.
    Twitter: @joyofromance
    FB Fan Page: Joy of Romance

  14. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Thanks for dropping in, Stu!

    Are you being sarcastic? That is, did you really think your wife loved doing the laundry? Because my husband thought his mom liked doing housework. I think he assumed that because she did it all the time, she must like it! He was seriously surprised to find out that she’d rather be reading, or gardening, or just relaxing with a cup of coffee…

    Anyway, I’m glad you show your wife you love her by vacuuming :-)

  15. Stu Gray says:

    Hey Laurie! I just found this site connected to your Quips and Tips for Writers blog!

    On your point about ‘Doing the dishes or other chores’…nobody likes to do ‘chores’ – this was news to me – I thought my wife loved doing the laundry! I don’t’ like vacuuming…but, if our floors get gross, I take out the vacuum and give it a go… because it is more important to me, in that moment, than it is to my wife…

    In the process, it shows her love because I have cared enough to vacuum without any prompting! Bonus!

  16. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Thanks for your comments! Those little things – even just doing a load of laundry or reaching out for a hug and snuggle on a busy day – make a huge difference in relationships.

    Another way to show your love, which I forgot to include, is saying THANK YOU. I always try and thank my husband when he does things for me, even if he does them all the time. And, I love when he thanks me for cooking dinner or baking cookies because it makes me feel appreciated and loved.

  17. Gini Grey says:

    These are great Laurie! I love the idea of putting the quote in your partner’s lunch, briefcase etc. I did that years ago by writing short “I love you” notes on heart shaped peices of paper and left them in places my hubby would find. I don’t think it meant that much to him though – was more of what I’d like to receive, so one day he wrote me a love letter, telling me everything he loved and liked about me – I cherish that. I’ve since had to find out what he views as expressions of love and do those things for him (he loves it when I make him home made soups or pizza).

    Thanks,

    Gini

  18. Sam K. says:

    One way to show your love is to be appreciative of everything your partner does around the house. When my boyfriend comes over, he does things for my car like oil changes, checking tire pressure, sometimes even cleaning the interior. This shows me he loves me and gets us romantic :-)

  19. Heiddi says:

    Hi Laurie, this is a great list. One thing that is romantic is if your loved one gave you something you really enjoyed even if he or she thinks its weird. For example, getting you a gift card to Barnes & Noble when you love reading books. Something like that. Or coffee to start of your writing day. :)

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